when i talk to girls and become friends with them they start to like me and then when the ask me out i say no because they mean to much to me to date them .
what should i do ?
2006-11-03 09:10:14 · 31 answers · asked by ryan p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get a girlfriend.
2006-11-03 09:11:58 · answer #1 · answered by ndtaya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a boyfriend to have sex with. If you're into that. Otherwise, you may just not have a strong sex drive (hormonal balance). So who cares?! Friendship is the most important thing in any good relationship anyway. If you're satisfied with that, then be happy and enjoy your friendships.
If it keeps up, though, you may want some counseling to help you figure out why you think it would hurt your relationship to be more intimate with someone you are attracted with. You may have had some bad role models in this department, or bad personal experiences, and need to learn to reconcile your judgments from this, as well as to learn some good relationship skills. The key is to keep up the relationship skills that you have with your friends after you have bared your bodies and souls to each other. It can be difficult, but satisfying when you refine it to an art form. Just have fun with it either way, and good luck!
2006-11-03 17:20:02 · answer #2 · answered by kim b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have to do anything about this. This is a great quality in guys. Over time, who's to say the friendship you respect and want to maintain won't turn into a wonderful relationship? Just stand your ground and explain that you would hate for something to go wrong in a relationship where you not only lose the relationship, but you may well mess up a great friendship too! It is better to at least be friends than nothing at all, and any girl should understand that!!
2006-11-03 17:15:04 · answer #3 · answered by Tara C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you what someone once told me. Go ahead and become friends with these people and IF YOU want to date them....date them. Because, truth be told, chances are that you will NOT even be friends in 2 or 3 years; however, by not dating
them you may be missing out on the love of your life.
If you are not interested in dating them then dont worry about it.
2006-11-03 17:16:56 · answer #4 · answered by Trish 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well when you start to become friends with them make it clear to them that you just want to be friends and nothing more with them..tell them taht you are not looking for a relationship right now. if you don't know how or when to say it..just bring iit up in a conversation, very casually.. just make sure you tell them taht before they start having feelings for you,. Or if you have feelings for them before you become friends with them..ask them out before you become to close with them and then that way you can grow closer to them while you are dating and then you don't have tehat akward friends pahse
2006-11-03 17:13:55 · answer #5 · answered by Newfie_Girl_13 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well first of all you should be priverlidged that all these girls care about you so much they dont want to loose that if it turns out to be a bad relationship but also dont change the way you are with girls just so you can get one to be serious just be yourself mate and i swear the right girl will just come.. theres no system you should go through besides being friends first is a great idea
good luck m8... :D:D:D
2006-11-03 17:13:38 · answer #6 · answered by *!*Rach H*!* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
going on a date isn't a life sentence, and it isn't going to ruin a friendship. Just make sure you make it clear to them that you are interested in going out just to get to know them better and to better the friendship. If you are honest, then you can still feel comfortable to be yourself and have fun with a friend.
2006-11-03 17:13:15 · answer #7 · answered by mrs. awesome 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who would you like to date if not a friend that means a lot to you, that care for?
2006-11-03 17:12:42 · answer #8 · answered by Feather 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every girl you know means to much to you to date them? I find that hard to believe. Are you afraid of being hurt?
2006-11-03 17:13:09 · answer #9 · answered by bttrfly0724 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say yes and if it do not work out try again and everyone makes mistakes ok so do not feel that u r doing the wrong thing by saying no ok
2006-11-03 17:14:54 · answer #10 · answered by Kelly 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow that is really sweet. Maybe going out is just another step up from best friends. Try it with the one you like the most. It may work out.
2006-11-03 17:14:35 · answer #11 · answered by Lala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋