WHat would you do if your five year old "accidentally" spilt water over his dinner?

Question

when he thought you werent looking just because he didnt like what he was having?

Also, is this a sign of disrespect or not considering his age?

It was definatly on purpose as I saw him do it.

Answer 1

Respect his likes and dislikes, and don't give him food he doesn't like.
Or if he doesn't like anythinh nourishing, healthy and wholesome, then disuise it in some way, by putting a tasty sauce over it, or baking it in a pie.

What do you do if someone gives you food you don't like?

Answer 2

I don't think that your five yr. old was being disrespectful. Acctually he was being very smart in his eyes. He figured if he made it look like an accident then you would feel sorry for him and not make him eat it. The thing that he didn't count on was you seeing him. My son use to spill water all the time. We knew that if we went to a resturant and their was water on the table granted it was going to get spilled and most of the time it would. I know me and I would have said something about the fact he spilled the water because I would have felt like he was just being careless. The best thing that you can do is act like it's no big deal tell him that he can clean up the mess as best as he can while you make him another plate. That way he will see that maybe his choice to try and get away with not having to eat the dinner really wasn't a smart move because he is being told that he has to eat it anyway. As we well know it is all about the choices that we make in our lives that helps determine our lives out come. Like I have always said bad things can happen to good people but it is how we deal with the situation that determines the out come. The sooner a person learns about how the choices that they make come with consequences good or bad the sooner a person can learn to stop and think about the choices they make beforehand. Hope this helps.

Answer 3

Well, if I were in your place, I would not scold him, but first clean up, with his help. And since he did it on purpose, I would sure tell him calmly but firmly about millions of children around the world who has nothing at all to eat, when he has both choices and chances to say what he wants and what he doesnot like. I would also tell him that when he eats what he likes most days, it is nothing wrong to try and eat what he doesnot like, atleast a little, once in a while. And finally tell him that even after a genuine try if he cannot eat it, atleast let him try not to waste it. Well, then, I would take his plate... (u know, we are examples), check with him, whether he likes to give the dish another genuine try, this time may be with something like cheese or so added. I whole heartedly mean what I wrote above... b'cas I know about a number of ill-fated children who would have been alive, if we had atleast given them what we throw away. Ofcourse a 5-yr old maynot understand much... but no harm telling them good things at an early age. All the very best.

Answer 4

I would make him either eat the dinner anyway or not. He would not be allowed any other choices. He will not die of hunger. If he terribly hungry later then give him a piece of bread and butter. By doing this it will reenforce that fact that you say goes and he can;t just make a scene and get his way. Now on the other hand, where did you take him? Was is a really fancy resturant? Or was it somewhere family friendly? Somethings in fancy resturants children have no idea what they are ordering and end up with something gross. Guide him in his choices so he won't end up spilling water on his next meal.

Answer 5

I would take the plate, clean it off and tell him "I saw you spill the water, why did you do that?" When he says "I don't know", you then tell him that it was wrong, ask him if he didn't like some of his dinner and get him something else of his choice (providing it is nutritionl). Tell him you understand he may not like everything you make him, but he has to have at least one spoonful of the meal. Make sure he understands and then going forward make sure the portions are small enough that it doesn't appear overwhelming.

Kids do develop likes and dislikes at his age. He also may just have been playing, not understanding the consequences of his actions. Start now with simple explainations, and you'll have a son who won't be finiky (sp?). My kids lived on Mac and cheese and hot dogs - but as long as they got their vitamins and their milk, I was ok with it up to a point. As teens, my girls are fussy eaters (one more than the other), but if they don't like what I make, they also know they are responsible for making their own meal and it has to be nutritious. They do a pretty good job and your son will too.

Good luck.

Answer 6

did you know that drinking while eating is bad for digestion? my mum never let my brothers and i drink at the table because we always ended up spilling, then she found that out as well. i would agree with the making him eat it. he can learn to like stuff, i know i did. just don't overdo it, and maybe suggest that he eats the stuff he doesn't like first. my little brother also had a problem with eating, and my parents would put on a timer for say, 15 minutes, and if he finished it in that time he would get a cookie or a chocolate bar or something. and if he was just playing and trying to test his boundaries, make sure that he clearly knows what they are. :)

Answer 7

clean it up, and get him more food. Give him a break; he's only five and just wanted to see what would happen and what it would look like. It was not being disrespectful to you.
Time for you to do some easy kitchen Science experiments with him!

Answer 8

Act like it was an accident, clean it up and get him a new plate, but hold the water since he was having a hard time with it tonight.

Answer 9

I would have him clean it up and then get him another serving in a clean plate. I would then tell him he could have his glass of water when he was finished his meal. I have so been there, my son tried that a few times.

Answer 10

Either make him eat that or serve him another smaller portion of the same thing. Have him sit there until it is all eaten, if by the time ur done cleaning up he doesn't send him to his room with no dessert if you have it. No one should have to cook separate meals for their family. Hes in the testing stage, don't give in.

Answer 11

I would calmly tell him that he could either leave the table and be done eating till breakfast the next morning, or that if he was hungry he could eat the dinner he ruined. His choice.