Ok my bff Tashi has liked this boy Jeff since 9th grade (now in 11th) and the more I saw him the more I began to like him too. I mean ALOT of girls liked him though. In the 10th grade I had 3 classes with him and I would talk to him and mess with him all the time and Tashi knew about it...the thing about me is that when I like someone I dont sit there and fantasize...I make sure they know it...and Tashi is opposite she hopes maybe they will somehow read her mind. Well in the middle of 10th grade he asked me to be his girl and of course I didnt turn him down...sh!t homeboy is sexy as hell. And when I told her the great news she was so surprised! She was like "You know I like him blah blah blah..." But the thing is SHE knew I liked him too, yeah she liked him 1st but he doesnt even remember her name 1/2 the time....and he was ONLY a crush its not they were talking....and besides she wants me to break up with him b/c she still likes him but we are STILL dating (almost a year) and I refuse
2006-11-03 09:40:55 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it isn't wrong.
2006-11-03 09:42:24 · answer #1 · answered by Grasshopper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh lord... Well, I'm not sure about the rules for girls, but you've broken the Bro-code. You've already dug a hole too deep to just overlook. But, I will say this. If your friend is really your friend, she'll forgive you. You've broken the code of a friendship, and that sort of thing can't be mended with an "I'm sorry' or a "My bad". The forgiveness is left soley up to your friend. It's not easy when a friend betrays your trust for a long time and you've certainly done her wrong. I don't blame you for what you did, everyone makes mistakes. But how you take responsibility is what can make or break your friendship. A true friend will forgive.
2016-03-28 05:57:11 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not wrong. She had over a year to make her move & she didn't. You had equal chances, and you acted on your wants while she just sat there & hoped. You may lose a friend, but it will be over her immaturity & not over anything you did.
Relax & enjoy your relationship w/o guilt.
PS WHOA! Look at all the flack!!!!
If it helps, I am WAY past high school & I still see a lot of people my age wishing & hoping instead of living their lives. You just may have given her enough of a push to grow up a little more & be more assertive about what she wants. That would be a good thing.
2006-11-03 09:47:05 · answer #3 · answered by bob h 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ha ha. This is so funny, because I had a few friends like this WAY back when I was in HS (OK, only 10 years, but still). One of my friends actually is STILL like this. The fact is, he doesn't like her. He likes you. Neither of you can force him to like her, regardless of how much or how long she's had this unrealistic crush. What she needs to do, is stop being so self-absorbed and open her eyes to reality. Be honest with her and tell her then encourage her to consider dating other guys that have interest in her. Perhaps even introduce her to his best friend. She really needs wake up and know that calling "dibs" on a guy is ridiculous. Back in HS and 10 years later, what I have learned about men is you can't force one to like you, treat you well, date you or anything of that nature unless HE CHOOSES to.
You may wanna mention to your friend, that even if you did break up with him, dating your ex is unacceptable. Her even suggesting this is really shady and I think you should tell her so.
2006-11-03 09:56:30 · answer #4 · answered by Miss smarty pants 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problum she is absessed with this guy and the more she talks about him and the more i see him i like him too and the other day i caught him looking at me. any way i think if shes a real friend then she should back off
2006-11-03 09:45:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it's cruel to your friend. I did it and it ruined my friendship and led me down a bad relationship road. Friends are hard to find and (dependsing on ur age) love/boyfrineds can wilt away.
2006-11-03 09:47:01 · answer #6 · answered by pirate prince 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let me ask you one thing...is he worth losing a friendship over? cuz you know, yall are just in high school. that crap aint gonna last. your friends do though. dont burn any bridges you may need to cross one day.
2006-11-03 09:44:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i dont think you 2 should break up because of her, but you should have never betrayed her trust like that. girls like you are the reason i dont trust many of them
2006-11-03 09:44:24 · answer #8 · answered by blondie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
B/C that'll make you a back stabbing W H O R E........BROS BEFORE HOES (This is a man law it should apply to women to )
2006-11-03 09:50:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wel it is kinda wrong but who cars she can move on
2006-11-03 09:45:04 · answer #10 · answered by irishchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELL YEAH IT IS WRONG THAT IS JUST MESSED UP. HOW COULD YOU DO THAT TO YOUR FRIEND?
2006-11-03 09:43:00 · answer #11 · answered by CUTIE BATOOTIE 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋