PARENTS!!!What do you think of a mom who would throw her childs?

Question

toys out when they are sleeping ,for example a seven year old little girls dolls ,because the mom thinks she is to old for them? I think it's wrong but maybe a different opion would make me better understand that persons point of view,(although i highly doubt it)

Answer 1

I played with dolls until I was 11. I was a good kid. The dolls didn't make me a brat and I always did my homework before playing... it was the rules. I graduated valedictorian so I really don't think that dolls ruined my life. I would only understand it if the child were really a terrible brat and always screaming about her dolls... but then, I would kind of think that it was the mother who taught her to be a brat if she's throwing the stuff away. I see something wrong with it if the mother is throwing it out because she thinks that the child is too old for it... especially a seven year old. But if the child is acting up, she should just put the toys in a place that the child won't find them at night, and then tell the girl that she'll get her dolls back if she continues to behave herself.

Answer 2

I think I have to agree with you on this one. I think children are forced to grow up too quickly by society, parents shouldn't contribute to that at home. There is nothing wrong with a 7 year old playing with dolls. There are also some other issues at hand, if the parent does throw away the toys while the child is sleeping. When the child wakes up, she will wonder where her toys are. This will (unknowingly, I'm sure) teach the child distrust, and dishonesty. If the parent does get rid of the toys, he/she should do it in front of the child. No matter what the parent does, he/she should never do it worrying about what the child will think. If the toys are thrown out while the child is sleeping, it shows the parent isn't really in charge--which is why it wasn't done until the child was sleeping.

Again, I have to agree with you on this!

Answer 3

I have a 7 year old. Her toys are too piled up. I do not throw them out while she is sleeping. I sift through them while she is at school and I HAVE to or else her room is over- ridden with toys. I donate the ones that she doesn't play with/won't miss. But if she were to actually wittness this act she would scream and cry and be upset that she does not wish to get rid of her toys when she never even notices they are gone this way. I do this before birthdays and christmas because new toys are sure to come. Out with the old, in with the new.

Answer 4

Yes I do think it's mean. If the parent didn't want there children to have to stuff, then they shouldn't of bought the stuff for the kid in the first place.
Ever since I oldest child was about 3 years old we would sit down together and throw away anything that they ether didn't play with any more or was broken. Alot always got thrown away, but my kids always know what is being thrown out and why. It might help them to know also that this normaly happens just befor a Birthday or Christmas.

Answer 5

A lot depends on how many toys she has. If she is collecting dolls for example she should have some kind of special shelf to keep the collection on or in. If it is just one doll that is a special favorite she should be able to keep it.
But if it is a toy box full of toys I think those out grown would certainly be helpffull for a child of that age that has none.
Then it could be the storage room maybe mom needs the storage room. I doubt it is just because you have out grown them
My daughter just packed every single toy her children own because they refused to pick them up. Now if they want them back they have to earn them back.
Maybe your mother is trying to teach you something in removing the toys

Answer 6

Sounds a bit mean to me - I certainly wouldn't throw out something my daughter loved just because I felt she was too old for it. Maybe gentle persuasion or the offer of a substitute toy would have worked better if the mother was so intent on getting rid of these items - although is it really necessary at all? - how grown up is a 7 year old meant to be??

Answer 7

Personally, I wouldn't do it when the child is asleep, nor would I actually trash a toy unless it damaged in such away as to be dangerous.Of course we don't know but it's safe to guess that this mother simply didn't think it would be that big a deal, or else was too busy during the day and was only able to get to this task at night! Don't demonize the woman ,folks.

Just for the record,my own mother kept all our toys. For her,it's up to you to deal with your personal toy box as you become an adult,but she kept everything away until then. It was my father who was the "toss and burn" chap, so you needed to keep an eye on him during a move:-) He gave away my Barbie dolls to the women who came to clean the house during one move when Mommy wasn't looking - she almost had kittens when she found out. "WHAAAT?! You gave away her black Barbies???? Pray tell,what on earth was your overall plan,if I may ask?" (I miss them still,but I forgave him after a few days.And no, it didn't wreck their marriage which lasted forty three years before Daddy died. Nor has the loss of my black Barbies warped my character in any way.)

When disposing of an infant's toys, you can get away with doing it on the sly . But it's better to involve the owner of the said toys and playthings,and make a bit of ceremony out of putting away the toys of a child from say,four upwards. It will help the child learn how to grow up gracefully,a lesson sadly lacking in too many youngsters these days.

Answer 8

I don't think I would do exactly what you described, but I often clean out my kids' rooms and toys when they are at school. They keep such CRAP that builds up and up. EVery once in a while I go through with a bag for trash and a bag for donations and toss in old dolls, stuffed animals they never even look at, scraps of paper they've kept, markers that don't work, dress up clothes that they don't wear, etc etc etc and they never know the difference.

Answer 9

Seven years old is NOT too old to play with dolls. Girls mimic their moms...would you take a tool set from a boy (or girl).

For crying out loud! We have little girls running around dressed like skanks and trying to grow up too soon!

I think that is mean and squashing their creative play. I still have the Curious George I got when I was 4.

I do go through my son's toys when he is sleeping and donate stuff he has no interest in...we come from a large family and he gets tons of stuff...the nice stuff he had no interest in, I give to a single teen mom from my church...he son loves it and she can't afford anything, I can.

I also throw out cheap little happy meal toys he doesn't care about!

I would NEVER throw out his blankey or force him to get rid of it. We have rules...no booey at school, or outside....he is for bedtime and when we're sick or scared.

People shouldn't rush their kids into adulthood.

Answer 10

I think it is a selfish act for the parent to throw the child's toys out. By what criteria is a child of 7 too old to be a child and play with toys?. What does she think is an appropriate toy for a child of 7.Why try to force a child to leave the magical age of make believe and innocence. Children grow up fast enough today.I would implore this mother to let her daughter to remain a child.Don't rush your child to "mature too quickly" for they are young for such a short time.