Where do you stand on the whole "don't mess with anyone else's boyfriend/girlfriend" thing? Sometimes you can't really tell who's in a relationship and who is not. What if that particular guy (or girl) is unhappy in their relationship? It doesn't give them the right to cheat but if someone else comes along and happens to "steal" them away from their mate, is that wrong? And technically your not in a permanant relationship anyways unless you're married but then again....
That could be the person that you were looking for your whole life and then somebody else wants to step in and ruin it. Why would you want to mess with something good that someone else has?
What side are you on?
2006-11-03 08:48:06 · 28 answers · asked by Yondie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow...people on here really don't read questions carefully...STOP ASSUMING SH!T!!! It's an opinion question. And just to stop the comments from coming...someone stole MY boyfriend. The relationship was sh!t anyways but I don't know if I should be happy or mad about it
2006-11-03 08:52:32 · update #1
People don't care if they ruin others unless there are real consequences.
2006-11-03 08:50:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay, I've been married for 12 wonderful years. When a person is in a relationship, and meets other people, and don't tell those other people, the other people should be safe in thinking they are unattached. If a person is in a happy relationship, they will normally tell the other people they are. But if they aren't in a happy relationship and are too chicken to end it, they end up hurting the partner in the relationship. If you meet someone, and find out they are in a relationship, it should be hands off until they are unattached. It was that way for me when I was single, and you can't "steal" one person from another unless they want to be stolen. So while you risk being a "home wrecker" you cannot wreck a home that is whole and happy. You would only be advancing the end of the relationship, but then you might be destroying any chance of salvaging the relationship that is in trouble.... I'm on the side of being honest.
2006-11-03 09:11:21 · answer #2 · answered by ihave5katz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm hoping you'll accept this answer from a divorced woman who has indeed experienced having a former spouse think the grass was greener on the other side. If a man or woman show this pattern of behavior before they are married it will be very difficult for them to break this pattern even when married. You do have a point when you say "what if they are unhappy and something better comes along". Well, do you really want someone who has no backbone to get out of a crappy relationship and be confident enough with himself to enjoy life alone? what if you hooked up with this guy and the excitement left your relationship? Just some points to think about. Good luck.
2006-11-03 08:52:15 · answer #3 · answered by J D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If someone can steal away your "good thing" then something is wrong with the relationship. He may have been what you were looking for, but you may not be what he was looking for. Think about that. It always takes two sides to make a relationship. If both are satisfied, then nothing will separate them. So, maybe someone didn't steal them, maybe they were just looking for a way out. Be Happy!!!
2006-11-03 08:54:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am married and I am still going to answer this question. I used to think if they were in a relationship they were off limits, but I no longer believe that anymore. They are game as long as they are not married. Until the ring is on that finger and they have said the I do's. There was a couple I really respected. They were very religious too. I was very impressed to later find out that she was engaged to someone else when he fell in love with her. He swept her off her feet and now they are married. I think the story is awfully romantic. They are a wonderful couple. Just think if he sat back and said nothing. Besides that is one of the blessing of Marriage is that you are off the market now :)
2006-11-03 09:00:09 · answer #5 · answered by Glee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If that person is in an unhappy relationship, let them end it when they want to, don't step in. It makes you look like the bad guy if you steal a guy away from some other girl. That couple can't be soul mates if one's not satisfied with their relationship, but still. I would take the back seat in this and let that guy (or girl) decide for themselves what they want to do.
2006-11-03 08:52:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am in a relationship but I will try and look at it from both sides (it will get kinda long), and I find it kind of annoying when guys flirt with her. but I understand that we don't really make it very obvious that we are dating each other so I just tell them to back down and find someone else. but if they continue then I get angry (I usually give them 2 chances before I start to become irritated)
and it is especially annoying if what they are doing is annoying my gf. when that happens I defend her by directly confronting the guy and telling him to stand down immediately.
now for the single's point of view.
you are right sometimes you cant tell (I didn't know that my current gf had ended a relationship only 2 weeks before I asked her out and it happened to be my best friend's brother that she was dating) and you are not at fault.
however if you do know that they are already dating someone then you should back down because if you don't you could be ruining a very happy relationship.
2006-11-03 09:03:18 · answer #7 · answered by Davy D 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
thats a toughy,i have been married for going on ten years, never really did what you would call date or anything and yet there are times when i wish someone would steal my hubby away just because he can be a real pain in the ****,but honestly you just have to have that feeling within yourself that this person is worth fighting for and take a stand against whoever you think might be trying to steal him/her away.if you really have feelings for this person then tell them and maybe start working on something more serious.you have to make it known what your intentions are with the "relationship"or they are pretty much free to roam around and enjoy their life with no looking back.sometimes the door only opens once...then it closes forever or even a few years,then everything changes including how you thought you felt about this person...
2006-11-03 08:56:10 · answer #8 · answered by crystal d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess you have to count on the other person to let you know if they're involved already or not. If they don't, it's not your fault if they're cheating on someone with you. If I found out someone was interested in me, but was already involved, I wouldn't go forward with anything till that someone ended the current relationship and maybe took a couple months off. Basically, I wouldn't want anyone to cheat on me, so I wouldn't get involved with cheating (on either side) with anyone else. Additionally, if I was with someone, and she wanted out, I'd hope she'd be adult enough to tell me as much and cut it clean.
2006-11-03 09:04:26 · answer #9 · answered by czimme3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't Mess!
well if they are unhappy with their relationship they can put a stop over it before start a new one.
personally i don't want to interfere with other's Bf, coz it's just not ethichal and i don't want to feel it first hand.
never judge that others relationship is not going to work out, we never know how hard they are trying.
the conclusion.... Don't mess with other Bf, for GOD's sake, there's s many other single guy or girl out there.
2006-11-03 08:55:36 · answer #10 · answered by Blue Moon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In a relationship, one cannot steal another ones boyfriend or girlfriend unless the person they are trying to steal helps them along, and the same as in a marriage, one cannot steal the wife or husband, unless the wife or husband allows them to steal them! Does this answer your question?
2006-11-03 08:54:44 · answer #11 · answered by Gerry 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋