I could go on for days about how my [boyfriend] and I argue. He starts the arguements and I feel like I'm constantly defending myself. He puts me down, he calls me names...why i've stayed as long as I have...because he aplogizes and admits his wrongs -- I feel like I keep giving him second, third, and fourth chances...is it worth it? I enjoy being single but our relationship is "wierd" -- we still love eachother very much -- but our relationship is so much better as friends -- He want's to try again...do I give him another chance to see if he's really changed??
NO BULLSH*T ANSWERS! REAL TALK, PEOPLE!
2006-11-03 09:26:46 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The more things change the more they stay the same.
Drop him. At least right now you still have some respect for each other.
2006-11-03 09:28:30 · answer #1 · answered by MisterO 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok I've been in your situation before. I kept giving him chances over and over again but the story never changed. What you need to do is start hanging out with friends or family. Find an activity that you like to do or find a hobby to keep your mind off of him. Don't give him a second. Guys won't change unless they want to change and 9 times out of 10 they won't. Be strong. You'll find a guy that'll treat you better in the end.
2006-11-03 09:48:44 · answer #2 · answered by kero 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie.
Leave him for good! You guys are in an abusive relationship. It's not healthy, and very emtionally draining.
It's one thing for couple to have disagreements and aruging with one another, but if he put you down and called you name. That's verbal and emtional abuse right there. And in the long wrong, it will mess you up. Trust me, I've been there and done that. If he really loves you like he says he does, he would've watched what he said even when he is upset. It's easy to say I am sorry and apologize to someone. But you have to mean it and not do it again. That's the point of apology.
U don't need a man in your life to bring you down and pull you back. I know it must be hard to break away for someone you've been together for a long time. But trust me, you don't want to spend years of you life to one day realize that you've wasted you time.
Good luck and my best wish to you~
2006-11-03 09:35:10 · answer #3 · answered by uu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do no longer you recognize each and every of the turmoil and drama you have been by using? Why are you nevertheless clinging to the belief of doing something with him? awaken. as quickly as a cheater, continually a cheater. Cheaters are reallly sturdy at mendacity. You act as though he's the only guy interior the worldwide!! definite, judging out of your long tale, you will attempt over and over to bypass back with him, no count how many human beings answer your question telling you to no longer. . . It won't artwork, yet i think of you would be this kind of individual who won't settle for the certainty which you made an quite undesirable determination with him.
2016-10-15 08:33:15 · answer #4 · answered by tsang 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let this guy go for when you love someone you don't take your anger or bad days on to the other person there is no reason for that BS !! We all have our bad days but to constantly put the other one down is not cool no matter how sorry the other person is if he really loved you he would not put you down in the 1st place.
2006-11-03 09:30:02 · answer #5 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True Friendship is hard to find,and you admitted in your own words that you two are the best of friends.
Why not step back on the "relationship"and focus on the friendship.If the relationship is meant to be it will develop on it 's own.
Sounds like your both guilty of rushing what has the potential to be a really good thing.................Good Luck!
2006-11-03 09:37:02 · answer #6 · answered by Freethrashing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to tell you that, but some people never change, no matter how many chances they have. You have the right to be happy, not to worry every moment about your boyfriend's mood...Move on! Give this chance to yourself
2006-11-03 09:32:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is completely up to you. If you feel like it might work then give it a shot! Make sure he knows why you guys split up in the first place and make sure he works on that. Whatever you decide, I wish you luck!
2006-11-03 09:29:42 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Amanda♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex did that all the time. Ask him why you should take him back. My ex finally couldnt take 'everything' and he left. Love is a good reason to stay together but that doesnt mean it's the only reason.
2006-11-03 09:38:43 · answer #9 · answered by pirate prince 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up. Its too much on you. You can't be expected to stay with someone so disrespectful. You can stay friends, but boyfriend and girlfriend is too much.
2006-11-03 09:30:22 · answer #10 · answered by Donovan G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋