I met someone on here and he decided that he was going to move to be with me but before he got the chance to move his wife came back to him after she found out that he was moving to be with me. Now his wife keeps calling me and harassing me and my friend. I have since put a trace on my phone so everytime she calls I can trace it but the thing is that the phone is in his name and I dont want him to get into trouble but I want the calls to stop!!! How do I go on and how do I get the calls to stop and yes he still calls me but he hasnt for the past 2 days and I just want to tell him to have his wife stop calling me. He said that one of the things they agreed to is that him and I can still be friends and talk occasionally because she still talks to her exboyfriend that she slept with (which by the way she was "hanging out" with when she was gone.) Him and I never slept together but I still want to be his friend and I dont want his psycho wife calling me anymore....what should I do?????
2006-11-03 09:31:15 · 18 answers · asked by dede 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
His wife left him and I tried to be a friend to him...I dont want to cause problems between them all I want is for her to leave me alone. I let him go and hnow she wont let me go
2006-11-03 10:04:46 · update #1
In this type of situation you cant be friends. All that "friends" means is that you want to stay in touch with the hopes that one
day you two will be able to "get together". He is married and NO matter what the circumstances of his marriage he has a wife.
Do you REALLY want to put your life on hold for someone who already has a wife?? Happily married or not......he is married.
Trust me continuing in any type of relationship with this guy is just going to lead to BIG heartache for YOU!!!
Good luck
2006-11-03 09:43:13 · answer #1 · answered by Trish 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it may be hard... but out of respect for whatever immature relationship he and his wife have together, you should back off completely, she might tell him that its ok to be your friend, but obviously it really isnt or she would not still be calling you and your friend. Maybe when she calls one time, if she is sane and calm enough you will be able to explain that you want to be his friend but if it has to be such trouble you will leave him alone and she should not call you anymore... there is nothing going on between you too. And if she doesnt respect that, i would tell him to show you some respect and make her stop calling you.. or you will have to get legal help to make her stop. There are ways to prove its her calling and not him even though the phone is in his name.. good luck
2006-11-03 17:36:51 · answer #2 · answered by kjphillips_hines 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change your phone number and stop talking to him.. He is just trouble and you don't need friends like that. Not all guys out there r psychos. Move on and forget about him you can find a better friend that will treat you with respect.
2006-11-03 17:36:42 · answer #3 · answered by Sharpie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you have gotten yourself into one big mess. The only way out is to cut all ties with the guy and most assuredly the wife wont feel the need to call anymore. I would not date a man who could not keep in women in check. I think that if he really cared anything about you then he would have broken it off with her and told her not to call you.
2006-11-03 17:35:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't like my answer but I think you should change your phone number or purchase a blocking service. Then you should stay away from both the husband and wife.
Dede, you will never be happy in this situation.
2006-11-03 17:39:12 · answer #5 · answered by The It Girl ∆☻乐 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the police and file a police report for harassment. Then, you can get a restraining order (you can't get an order of protection if you don't have a police report).
After you do that, forget about the husband/your boyfriend. All this drama is not worth it especially if he went back to that psycho.
2006-11-03 17:32:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well you should definetley call him and if he doesn't answer or call down visit him at his house or at work and tell him about her. He should listen and understand since he still cares about you enough to be friends. If she stops you know he talked to her and if she doesn't stop talk to him again and talk to her or call the police. I'm sure he wont be mad at you and if he is it's his loss. I'm sure you'll find another boyfriend and I know it hurts to move on but trust me you will feel better.
2006-11-03 17:38:13 · answer #7 · answered by emily o 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what u should do is let him get a divorce first and besides how would u like it if u were married and your man was moving in with another girl im sure u would be calling and harassing her 2 just let him go
2006-11-03 17:34:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOVE ON! This person is married and you should NOT be chasing after him. How would you like for your husband to be planning to move in with someone else? You sound very selfish and you need to grow up.
2006-11-03 17:34:49 · answer #9 · answered by ladysteelersince1976 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU DESERVE EVERYTHING YOU GET! YOU WANT TO MESS WITH A MARRIED MAN, BUT YOU WON'T STAND UP TO HIS WIFE, WHAT A COWARD YOU ARE. STOP COMPLAINING YOU PUT YOURSELF IN THE SITUATION SO TO BAD. I DO HAVE A VERY SIMPLE ANSWER AND IT IS COMMAN SENSE BUT I THINK THAT YOU NEED TO BE CALLED BY HER AND YOU NEED TO GROW UP AND TALK TO HER YOU ARE WHAT GIVES WOMAN A BAD NAME.. I HOPE THIS HAPPENS TO YOU ONE DAY AND THEN YOU WILL SEE HOW BAD SHE MUST FEEL.
2006-11-03 17:35:56 · answer #10 · answered by melissa052572 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋