well if I like a man, and I ask him out ,and he says yes, or because I showed him I liked him and he then asks me out, what happens if he just wants sex, what do I do ,
how do I know he a man is true ,
thats what really worries me, I never been out with any one, I just dont know if I can trust some one , like he might just be after one thing only im 21 I want to meet someone, I just dont want to make a mistake , so how do you know if the man is not just want to use
2006-11-03 09:05:55 · 25 answers · asked by chrstian jesus is god 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Make him wait..if he sticks around it means he respects you...he wont pressurise you also.
2006-11-03 09:08:06 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look, at 21years old you should by now work out that all men want sex just about all the time, and just about all women too.
What your wanting is someone who wants to get to know you before you jump into bed and that's really where you call the shots.
Just about any guy will sleep with you if you ask him to, so make him wait untill your ready. The chance of you finding a guy who wants to wait untill he's 'genuinely ready' is quite slim, lots of girls are the same so we're not fooling anyone here.
Hoiw long you make him wait is up to you, i would suggest that you should wait until you've had at least 3 proper dates over at least 2 weeks to find out what he's really like.
Most guys who only want to jump your bones will have called it a day by then.
You might want to wait 3 weeks or 3 months, there is no right or wrong because it's your decision, just don't be put under pressure. That might mean your careful not to put yourself into a situation where you might be pressured, alone in a bedroom for example.
At 21 you should by now have a grasp of the diffrence between little boys and a good man, you just need to take your time finding the right one.
2006-11-03 17:22:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are so jittery like that, then you shouldn't be in a relationship at all. Just have faith and trust in your new found love and stop speculating. If you have your doubts about this guy, then do not go to a secluded place, go to a restuarant or bar until you know him better. You seem not to have known him long enough but obviously one day he will want sex and if you don't want, you just tell him to stop his advances. If he persists then your fears will have turned into reality and from there you will have to make your own decision: either to report him to the police or to break the relationship.
2006-11-03 17:34:02 · answer #3 · answered by marizani 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is just be up front and honest with any guy to go out on a date with. Let him know that you have absolutely no intention of the date leading to sex. If the guy truely does like you, he will take the time to get to know you on a personal level, no matter how long it takes. I would reccommend going on many dates with several different guys to broaden your selection. You are still young yet and have plenty of time to make a choice on a life partner. Just take your time and dont let anyone pressure you into doing something you dont want to do.
2006-11-03 17:26:00 · answer #4 · answered by Help Me Help You 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get to know a guy before you have sex with him! Just remember that he wants sex - no matter who he is, how "nice" he is, whatever else he's interested in, he's definately interested in sex. You find out if you can trust him by spending time with him and judging how he acts before you have sex. Simple as that.
Don't worry so much about making a mistake. If you don't make a few mistakes, you're not really living your life.
2006-11-03 17:11:59 · answer #5 · answered by gambia_joy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't put out for first 3 weeks. If he still shows the same interest then he is not just after sex
2006-11-03 17:12:58 · answer #6 · answered by Existentialist_Guru 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most men want sex on first date it doesn't mean their after a 1 night stand, but if he's polite enough he will wait till you make the first move, he might touch you sexually but it doesn't mean he wants too jump into bed with you straight away. most men are all talk if they seem shy and clumsy it tends too mean they like you alot and not that their just slow in coming forward, most men just don't seem willing or able too express their true emotions until they feel comfortable with a lass.
2006-11-04 05:33:23 · answer #7 · answered by markj1007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is about making mistakes, but learning from them. If a man seems to be only after "one thing", you can always say "No!"
If he is serious, he will continue to want to see you.
2006-11-03 17:45:46 · answer #8 · answered by simon2blues 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to hold off on sex for a while. It will probably cause him to want it more, though. In general, the longer a woman holds off on sex while in a relationship, the more power she has. The quicker she gives it up, the more power the guy has.
2006-11-03 17:09:39 · answer #9 · answered by ftz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out with him. If he just wants sex and you don't want to, say NO! Have a great time! You'll never know if this guy's a great guy if you don't give him the opportunity to show you!
2006-11-03 17:08:25 · answer #10 · answered by CJ P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the problem is that you may find that a person is not real after a very long time but this is not a reason for not making any relationships you shouldnt be so afraid of making mistakes
we look alike dont we?:)
2006-11-03 17:10:52 · answer #11 · answered by girl24gr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋