He is ADHD ODD, so it seems that redirection, proper correction and punishment have little if no effect. His Dr. wants to explore the option of changing his meds as a possible issue, but with the public school system, the lack of respect is overwhelming there. Whenever I get his going the right direction again....school just destroys it for him. Positive feedback/suggestion is very much appreciated!
2006-11-03 11:58:25 · 7 answers · asked by star 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
He's been ADHD ODD = Oppositional Defiant - from birth. There were no physicians able to see him within 400 miles of me before the age of 5. Without meds he has little control - he is definitely not one of those kids that is medicated because no one wants to put up with him. I am a single mom with a full time job - so I have limited time, and I do the best I can...I am asking for help from others that have found ideas that work with a special needs kids. Somtimes the slightest thing works. Spitting is a big issue right now.
2006-11-03 12:10:12 · update #1
If your son is really suffering from a number of mental health medical disorders, there really isn't much you can do beyond trying, as you are, to contain the problem. If you can both get past puberty, then he'll probably be ok.
It's so very hard to accurately diagnose these sorts of conditions though. Medicating your children is really to be considered a last resort, and only when their behavior is dangerous to themselves or others.
It sounds like your son is having difficulty being emphathetic toward you. Humans learn respect for authority by being given authority and being taught how to manage it appropriately.
I've often seen boys his age do well when given a dog to care for. The dog gives them something to relate to, and to have some authority over, which in turn helps them realize how important it is that he shows you proper respect.
Again, if your 9 year old is prone to violence or destructive behavior, its a different issue, and a pet would certainly not be recommended.
Socialization is also constructive, outside of the school environment. Team sports and other physical activities are good outlets, and can help build social bonds which are really critical in children his age.
2006-11-03 12:19:46 · answer #1 · answered by Todd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect is taught from the very beginning and should have been taught long before he was diagnosed. As for school if you have a problem with your school system you do have the option of homeschooling. Or get more involved in what goes on in the school, volunteer etc.
2006-11-03 12:02:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My child is PDD - NOS and ADHD. I think putting him into martial arts really helps. They teach respect, discipline, etc. My son did it but didn't have the respect issues but really enjoyed it and I heard from other parents with ADHD kids that it worked wonders.
2006-11-04 13:54:39 · answer #3 · answered by party_pam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make sure u suport him but hes getting old so dont be on his back. counting to 3 or something useally helps between ages of 4-11 have him talk to someone who lets him get his feelings out there might be something else that is going on at school like someone beeing mean or herting him try and find out whats happening
2006-11-03 12:50:05 · answer #4 · answered by Mily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Being In Control : Natural Solutions For ADHD Dyslexia and Test Anxiety'.
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/9659025130/
2006-11-06 13:56:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wish I could help I have all those issues with my 8yr old (will be 9 in april) every where says he has to be 10 for them to be able to help him. I guess they expect parents to suffer until then.
2015-02-21 01:39:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jut try to sit down and talk to him or try to get help as far as counserling.
2006-11-03 12:07:46 · answer #7 · answered by Boo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋