Little Brother help?

Question

Okay my little brother is 10 years old. He still sleeps with my parents and he is afraid of going upstairs. I always keep calm wiht him, but ever since my mom left to CA to visit my Grandfather, he is really irritating. I know and kind of understand his fears. But like I think he might just be making up excuses. For example, he won't go change into his pajamas because he is afraid to go upstairs even if I go with him. My dad isnt very helpful (he justs yells at my brother). I dont want to be like that, but it is hard to refrain from anger. I mean like I have been spending time with him...like playing board games with him and playing outside with him, but none of it helps. He just cries (like literally) and runs to the sofa when I tell him to come upstairs to brush his teeth. It is so hard not to yell at him, I already have raised my voice once, and I am afraid to. Please help me

Oh well my mother is coming back on Wednesday and you are right he is very close to her. But he does not know what he is afraid of. I asked him and he kept repeating, "I don't know, I just don't know...I hear noises." His eyes started tearing up and I felt so bad for him. But I explained to him that there isnt anything to be afraid of...the sound is the wind and the trees and we have squirrels that jump on our roof. He said he knows all this but he is still scared of "some noises"

Oh yeah, my father isnt a bad father or anything...he just gets irritated after a little while. He is always at work and stuff, so its like I'm my mm's replacement

It is just so hard...Im only 15, it is difficult for me to even understand myself sometimes.

Answer 1

First of all it sounds like your little brother is a little spoiled, I mean, he is so use to everyone giving him his way with this upstairs thing, and he really feels like is is a fear because when others give off that feeling, like feeding into his feelings he is playing on that, I am not speaking of a bad thing just a spoil thing, it's really up to your parents to fix this problem honestly, But not to take from you you are a beautiful big sister I can think of a few people who wish they had a loving big sister like you, but this problem is a little bigger than you sweetie sorry, where does he sleep now that Mum is away? with Dad or you?
See think about it..................He just needs to be coasted into stop sleeping with your parents first of all, and actually made to sleep in his own bed, when that problem is fixed then everything else will fall into place so you have my blessing until Mum comes back, But while she is gone, the only thing I can tell you is to not make him go upstairs, what you do is do what you need to do for yourself and ignore his tears and pleas for as long as you can, I think he will come upstairs by himself when he sees that you are not playing his game or may be Dad should be doing this and not you....................Good Luck Baby Girl.............................

Answer 2

That's a bit tragic. Why did your mother go away? Is she coming back? Because, seems as if your brother is very close to your mom and that's what makes him feel safe. No one, but his mom can concur his fear. You've been helping and that's great. Keep it going. But your dad, I'm sorry, but he should be helpful and replace his mom for awhile. What you could do though is ask why he's afraid. If you've already have and he answered good! Show him that what he says is not true. Such as, there's nothing upstairs, or such with. It's hard to understand everything and resolving this problem. Do whatever you can. But first, you HAVE to understand his problems. Maybe something, someone influenced him in being scared. I'm sorry I can't help, but I hope this helped a smitch.

Answer 3

I have two boys 8 and 13. This fear is real to them. Why I'm not sure. My 13 year old is getting better, but my 8 year old would not go up those stairs alone. I blame my husband, he said he was terrified of the dark when he was little. Don't pressure him into feeling he is bad, just keep reinforcing that there is nothing to be afraid of and talk about his fears. My 8 year old's teacher just read them a scary book right before Halloween. No, that was not helpful with his fears. But I can see in his eyes, he is truly afraid. Just be the best big sister you can. He will outgrow this.

Answer 4

I have several younger sibs who act this way. It's completely normal. He may be looking for more attention, he might be a very sensitive or emotional person. I'm not sure I didn't act that way at 10, and maybe you did too. You're doing a great job, though. Just try to remain patient. That's really sad that your dad yells. To be honest, I think that's just the way kids act. It's life. When you need a break or feel angry, just get away for awhile to your room or take a walk. You'll feel a lot better and ready to be a big sister again.

Answer 5

I have younger brothers as well and one of them lives with me and he is 10 also, i bought him a nite light and sometimes he sleeps with the tv on. And put some nite lights in the hall way for him that should help.

Answer 6

is he in tune with the spirit world or sences someone or thing lurking there? I know my youngest neice is and as it turned out it was the former owner of the house that I live in right now she said that she died in this house and here she remains so now we are not afraid of her she is nore of a friend now. maybe look into that or ask him why and see if there is something goning on like that.

Answer 7

Try to find out what is bothering him. Then, try to ease him and gently let him know he's being irrational. Then, try to ease him and your mom out of sleeping in the same bed. (how would he go to a sleepover?)

Answer 8

You are a very good sister. what you are doing is good. your brother wants attention . and he needs to feel loved . he will get over his behavior. this is something he will out grow..

Answer 9

Don't fall into his guilt trap. You're letting him control you. Just be nice, but firm.

Answer 10

i have no idea nut i was never like that, i was always doing stupid stuff at that age!