2006-11-03 13:55:17 · 19 answers · asked by Dena 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Ask him where this is going. Just because you have a child with him does not attach you indefinately to someone who doesn't want you completely. If he has a hard time answering you, maybe you need to consider if you'd be better off without him.
2006-11-03 13:57:17 · answer #1 · answered by Jennalove311 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
He's already committed. You have a house together and a child together. Marriage will not keep him from leaving you or cheating on you - it's just a legal form and won't change your relationship. If you have a strong relationship, he's a good father, and you're happy... then what does it matter?
If the sanctity of marriage is what you're worried about, then you probably should have done that BEFORE having a child and purchasing a house together. I'm not trying to tell you that you should have gotten married or anything, but if that's the most important thing to you, above the home you share, the child you have and how he treats you & your child... then that should have been your priority in the order of things that have happened in your life.
2006-11-03 20:02:32 · answer #2 · answered by readysteadystop 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope your name is not on that house. I do not mean this in a rude way, but why would you buy a house with a guy who won't commit or even put a ring on your finger? Have you ever heard the saying "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?" I say this in a harsh way because I've been where you are. I left him... it was hard, but looking back definitely worth it!! I say worth it because, about 2 years later, I met the best guy in the world who proposed in 6 months with NO PRESSURE! Live and learn from this. Run and go on with your life. Maybe it will make him wake up... but be prepared if it doesn't. It's ok... tell yourself "you are not porcelain, you will not break. Time will make you ok... and you will be ok." I vote dump him.
2006-11-04 15:58:47 · answer #3 · answered by Sue A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will commit when and if he is ready. If you push the issue too much, he will never be ready. I've been married for almost 8 months now and that piece of paper can, at times, make things tougher than they should be. People have this mentality that being married = ownership. If the two of you are in a loving, monogamous relationship, why fix what's not broken? If you are concerned that he's not so monogamous, do you really think you should marry him?
2006-11-03 14:25:24 · answer #4 · answered by butrfly1978 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Are you really ready to face the reality of this, Dena? You know the answer already. He isn't going to commit and you can keep popping babies until he decides to walk. If you have a different future in mind for you and your child/children, start planning it now. If you don't already have an education in a field that will let you support yourself, get that education/training now. Education/training, job/profession, move out and on. It will take awhile, but it will be time well spent. I wish you the very best future.
2006-11-03 14:15:10 · answer #5 · answered by lollipop 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You probably should have talked about marriage before getting a house and having a child together. It's possible that he is commited and simply doesn't believe in the legalities of marriage. That's fine. Sounds good anyways. Why do you want to get married? Are you insecure in this relationship and think that marriage will make it bettter? It won't. Nothing will change when you get married.
2006-11-03 15:18:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Deal with it or leave.Marriage should of been the first thing you done before you took up house with him and a baby.Honestly this is all your fault why you are not married.He has no reason to marry you now.But then again it`s a little hard to give a answer because you have not said what reason he has told you why he wont marry you.I could not live like that and you shouldn`t either......................................I just came back to see the replys this person got and noticed I have 3 thumbs down.LMAO.So I guess Im wrong.I thought people who wants a stable life will wait a few years for marriage then after marriage they wait for awhile to see if they can live in the same house as one then they decide if its time for kids.(hits myself on the head) Oh yeah this is 2006.You are suppose to have sex with someone then get a house together because you are pregnant and live 1-2 years in misery then kick the man out then cry for child support.I will make a mental note of this.Im happily married with kids.Damn I done something wrong I guess.
2006-11-03 14:11:38 · answer #7 · answered by darlene100568 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Well, the one thing that I learned about men... they don't like to be rushed into ANYTHING. I would mention it once about getting married then I would leave it alone. He knows you want to get married. Just let things chill for a while. You have a baby and a house maybe he thinks you don't want to get married becaue you two have gotten comfortable. Did you try asking him? What have you got to lose.
2006-11-03 14:08:54 · answer #8 · answered by satindollphoto 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you should have had him commit to you before the two of you commit to a child and a house.
2006-11-04 00:55:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He can still be a parent to your child without being your boyfriend. Part ways, make him pay child support and get on with finding someone who gives you the respect you deserve. At this point, you have alot in common and share a roof. He has no respect for what you value--and that's not your fault. It's his.
2006-11-03 14:46:39 · answer #10 · answered by ally 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋