Lately my mom has said things like she doesn't care if I kill myself, having me was a big mistake, and if I ask for anything she will bang my head against the ground until it bleeds. I talked to someone at the Boys and Girls Club and he siad he would call Social Services if I wanted him to. Should I tell hem to call them???
2006-11-03 11:05:33 · 23 answers · asked by Kate 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
After Social Services come my mother always tells me to call them back and tell them that it was all a lie.
2006-11-03 11:21:36 · update #1
Immediately if not sooner.
2006-11-03 11:07:42 · answer #1 · answered by Trinity 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ask you're daughter if he has mentioned anything to her. The thing to remember with social services is if there has never been a complaint about this guy before (especially since his son is 17) they may not do much about it. In the long wrong you may get him into more trouble if you call them out of the blue and social services doesn't remove him from the home. If you find from your daughter that he is being abuse just make sure either you or your daughter let him know that he has a safe haven with you and your family if he ever needs it. Only make the move to social services if he wants you to.
2016-05-21 21:50:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear this Kate, I really do not like to hear when a parent goes bad type of situation but, we do not have all of the facts, first let me say this,(I am not trying to be mean just open and honest okay).
Now with saying that I will not honesly tell you to go and call Social Service on your Mom without knowing all of that facts first because when a teen really feels wrong they sometimes do things that they will later regret, now with saying that if your Mom or any adult at that matter is hurting you and actually pulling blood and leaving marks by goodness yes call for help, but if it is just that you and your parents are not seeing eye to eye, and you feel like they just do not understand you, or they just do not let you do the things you may want to do for whatever reason, then I would just say this to you.
If you for any reason call Social Service on your parents just because you are upset with them, they will find out and it will not only hurt your parents but yourself, the reason why I say that is because once they get into your business and into your family life things will never be okay for you again, they will take you from the real people who do love you and put you into houses with other people who do not care about you and may even hurt you for real, that is something to just think about before you decide to do such a big thing that could change your life forever okay.
But if you are getting hit and hurt by your Mom or anyone please do report it to the police and or Social Service okay?
2006-11-03 11:28:02 · answer #3 · answered by Lil Angel 68 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! Please DO NOTcall!!!
Judging by the things you quoted your Mother as saying, you Mother is going thru a difficult time. I am sure she doesn't mean those things, and is probably just overwhelmed and depressed with life.
She can't always bail you out - especially if she's just hanging by a toenail herself! She is fustrated and on the verge of giving up herself.
She really isn't abusing you by saying she doesn't care or having you was a big mistake. It's not abuse... you just aren't getting what you need from your Mother. That happens to all of us from time to time.
The thing to do, is be mature. See if there is anything you can do to help HER. It's not just about you, you know! This is a really BIG, HUGE opportunity for you to shine in her eyes. Just be there for her and see what she's so angry about. Mothers need daughters sometimes too!
IF you call social services, be prepared to leave the house, because they WILL take you. You will be causing your mother a world of pain when she can handle it the least. Are you willing to put her thru that? Are you willing to cause her financial hardship and risk alienation from her? Are you willing to throw her away?
If things were really all that bad, the person you talked to would have already called Social Services. There are times when you should call, but I dont think this is one of them.
Tell the truth, are you just looking to scare or punish your Mother because she said mean things to you?
Where's your father in all of this? Try talking to him or another family member BEFORE you call Social Services. Let them handle it if you can't - but in any case... dont bring a stranger in to do your dirty work. Your Mother deserves better than that, even if she is being mean right now.
I dont mean to sound harsh. I do wish you the best!
Good luck!
2006-11-03 11:23:36 · answer #4 · answered by DaBoomvang 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your mom is banging your head against the ground, absolutely have that guy call Social Services. There is so much help out there anymore for abused kids. You are one of them. You deserve better than that!!
2006-11-03 11:10:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously your mom has some issues...if you feel unsafe with her then talk to someone, but make sure you are ready to possibly be removed from your home and your mother's reaction to be called on by Social Services. In the end...do what you gotta do to be safe! Good luck!
2006-11-03 11:09:35 · answer #6 · answered by dinamita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you and to your mother as well. Being a parent definately has its moments. As for the child such as yourself, there are many drawbacks as well.
Is there anyone that you trust? Maybe a school counselor or a friends mom or dad? We know in our hearts that the difference between right and wrong here is a big issue. My best advice to you is that you follow your heart. Inside you know the answer to your own question. We all do. I call it, my built in compass. Oh yeah, one more thing. Sometimes doing the right thing, hurts just as bad as not doing anything about the problem.
I hope this helps!
2006-11-03 11:14:53 · answer #7 · answered by karla 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
....If she is really banging your head against the ground then why haven't u called already. If this is really happening then u need to understand that if u call u will be put in a foster home. Good luck
2006-11-03 11:11:59 · answer #8 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do whatever it takes to protect yourself from your toxic mother and do not lie for her, no matter what. You are being terribly manipulated and emotionally abused so you need to escape this as soon as possible. If you have a responsible family member who is willing to take you in or direct you to the right sources for assistance, that would be even better. I wish you well.
2006-11-03 12:41:44 · answer #9 · answered by Bethany 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like your mom needs some help as much as you do. tell them to call social services as soon as possible. for both of your sakes
2006-11-03 11:11:04 · answer #10 · answered by Kismitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should, that is not a good environment for you to grow up in... You'll end up being miserable and feeling worthless.
You didn't ask her to bring you into the world, it was her choice and she should be responsible for it.
It's not up to you to fix her hating life so much, that's her fault and as a parent she should be taking care of herself as well as you.
I wish you all the best of luck with your circumstance,
My thoughts are with you.
-William
2006-11-03 11:09:17 · answer #11 · answered by wmm4786 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋