would u be offended if this happen to u??? i have this friend with benefits and we have fun and we dont jus...

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have sex we go out and go to movies n go to lunch alot n hang out with our friends. hes older then me but i dont care n nither does he.
we were eating lunch the other day and he was looking through my phone so i figured id look through his so i looked through his pictures n i saw this pic of him kissing this girl. and i said ooooooo and hes all theres prolly a picture in there u wont like... and i really dont care about tha picture...its not like we r together u kno? so i said what of u kissing a gurl? and hes all yeah, shes gone i should delete that cuz shes way gone and has been...like she was an old gf that he broke up with? thats what i thought it sounded like...so im not offended by the picture at all. we arent together but idk if he thinks we r cuz he said that and he likes to hold hands and stuff that he does. but i think its wierd because it sounded like she was old but i kno that the picture was taken at most a week ago...so idk would u be offended and say smthing?

the only thing that is bothering me is that hes like oh yeah shes gone or whatever. i dont want him to lie to me i dont care. im not stupid i kno about when the picture was taken...so idk if i should just be like u kno im not stupid i kno that the pic isnt old and yeah...

and i dont want to be together with him.

Answer 1

You said you were friends with benefits right!!! Who cares!! The only thingImight be tripped up over is why he might feel like he might have to lie bout it!!!
But hey , youdidn't make any promises to one another right

Answer 2

Knowing that I wasn't coupled, no I wouldn't be offended or anything like that.
There is a conflict in your issue though... You say you're not together, but yet you're doings things like you are... If this guy's your best friend, you wouldn't be sleeping together, holding hands so much.
I know a friendship can be very strong, but this one's a bit too strong to deny you've become an item.
Although you're asking about a picture as the issue, you should check up about the two of you. With the intimate things you two have been doing, then you denying going out, but assume he may be under that impressions with the response you got over a picture of him and his ex, you should reflect over yourself too... You may actually be leading him on, or maybe you really should make it "official" you two should be an item... It's about time that part comes to light far more importantly than how you should react to a picture.
Are you friends, or should you be lovers? Cut the crap and start opening up to each other, before you both wil be hurt, all in the wrong way.

Answer 3

If your friends with benefits then there is no problem at all. It appears however that one, or both of you is catching feelings which will lead to one of two things. You wont be friends with benefits anymore, or you'll be together. If the situations like the ones you stated keep arising then your results aren't good. In terms of holding hands. That is no big deal, you forget you have sex with this man, and in that you two do a whole lot more than holding hands. Just watch for more signs from either him or yourself, then make a decision.

Answer 4

What signals do you want to send?

I am an older gentleman and I think it would be great to be in a mutual beneficial friend with benefits relationship. But, that type of relationship would not keep me from wanting something more permanent or looking for something more permanent. I would hate to be dumped at an age that I was no longer considered a candidate for the women I am interested in.

If it bothers you, then you need to talk it over with him. If you want him to be exclusive, then it might require some rethinking on both his and your part. If you continue as friends with benefits, just remember that once he finds a more permanent relationship, your benefit package will end before you want it to. He is concerned that his benefit package will end before he wants it to, or he would not have been flirting with someone else.

Answer 5

I just want you to know that when you and a friend become involved and start having sex then most men consider that to be a relationship. Just thought you should know that bit of info. If you don't see him as the relationship type then you should probably let him know because he seems to be clueless at this point. You do things like couples in a relationship do so why aren't you in a relationship. A stranger such as myself would think that you are in on just from reading what you have written. Don't play with his heart like this because you are going to end what seems like a great friendship. He will resent you for the rest of your life trust me I know. I hope that it works out for you but you really need to just be friends and cut out the benefits that go along with it.

Answer 6

Ok I am not going to sit here and tell you you are too young. Because it will happen somtime probably sooner than later. Now be careful this dosent play with your emotions. And Just some quick tips: never include your face in sexting and stuff u never know who will see it. And You apply pressure to the bottom and friction to the top. But dont squeeze too hard cause that will hurt. And if this leads to sex plzzz use a condom because last thing you need is to be pregnat with somones baby who dosent care about you in that way..

Answer 7

What?

You guys are about to hit that zone where things start getting weird with the whole "friends with benefits" relationship.

One person starts liking the other and the other thinks it's nothing and it all get crazy then it goes all or nothing.

Answer 8

If you guys were in a monagamous relationship, you wouldn't even need to ask this question. The friends with benefits concept makes no sense whatsoever.

Answer 9

Youve put yourself in this position. You need to realize that theres good and bad that goes along with this type of relationship.
So unless its understood that you 2 are exclusive theres no reason to be offended,

Answer 10

Are you wanting to mess with his mind? Saying something is exactly what you will be doing if you do. You kept saying you were not together, so I believe you answered your own question.