PARENTS!!Why do some of you insist on putting your kids on those leashes it is appauling, they are humans ....

Question

not animals learn to teach them to behave and watch them when going out ...For god sakes it's really digusting...

Hey India the project I said leashes where not cool for kids ,but in your case a muzzle would suffice.

JennMoo you have made me bow my head in aplogy to all the outraged moms by my question. I do have children myself six to be exact and reading your story of those moments of your child not being by your side made me realize we all gotta do what we gotta do for our most precious commodities,Much love to all you mom please except my sincerest apology.

Answer 1

Are you a parent? Do you have any kids? Do you know what it is like to look up and your child is gone?

We were in Lowes once....my husband and I have a rule...one person can shop the other has kid duty. We are ALWAYS asking...."Do you have him?"

I had to sign for some carpet. My son was RIGHT next to me...I signed my first name and glanced up...he was GONE....in 3 seconds. Within 5 they called a Code Adam, locked all doors and the restrooms and every staff member was looking for him....I felt like an idiot...he had climbed into the carpet sample right next to me.

When my husband yelled...."We've got him!" all of 20 seconds later I turned to reach for him and passed out in the arms of some poor stock kid. Then I cried and cried and cried...then I threw up!

My son is very well behaved you can teach a child to behave, but you cannot teach a child not to be a child.

There is nothing disgusting about those harnesses, I don't use one, but I have only one child to watch.

When we went to Disney World, I was a kid who drifted away...my mom bought be a cat collar and leash for my wrist. It was pink with rhinestones....I thought I was rich.

Some nosey woman, you know someone who thinks they have the right to tell others how to raise their children.........(AHEM!) said it was awful and my mom (who was the best) was treating me like a dog.

My mom replied "She's not a lost dog!" and kept right on going.

It is not disgusting to keep your children safe.

I work in foster care...I can tell you disgusting!

Answer 2

A "leash" is for the protection of the child. Yes children need to be taught to behave...but while the teaching is in progress its much nicer to be able to stop your child from darting into the street then to just hope he/she decides to listen to you at that moment. espically toddlers! Just because you choose not to use them and dont agree with it (i have never used one either) does not mean that it is wrong or cruel to the child. You aren't raising the world concentrate on your own kids and how they behave. Different strokes for different folks. You have no right to judge someone for their use of a leash...at most they are showing that they CARE about the well being of their child...which is more than I can say for some...hello how many kids a year does CPS take? And I dont recall one of those cases being because a parent had a "leash" on their child.

Answer 3

Easy Safety.I do not use it when we are In places like the grocery store there it is easy enough to keep an eye on them.But At Large crowded malls or at festivals where there are literally thousands of people it takes only 1 second for them to let go of your hand and be lost it the crowd.I don't know about your children if you have any but my 2 year old hates his stroller{has ever since he learned to walk} and does not like to hold my had for hours when we are at these places. So this way he can have his Independence and I can have the peace of mind that he is safe.My husband used to feel the same way.Until we went to a Canada day celebration with his sister and her little one.Her daughter who was barley3 at the time let go of her hand.When His sister looked down to see why she was gone.Literally lost in the crowd.That took all of about 3 seconds.Fortunately we found her soon,but still it could have been much worse.

Answer 4

You can teach a child to behave, but toddlers test rules! My son is two and sometimes can wrestle away from us and take off down the street like lightening. He can run faster than I can. He gets impatient and sometimes absolutely refuses to sit in the stroller. So, I have the choice of a death grip on his hand or forcing him into the stroller and strapping him in. Neither one is very fun.

I also can't get past the idea of putting my child on a "leash" and haven't considered it. I'm just saying that now that I'm a parent, I can understand why some people see it as a necessary safety precaution and a more comfortable option for the child.

Answer 5

You need to realize that what may be appalling to you is a very effective safety feature for some of us. I used a harness type leash when we took our 4yr old to Niagra Falls Canada. He was too heavy to carry all of the time & didn't want to hold hands the entire day. This was a great way for him to be able to walk & not get lost or taken. I could care less what anyone else thinks when they see this. As long as my child doesn't become another statistic I'm happy as a clam!!! As least we care enough about our children to keep them safe.

Answer 6

I know some people find it to be disgusting... honestly, I remember when I wore one when I was little, and I was glad to know that my mom was there at all times... it made me feel safe... My sister had a harness though, and I thought that was a little strange, but it amused me... And honestly, I was a really good kid when I was little. The leash was meant to protect me not to keep me in line. Children want freedom, but they need protection... I think it's kind of a way to give them a little bit of both. I understand you have a problem with it, and I see why... I just want you do understand the other side. I do agree, though, that they shouldn't be used to keep your kid in line or whatever.

Answer 7

I used a "child harness" aka leash when my son was 5 mos old, my daughter was just 2 and I was traveling with both by myself in the airport. My daughter was a "runner" and as far as I could tell it was not a choice, but intelligent parenting to have a way to restrain her besides holding her hand, when I had to be dealing with carry ons, setting up a stroller, infant carrier, etc. If she bolted while I was putting my son in the stroller I was screwed.

I am not a mall mom. But I have seen many mom's in the mall with kids on leashes. Really, it allows you some control, while permitting your child some freedom (they don't have to be glued to you, in a stoller or holding your hand).

The bottom line is that each mom does what she needs to do for her family. If it is a leash, so be it. I am so sick and tired of mom's judging each other. It is like, all mom's are insecure, so you may think you are better than the "leash users, and maybe that makes you feel good, or superior. But we are all mom's, we are all going through this mom thing with its rewards and challenges. Stop judging and turning your nose down at people.

Answer 8

When I was a toddler, I had a harness. It was the only way my mom could be assured that I wouldn't take off running and get hit by a car or snatched by someone. Maybe you don't realize just how fast little legs can run.

I'm in my 30's and very well-adjusted. I think any smart parent would use such a device if the situation called for it. It's not like they child has a collar around his/her neck attached to a leash, you know.

Answer 9

why are you being so judgmental? would you rather have your child abducted?? we put kids in playpens, car seats, cribs....all sorts of things to protect them from what they don't know can hurt them. i don't see why a harness should be any different.

when i was little i was on the bus with my mom in Germany, the bus stopped and i bolted out the open doors, the bus took off and she didn't realize i was gone until she couldn't do anything about it. the German bus driver wouldn't stop the bus because at that time there was a general hate towards Americans living there. he acted like he couldn't understand her. luckily at the next stop, 2 GI's rushed off the bus to find me. i was so scared.

the point is, if my mom had a "leash" on me, i would have never had to go through that. anything could've happened to me. i was a tiny child alone on the streets of Berlin. it's better to be safe then sorry. wouldn't you agree?

Answer 10

It doesn't look nice, but raising kids is guaranteed to make us look like idiots. They design car seats to protect our young children, but you can't keep them from undoing the straps and getting out. So if you find someway to 'lock' them in your treating them like animals. But if you let them wander about the vehicle your negligent. I never cared for these leases either, but sometimes you turn your head and they have disappeared and you always wonder if you might never see them again. My son was a small child and we were in the mall, a large open area. He wanted to go into the toy store, I said no. He sceamed and pounded on the floor and people in 10 different stores stared like I was beating him. Some Grandmother said " He's too cute to spank". want to bet. Even the security guard came to pay me a visit. We eventually left and I refused to speak to him until we got home; He was really upset. I was being cruel by withholding my affection. But I could have yelled at him or spanked him. There is a certain amount of insanity in being a parent. So you may be right but don't judge too quickly.