i'm super depressed, why can i not get help?

Question

Im being serious.. I am totally depressed, I know i should get help but i just cant. I dont know why..I even have health insurance but i just cant get the nerve. When i drink, i get pissed at myself but the next day i dont have the nerve.. any suggestions?

Answer 1

I know your pain so much. I live it. Trust me. It's really hard to make that first step. It took me several years. I went to a counselor, but she didn't help at all. So now I'm going to sit here and wait a whole month to see a psychiatrist. I don't feel like a person anymore, just a lifeless being. Please, get help. You know you need it as much as I know I need it.

Answer 2

Basically, you should keep a Success Journal.
Keep track of your successes and things that you like about yourself...even the littlest things.

So many people feel depressed and move mindlessly through these emotions. Try and figure out the source of your depression. Is it a fear-based conclusion? Release your concerns.

It is very important not to put yourself down!!! Release any guilt that you have about this or that...release negative thoughts.

Your self-talk is very important. Tell yourself positive affirmations every day...things like, "I am happy. I am perfectly content with every thing that I have. The universe has supplied all of my needs." I recommend that you listen to www.hayhouseradio.com, Radio for Your Soul.


Also, make sure you are taking your vitamins and minerals.
You could very easily be deficient in magnesium....or some other important mineral. I find that taking 250 mg of magnesium citrate every day keeps me from getting depressed in a very good mineral supplement (NOW brand).

Get some exercise!! Get some sunshine!! Vitamin D from the sun is very helpful in staving off depression. Also, you can buy something called 5-HTTP at your local health food store which has no side effects and works well for depression. It also helps you control your blood sugar.

You could be dealing with a yeast overload in your digestive system...which is why you find yourself reaching for the alcohol.
You may want to read The Yeast Syndrome by John Parks Trowbridge, M.D. and Morton Walker, D.P.M. You may want to work on your digestive system.

Make sure that you are eating LOTS and LOTS of fresh, dark green leafy vegetables every day. You will be AMAZED how much better you will feel!!! : )

Whatever you do, don't get a drug prescription to try and fix your depression. These drugs have so many side effects and so often times are just band-aid solutions. They really aren't necessary.

If you have a situation that you are feeling depressed about, meditate about it and send out LOVE toward that situation or that person that is causing you to feel depressed. Do it before you fall asleep at night. If you keep doing this, you will find that your energy and the situation will change in a positive way.

Good luck!!! : ) I'm rooting for you!

Answer 3

Been there, done that. I know it is hard but just get your nerve up and call your family doctor for an appointment. Start there. it is not as intimidating as a psychiatrist or psychologist. I would be dead now if I had not found the courage to finally seek help. If you can't even make the phone call, get someone else to do it for you and even go with you to the appointment. A little hand-holding from a trusted friend or relative goes a long way. You are not alone!

Answer 4

When a person is depressed, every action takes an extreme amount of effort. Depression can be debilitating. Do you have a friend or family member who you can confide in? If so I recommend being honest with your friend/family member and tell them exactly how you feel. Tell them you think you need help. There's no shame in needing people sometimes and amazingly enough, people do want to help!! Look at all the people on this board answering questions!! A friend can help you look for a doctor or therapist and then it won't be so cumbersome for you to have to face on your own. Also, start keeping a log and track your moods. You may start to see a pattern which can be helpful for a doctor or therapist.

All I can say to you is that it became so much easier for me when I talked to my friend about it. She was able to give me the extra strength and support I needed to go and seek help. Without her I couldn't have done it. Good luck and take care.

Answer 5

Depression is a double-whammy, isn't it? The depression itself is bad enough; but its symptoms include hopelessless, inactivity, and a lack of incentive to do anything - which makes it difficult to even be motivated to get the help you need!

You took a good first step by just posting your question! Hopefully the feedback from others will help.

Ultimately, it will be necessary to eventually see a counselor / psychiatrist. But until then, try to keep active. Get exercise if you can, and eat properly. I'm sure there are numerous online resources and web sites that can help. If you can find someone to talk to in person, excellent! But please realize that you are not alone, help is available, and people who care can really help.

I wish you well. Keep us posted.

Answer 6

I have been there but I was able to struggle on until I became severely depressed and neurosis gave way to psychosis. This was not all that bad because the pain went away but so did reality and I was unable to commit suicide. There is an insult unto death. Now I spend my time reaching out to those who are severely depressed to give them my twelve step cure for depression . After you accept that you are an outcast you need to find a safe place and one new friend who knows none of your friends and family. You need an honest opinion for your words and deeds not a preplanned reaction to your old ways. Cheers Yes I will help more if you need it.

Answer 7

Man, getting pissed is so bad for you. Then you start thinking things that aren't real or true.

Read up on accessing the help you need through articles. Insurance is your benefit, like a good friend when you least expect it.

You know what is the best of best that I find. Reading alot of books. Fiction is awesome. Take you mind away for hours with a good book. I am not a reader, but when I find a book, it releives the war in my head.

Answer 8

I completely understand what you are going through. The thing to do (at least it helped me) is to plan out what you will say to a doctor before you make the appointment. You can even write it down ahead of time. Make the appointment and then you can will have time to revise or add to what you want to say. It is a really big step, but please try to do it. Not being able to make the appointment is part of the depression. Don't wait and get into the shape that I did. Please try and get help now.

I started out with my family doctor (whom I had not seen in two years). It turned out great, he was very understanding and was willing to work with me.

Good luck to you. Please make that appointment.

Answer 9

I have the same problem, I've been to therapy before (a long time ago) and I am just too lazy to make the move again. I always tell myself "I'll go to a therapist, I'll go to a therapist" but I never do.....I will just have to force myself to go, and so should you, I know it's difficult but we have to do what will help us. god bless and take care.

Answer 10

You know how sometimes you have to drag yourself to the shower? work? the table to eat dinner? out of bed? Use that same whatever to get to the doctor, you will not regret it, if you are truthful to him how you feel and how much EFFORT it takes to do anything. He will know how to help you, what to give you and ask why your family are not involved. Ask for help, ask for support from your love ones, please, now before it is too late.