I have a friend who has been with her boyfriend for about 5 years. We all know each other, and her boyfriend is a great guy. My friend "michelle" has been cheating on him for years( with many different men) and seems to have absolutely no guilt. Should I tell her boyfriend? I really don't want to get into their relationship, but I feel he should know.
2006-11-03 12:51:06 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't say anything.
At best you will break them up, at worst you will break them up and lose two friends.
2006-11-03 12:52:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
oh boy, this is complicated! Are you more friends with Michelle or her boyfriend? Sounds like both. It IS hard to watch her cheat for this length of time.. wow. You have any idea why she is like this, I mean not having guilt over it..? Did she ever say this fellow like wanted to move in with her, like he's super serious..? (She evidently is not.) I think.. 5 years is a long time. I think he might already have had his suspicions about her. (As she is so into NOT acting guilty, she got other character flaws? I'd call this one.. he must have stumbled upon some other stuff like this about her, by now.. what do you think?) No kids, right? (That'd make a difference about telling him.) I think it is HEr you need to talk to. (I bet you have already tried.) What made you think now he should know about it, anything major this last time or just a buildup of her doing it so much over the years?? (Just wonder why now you want to tell him; it's been 5 years.) I think as I said, try and tell her and then wait til you've like an overpowering urge to tell him but kind of play it down a bit.. I mean this is 'somebody's feellings' here.. Don't tell him each and every 'sordid detail..' (It'll hurt enuff without all that.. he must love her a lot!) Poor guy.. (poor you too!) Funny that the only one that's not getting 'punished' is the guilty perpetrator, isn't it? sad
2006-11-03 12:58:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to her and explain to her that it is not right for her to be cheating on her boyfriend for that extent of time, and that if she doesn't stop, you won't be her friend anymore. If she is true to you and him, she will stoip. If she is not true to you and him, she won't stop. If she doesn't stop, that is when you need top take action and explain to him the junk she has been pulling, the timelength that this has been happening, you know, all the juicy details (just try to tel him gently, he may take it pretty hard if he truly loves her, or he may just scream and curse for a little bit if he is truly ticked off). And, also, you may want to throw in a "Please don't tell her that I told you" speech, too, just so he knows that you don't want her to know that you told her boyfriend that she had been cheating on him.
2006-11-03 13:03:23 · answer #3 · answered by Angel.. Oreo Cookie.. xD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not so sure you should get involved. If you tell him, you will most likely lose her as a friend. How much does her friendship mean to you? In fact, if you get involved you will probably lose both of them as friends. If you think he should be made aware of it, maybe there's a way for you to let him find out without you being seen as the reason he found out. Either that or stay out of it completely.
2006-11-03 12:58:08 · answer #4 · answered by pink lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think somebody should tell him, but it should not be you, because he will end up hating the person who tells him , he will probably not believe it, because it is very humiliating to a person when he is the last one to find out.
He should definitely be aware of it though, because it's not like this was just a one night thing or a mistake on her part, it is something she does all the time, and there are STDs out there. It is not fair to him to not know.
2006-11-03 12:55:59 · answer #5 · answered by Marti M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell the guy in a manner that no person is familiar with IT replaced into YOU. ok? So brainstorm (I regularly arise with sturdy suggestions yet i won't be in a position to be afflicted good now) some suggestions on a thank you to maintain them the two as pals, no longer ruin the promise and on the comparable time, tell the guy what's befell Like in case you provide him a letter, explaining and tell him to no longer tell his gf which you advised him
2016-10-15 08:42:44 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How's her cheating affecting you?
You're not part of that relationship, How do you know for sure that he's not aware of what she's doing. If it's worked this long then something must be going right.
2006-11-03 13:06:16 · answer #7 · answered by ♥less 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry. Unless the guy is completely clueless, he Will catch on soon. You can't hide that stuff. Plus Karma will poke its head in some where along the lines. Don't worry!!!
2006-11-03 12:55:33 · answer #8 · answered by Wondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to know because he could catch an STD. You might find a way for him to find out that doesn't point to you as the source of the information.
2006-11-03 12:52:34 · answer #9 · answered by S K 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should let her know what she is doing is wrong and it is dangerous to her health and her boyfriends health and I know if she was in his place she wouldn't like it. I think you should let nature takes it course what is done in the dark will always come to light.
2006-11-03 12:54:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey if u feel that u need 2 tell him,than tell him!!!!!!!!it is the right thing 2 do.if she is cheating on him then he needs 2 find someoe else because apparently she isnt happy!!!
:)
2006-11-03 13:06:36 · answer #11 · answered by Jennifer T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋