What do men have against single moms?

Question

I don't get it, I'm 32, and feel it's almost impossible to date!

Answer 1

I personally wanted single Moms when I was dating, hang in there, the right guy will love the fact you have kids too and he will probably have some of his own :)

Answer 2

I personally have nothing against single moms, but I'm off the dating circuit.

When I was single, oh so long ago, I didn't mind dating moms.

There was some awkwardness associated with the daughter of the mom I dated for a while, but that wasn't the deal-breaker. It turned out she was single cuz she was psychotic and on medication.

Some guys don't date moms because of the pressure of impressing both the mom and being judged buy the kids at the same time. Older kids might compare the suitor to the absent father. Younger kids may become resentful of the split attention of the mom, or get attached to the suitor as "dad" and cause a rift between you and the guy by hogging his attention.

Be patient, be yourself, and be prepared when the opportunity arises. There are some dogs out there, masquerading as men, but you've probably already discovered that. But on the flip side of the equation, there are some decent human beings out there too.

Answer 3

I would date you

Answer 4

From a males perspective and I don't speak for all men nor myself. But I think for some guys a single mom is considered to have the baggage!!

someone else's and also in the back of the mind there is that question what is he kids father like is there going to be problems if I get involved type of thing but again this is just a thought.

Answer 5

I got tired of having to work all week, deal with kids and the house, and then Perk Up on Friday nite and go into Cool Dating Person mode. I started chatting online. I met in person and immediately dumped about two thousand guys.

However, there was one man I always got along with. Who had kids, too, and spent a lot (a Lot) of time with them. After just chatting for a year I met him and blew him off as dating material. (Number 2001, force of habit.) We kept chatting. He eventually asked me out again and that was it. I knew. Dated 3 years, have lived together over a year, kids are all happy....he has 3, I have 3..., we don't fight and we have a good solid friendship for when being lovers is too exhausting.

However, when we are alone, this is a very good thing. Yes, very good.

Time and patience, dear. Build the foundation for this next partner. Be comfortable with yourself and believe you have something positive to offer your eventual man. We were both single for 8 years (each) (we have weird things in common)..before we gave ourselves this chance. It'll be ok.

Answer 6

i am a 34 year old single father, i have run into the same problem with women, i finally realized that i was just looking for the wrong kind of woman. i have lately tried looking for a woman with kids and have been much more successful with that. i have now found a great woman who has 2 kids and will soon be moving to be with them. most guys still have a lot of growing up to do and dont want to be tied down with kids, which is a shame, they just dont realize how great kids are, they think of them as a burden which they are not, they are a blessing. i have been raising my kids for 11 years now by myself and it is hard, but i know it is totally worth it. i wish you the best of luck finding the right man, he is out there somewhere, no doubt about it.

Answer 7

Not all men hate single Moms you must be going to the wrong places,you wont find him in a bar.Try someplace thats not a place that people go just for all the wrong reasons.I love kids,I have a 7 year old boy and am a single father,but you could be sending out the wrong vibes.It will happen ,least you expect it

Answer 8

I met the most perfect man on earth 9 months after my divorce. I have 4 kids. If I can find true love I believe you can too. You just need to get out and meet other single parents. Together we have 7 kids.

Answer 9

This can't surprise you. Most men don't want the "responsibility" of a ready-made family. I think this is true especially for the "single men without children of their own".

The good news is, they aren't all like that! I have two sons in their mid and late 30's, one has never been married and the other is divorced with one son. They are both "nice" guys and neither of them care if someone they date has children.

Keep looking, there are still a few good ones out there!

Answer 10

Nothing against them. Thats just kind of a big deal. Baby daddy drama is one thing. I know that if I had a child with a woman that I wasn't with, I wouldn't want some man around them, so I tend to avoid women with children. Women without children are more flexible and available to do fun stuff, where as women with children have more responsibilities.