I think my mom is dating someone.Is she?

Question

Her and my dad broke up when I was 5.She let him see my brother and I Fridays and Saturdays.Eventually she got a restraining order because he would get mad if she even talked to another guy.I was always my dad's favorite.He always treated me like a princess.

Now I'm 12 and she has,for the past 7 years been teasing me about seeing other guys.I don't want her to.I want my dad no other dad.Lately this guy has been calling the house a lot and she won't tell me anything about him.She doesn't want me to know anything.She tells my brother though.He is 17.My mom got really mad at me when I asked him for his name, because sometimes I think it is that guy,but it's a tellmarketor.Do you think he is her boyfriend?

Her and my dad broke up when I was 5.She let him see my brother and I Fridays and Saturdays.Eventually she got a restraining order because he would get mad if she even talked to another guy.I was always my dad's favorite.He always treated me like a princess.

Now I'm 12 and she has,for the past 7 years been teasing me about her "seeing" other guys.I don't want her to,but I want her to be happy.I want my dad no other dad.Lately this guy has been calling the house a lot and she won't tell me anything about him.She doesn't want me to know anything.She tells my brother though.He is 17.My mom got really mad at me when I asked him for his name, because sometimes I think it is that guy,but it's a tellmarketor.Do you think he is her boyfriend?

Sorry for repeating the story.That was by accident.But the new one is revised so read the "additional details" one.Oh and my dad is not happy he is depressed.

Answer 1

you are being selfish...she has a right to be happy..she is human..just because she dates someone does not equal someone replacing your dad..no man could ever do that..so you need to think about someone other than yourself..

Answer 2

The reason your mom probably doesn't want to tell you about every man that walks into her life is that you don't need to know about every man that she dates (because 99.9999% of those dates will be losers or not the right guy for her and her family). I think she's looking out for your best interest. When she meets that "right guy" I'm sure she'll fill you in on it, she needs to see that her new guy and her kids can get along.

I know at your age it's hard for you to see your mom with "another guy" and that this might be one of the hardest things for you to accept!! But, your mom and dad obviously have their differences and they can't be together so now it's time for both of them to move on and see other people. It will make them happy, don't you want them to be happy? When you and your brother move out and start your own families, don't you think it will be easier to see your mom happy with a man? It's been 7 years that your parents have been apart, they most likely will never get back together. Your dad will always be your dad even if she does have another boyfriend or husband.

Wishing you blessings, luck, and happiness!!

Answer 3

sweetie, I know your 12.. not a baby and not a grown up yet. If your parents have been split for 7 years chances are very good that they will not get back together. Sounds like she is trying to protect your feelings though.

You love your dad and your mom and that is ok... Even if your mom marries some other guy he will not replace your dad but may be another adult that you can count on. Give your mom a break, she is doing her best for you and your brother, but she too needs a life. If you dad really does get extremely upset when mom chats with a guy he is not the one that your mom needs. Even in a happy marriage the parents have friends of the opposite sex and it is OK.

Answer 4

I just would like to say the thing that answered that to a 12 year old girl should get the chair. I am sorry that people cant control themselves when it comes to a young lady. Honey, your mother needs a life as you do. Don't you think she deserves to be happy?The reason you don't get the low down on things is right now you aren't thinking about what is good for her. Yes all kids whose parents go through a divorce are devastated, misplaced and really don't understand . You said yourself that your dad gets mad if she sees someone else.It had to be bad foe your mom to get that order. People cant treat people like that.So you need to think that she cant tell you because you only want your dad and she only wants happiness and comfort in her life as well as you and your brother to be taken care of.She wants you to be a part of it but at the same time she needs the space to make sure he is the right one kind of sort of. You know ... Like you really got to know someone really good before you open your door to them Huh? well threes steps Don't feel bad at your mom shes alright, Just be there and try to understand her position . God Bless you

Answer 5

Your mom is a human being and she deserves to be in a happy relationship just like anyone else.

I know it's hard not having a family with mom and dad together, but you have to understand that sometimes two people just don't get along well and don't love each other any more.

No matter who your mom is with, you will always have you dad.

To asnwer your question, yes, I think she may be dating someone.

Answer 6

You don't have the right to say whether she can or can't date. And unfortunately it did not work out between your parents, but that doesn't mean they are not entitled to happiness in life. Adults need companionship, friendship, and love from more than just family. I certainly hope you're not planning to wind up and have a fit and be difficult about it, because that is not fair to her.

Sounds like she's being very careful and is not ready for a new person in her life to meet her kids. That means she's being considerate of you. You owe her the same courtesy.

Answer 7

well I wouldn't jump to any conclusions, cause you don't have any facts; just theory's.
Also, I know this maybe hard for you to hear but even if she is dating him there's not much you can do about it,its out of your control.
Besides, don't you think she deserve the right to be happy?
I know it sucks that your parents aren't together but there not much you can do about that.
Just be supportive of your mom.
If she is dating this guy she probably doesn't want to tell you cause she knows that you will get hurt.
Don't put her through that.
And if and when she decides to tell you about him and wants you to meet him then you should show respect towards him. You don't half to like any guys she dates or anything but just be nice.

I'm not saying that she is or isn't dating this guy that you speak of. Cause in all honesty, I really don't know?
But in any case, good luck to you!

Answer 8

Well if it is her boyfreind she has every right in the world to have one. Your mom deserves to be happy dont you think?? Shes an adult and shouldnt have to answer to her kids. Just because shes seeig someone doesnt mean your dad wont be there for you anymore. He will always be your dad no matter whos in your moms life. You should just be happy that your mom is finally happy. When she thinks you are ready to know about him then she will tell you.

Answer 9

You have no business deciding if your Mom can date or not. This is her life. How would you like it if she told you that you could never date. There is a reason that your Mom and Dad are not together, and that is between them, also. You will have to realize that they are not going to get back together, but that no other man will be your father.

Answer 10

Your mom needs to have a life too. As much as you want it, they're probably not going to get back together. That doesn't mean they both don't love you though. They just aren't meant to be together. Love them both, and let them both get on with their lives. You'll understand it better when you're a bit older.

Answer 11

it could be or not, i know you want to be with your dad,but sometimes in this thing we call life people just cant live together,its sad but it happens,your is entitled to a life,same as your dad.i know its hard but your gonna just have to know your mom will do what she wants. she doesnt wanna make you mad,she loves you honey but she has to have a life too. i hope als well that ends well for you.