broke...alone...desperate...how to deal with?

Question

with a broke heart...how to stay away from someone you know is not right for you...how can you finally start thinking about urself instead of everybody else...why am i so weak

Answer 1

Go out with friends, flirt with everyone whether you are interested or not, and drink a lot for a couple of weeks.

Answer 2

There's a song called "How can you mend a broken Heart."
Your not as weak as you think you are. Time will heal trust me. Once you make that first step on finding your way out away from this person, you will gain your strength back. I believe you had that at one point in your life. The key to start thinking of yourself is to have no contact with everyone else that is bringing you down. There are places out there to call for help when feeling down and they can also help you get started on the road to recovery. Again you lost your strenght but i know it will come back. And keep in mind you are not the only one in the world feeling this way ok?
Hold your head up and tell yourself i can do this. Its mind over matter. I'm not going to sigh off with a good-luck. Because i know you have luck in you. You just have to reach in and take it out.
All the best to you.

Answer 3

You are doing all of this because you want to feel better about yourself, you feel that if you could just get him to love you then everything in your life will fall into place. But the reality is that even if you win him he will never be what you really want.

Your obsesson with him is also taking the focus off of what is really wrong and it is your self - esteem and self - confidence. If you don't get counseling now for your low self-image then you will end up a divorced mother one day, very unhappy and very broke and very desparate.

You need to get counseling, from a professional, you are headed down a dark lonely road if you don't. I have been there and it is very tiring to make bad decisions. I got counseling 3 years ago and it has changed my life for the better.

Read any self help books you can get your hands on....any book by "Susan Jeffers" for starts.

I also have my sneaking suspicions you are very young....so.....while you have time, surround yourself with smart, wise women that you admire and learn from them and not people who have gone down the wrong path.

and listen to "sweetcity" she seems very smart.... positive reinforcement in your own life is something you should do, don't every put yourself down, you have got to believe that you can overcome this.

Answer 4

Your not weak. Your human.
Having control over your own mind, is something that has to be practiced.
It is not something we are born with.

The one and only person you truly live with in life, is yourself.
But, we are all influenced by others to a great degree.

When you first learnt to spell your name as a child, you had to repeat it many times to get it right.

Repeat in your mind, you don't want to see her. You are what matters. Look inside yourself and start to care, by repeating words that you need to hear. And get a little angry at yourself and tell yourself, verbally <<<< that your not weak, that your a strong man. Because know one knows your weak except yourself.

Answer 5

You have to learn to love and value yourself. If you know you shouldn't be around the guy then plain and simple don't be around him, don't call him, erase his number, get rid of his picture and everything that he may have bought for you or that reminds you of him. You finally start thinking about yourself when you realize that you are worth something and that if you run yourself ragged caring for others then you'll never have time to heal yourself. Once people start using you, they don't stop until they've used you into the ground. Put your foot down, start saying no, even though people may get mad, they will respect that they can't take advantage of you b/c you value yourself and sure enough they will start valuing you too.

Answer 6

surround yourselfe with friends and loved one and this will help you get through it faster. Whatever you do refrain from calling her- if she srelaly lvoes you she will come back to you if not it just means that it wasn't meant to be. Good luck to you and i guarantee this is jsut a bump in the road you'er gonna have to deal with and get over. After al the rain- theres' a sunshine. Be positive. When you least expect it- soemone noew, loving will come into your life. The problem with people now adays is that they ook for love in all the wrong places and end up broken hearrted. Good luck son!

Answer 7

You are weak, but you can make your willpower stronger.

It's possible to teach yourself, gradually in little stages.

In the meantime, I advise you to find somewhere else to go, and to mix with some others, so the temptations don't become too great.

Good luck!

Answer 8

broke
get a job
alone
get more friens
desprate get a date
srrry that wasd rude u can try tlkn to a councler or just tlk more to peeps at skool and dont listen to daybig hes stupid sex is for after u r married kk if u take his advice u could get an std and if u r a girl u could get pregnate or both

Answer 9

Just do it, stop wasting time you will regret it you will get to a point where enough is enough sometimes that takes a long time and alot of pain, just end it now, I'm speaking from experience it took me 7 years and I'm sorry I wasted so much time!!!!!!!!

Answer 10

Every one can be weak when they are hurt. You will be fine honest. JUST STAY AWAY you know they are wrong for you - you typed it!