Cannot reach big "O" from oral?

Question

Need to know if I'm the only woman left on this earth who has never been able to orgasm from oral sex. I've had a few guys try and there's been a few times I've been close, but no cigar. I'm sure that if I learned to relax and the guy knew what he was doing, maybe then. I had mentioned this to my boyfriend of 2 years, so rather than see it has a challenge, he doesn't bother trying. I can count on my hands how many times he's gone down on me meanwhile, I have no problems doing the same for him and usually do it any chance I get. I don't need any smart comments like "Maybe you smell". Rest assured that I usually shower before sex.

I have no problems climaxing during sex.
And I've tried the 69 already. Doesn't work.
I'm 30 yrs young and thought there was something wrong with me since I have never been able to orgasm from oral.

Answer 1

your b/f does need to see this as a challenge first of all...you both will be rewarded when he can help you achieve this... the key is to relax. to trust. and to get completely into it. help guide him...tell him which things feel good and not to stop. having a finger or two inserted while the oral thing is going on always helps. Don't give up !

Answer 2

Fear not little lady, You are NOT alone here!

I am the same way, and I have found out that generally it's because I can't lay back and just relax and enjoy. But I think it also has a lot to do with the level of stimulation I am getting. I can't get off unless there is some level of penetration as well as clit stimulation which is why oral doesn't work for me.

However, all is not lost. Get you man to go down on you, and when you get close chuck in a toy or two, or maybe just ask him to use his fingers. Either way I find oral is a great warm up even if its not the end all be all.

Best of luck, I hope that helps, and hey tell your man not to give up. After all practise makes perfect!

Answer 3

I can understand how frustrating this has to be fore you. I guess i have two thoughts. First, having an orgasm for a women is more technical than for a man. A man cannot masterbate unless he has a fansasy going on in his mind. That's why porno and girlie magazines are such hot sellers. When a man goes to a sperm bank and his turn comes to donate they ask him "magazines or video. So, how does this apply to you? When the guy is performing oral sex on you where is your mind? If your thinking too hard about "I gotta ***, I gotta ***" I'll guarantee you you won't. Youv'e got to get a sexual thought in your head and forget what is actually happening to you. You might watch some porn yourself to get these fantasies going. You don't have to tell your partner what your doing in your head just tell him he's doing a good joj by doing a little vocalizing (moaning) etc. Secondaly, men like to start of sex with a ******** and finish it with intercourse. Women would do better to be fondled first then have intercourse and finish it off with oral sex. This gives the women a chance to get all her engines running and moving toward orgasm. This way all the fantasies can kick in and get running in your head and your clitoris will get the message to do the job. Thirdly, When the guy is performing oral on you absolutely tell him through talking to him when he really hit the "perfect spot" and then tell him to stay there. Fourth, you have to sometimes help things along during sex either oral or straight. By using your hand to rub you clitoris while having sex is something that will help you reach orgasm. whether it is during oral or intercourse most men think it's kind of a turn on to see you masterbating yourself. The guy will think "damn I'm not the only one who likes touching myself." It also helps to learn to climax when you learn how to orgasm throug masterbation. It's up to you to find out where the really great spots are and how you like them touched. How can you expect someone else make you orgasm if you can't bring yourself to full pleasure. Good luck and GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD AND INTO A GREAT FANTASY.

Answer 4

It took me a long time as well to get the big "O" but when I did FINALLY get one it was because I was very relaxed and I was very comfortable with the man I was doing this with in which it was a long term relationship. My problem is my emotions do get in the way of the sexual enjoyment so if I feel like I can really trust this person then I feel more compelled to relax. Maybe a nice hot bath would relax ya and maybe you two can have a bath together to be comfortable with each other. Just my 2 cents worth...I've been there and it can be frustrating but don't worry, it will happen.

Answer 5

Being that I am 37 years young and being married to a 32 year old, my sex life has never been better. My husband has taught me a lot in that department. One thing is, maybe you should try stimulating yourself in front of him. Make sure you use a little lubricant for added stimulation. Don't just concentrate on that area. Rub your breasts, play with other parts of your body, really get into yourself, so that your man knows how to get into you also. Show him what feels good to you. If he sees you rubbing yourself the right way in the right place, he will then know what to do with his tongue, mouth, fingers or whatever. Trust me it works.

Answer 6

no smart remarks I promise.
I don't know if this approach has been tried before on you, but I like to use a combination of tongue and fingers...I have never failed to get a woman to damn near fly off the bed using these little tricks. I have also played with using ice and just rinsing with very cold water and going back to work...the change in temp is a really great stimulation for the woman...

Hope this helps!

Answer 7

everyone's physique is distinctive. that's ok if no longer something comes out, you nonetheless could have an orgasm. maximum persons i understand don't have something that comes out. I, easily, thought i became the only one. It additionally concerns approximately how stable your husband is. I had by no potential experienced an orgasm at an analogous time as having intercourse with any guy till my husband. He became very stable or maybe once I wasn't interior the temper, he continually made me orgasm. i do no longer understand if the two of you workout or no longer, yet this helps plenty with stamina and with point of your orgasms. once you have intercourse, do in basic terms no longer concentration on all the different issues that spring to ideas....in basic terms concentration on your husband. attempt to spice issues up slightly, via including a mirror to observe or dressing up attractive or in a gown....that's particularly exciting & would properly be exciting. that's on your administration. It worked for me. i'm hoping this helps.

Answer 8

Yes, a big part of that is to relax.
If you haven't already tried, explore yourself and see if you can reach that, or get close.
A girl knows her body way better than any guy will, and giving your BF pointers shouldn't upset him.
But in the meantime, while he aint going down town, you need to be staying north of the equater.

Answer 9

Maybe you need more foreplay to get you closer? I know with me I can't have orgasm from oral sex. I finally came to the conclusion that I didn't like it for myself, but I don't mind doing it for my man. I figure you do what you enjoy and don't worry about it if you don't.

Answer 10

Maybe your guy needs to keep doing it until you do. my ex loved it when i used to go down on her cause i would stop until she came, once it took me like 50 minutes but when she did oh my god she was like so pleased. I know a girl who has the same problem she uses her jacuzi and water streams her way to the her big O. I think that your man is not doing it right show him exactly where your spot is.