my son says he hates me and doesn't love me, but delights in telling everyone else how much he loves them, usually in front of me. He is being assessed for possible Asperger's Syndrome, does anyone know if there could be a link with this behaviour as I can't see what I've done wrong?
2006-11-03 10:22:22 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
yes. if that's what he has. you can tell him to stop and it hurts your feelings. say something like "when you say you hate me it makes me sad." you can show him a drawing of a sad face. you tell him that you love him and show him a happy face. do that everytime.
If he is not PDD, it may just be an behavior issue. try the idea anyway. it won't hurt
2006-11-03 10:29:52 · answer #1 · answered by angelica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be like that when I was 2, 3, 4, and 5. I used to hit, pinch, bite, kick, and be fixated on things when I was 2, 3, 4, and 5. I also used to have difficulty speaking when I was 2, 3, 4, and 5. I used to scream when I was 2, 3, 4, and 5. But as I got older, I stopped it by the time I was in Middle School, and now I know how to speak. My mom used to take me to Nandi, and Nanamudi when I was 3, but I threw a fit there. Then, my mom took me to Sigh when I was 4 and 5, but I threw a fit there. It was because I got upset and frustrated over things, but as I got older, I started talking to the counselors at my school, my parents, or my relatives whenever I got upset and frustrated. You should try behavior therapy for your son.
Thanks.
2015-08-02 08:33:45 · answer #2 · answered by Merissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's too young I would say to really know the meaning of the word, and by the fact that he likes telling other people in front of you that he loves them.
I would say it's the opposite he's just doing it to get your attention because he loves you.
Try being more attentive when he's nice to you and ignoring the hurtful behaviour.
2006-11-03 19:08:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 2.5 year old son says stuff like this to me daily. I don't love you, I do love you, I don't love you, I do love you...etc. Or, I also get a lot of "I don't want you mommy".
He is just trying out his new vocab. and trying to assert his independence. You are probably his main disciplinarian, etc. So, it is easy to be kind to everyone else, and try to make you feel bad for being the mom you know you should be. So manipulative, these little guys.
It is such a shocker when our sweet babies start using their words against us. But, this too shall pass. My 4 year old, who went thru this too, now says I am her sweet, sweet mama!
2006-11-03 12:44:08 · answer #4 · answered by Beth M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree a it is a little weird for a three year old to be doing this but ignore it, don't let it bother you and when he gets no reaction then he probably will stop. Don't worry I am sure he loves you more than anyone in the world.
2006-11-03 10:30:01 · answer #5 · answered by MAY 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think all kids go through that stage where they "hate" mom and dad. To him, the word "hate" probably means either he's upset with you or is mad at you. He might not even realize what it means but he says it anyway.
To a 3 yr. old, one little thing makes them mad and they suddenly "hate" you. They want a piece of candy and you tell them no and it's automatically "Well fine I hate you.." They're like little teenagers except they don't know what hate even means.
Don't worry about it, I'm sure he loves you more than anything :-)
2006-11-03 10:26:08 · answer #6 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
All kids go through this "phase" it is their first backlash at authority figures. He doesn't mean what he is saying, he says it to get exactaly the reaction you are giving him. When my daughter did that to me I would say "Oh great thanks...now I can sell all the stuff in your room since you won't be living here. " or "Well good that will save me from fixing your dinner tonight". Then wait until he turns 13, it starts all over again. LOL.
2006-11-03 12:49:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good grief.
You haven't done anything wrong. It's normal for a teenager to tell you they hate you. But a 3 year old is unusual. Get him along to an educational psychologist who will hopefully be able to diagnose the problem and give you ideas on how to deal with it.
Good luck.
By the way, the rest of us don't hate you.
2006-11-03 10:27:32 · answer #8 · answered by Matt 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My 8 year old is like this-I have 10 hour paddys and she hits me-I've been everywhere for help-Lucky you for getting an assessment cos I can't get any help-just a load of excuses.
2006-11-03 10:26:54 · answer #9 · answered by Elle J Morgan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it helps, you're not on your own. My son does the same thing, he's not quite 3 yet. It rips you apart and makes you feel totally useless as a parent. If he's like this now, i hate to think what mine will be like as a teenger.
Just hang on in there and know that you're doing your best, and one day (eventualy) he will thank you for it.
2006-11-03 12:28:17 · answer #10 · answered by L D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋