so me and my ex finally got back together. FINALLY!!! and then i hear the same stuff i heard years ago. me and my bf have been off and on for two years. people always say were going to get married! but like i was saying im stating to hear the same stuff i heard years ago, he is always hugging or touching some girl. and i am a really jelous person. expecially when it comes to my man. what should i do! i relally want it to work out between me and him this time! i do love him! help!11
2006-11-03 08:37:53 · 12 answers · asked by ♥la chica♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him exactly how you feel.
It's all about COMMUNICATION.
My boyfriend's friends consist mostly of girls.
I trust him with all my heart.
Before we started going out, I knew how he was (we've been friends for a long time). I told him how I felt about the vibe he gives off (the flirty vibe) and how he tends to hug girls and everything. He respected me and doesn't do that anymore. It's been 9 months and he still remembers how I feel about that.
Just talk to him.
If he loves you, he'll understand and respect you for that.
2006-11-03 08:40:18 · answer #1 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
I know how you feel about being jealous expecially with your man. I am the exact same way. My husband and I have been together since we were 14 and 15 and we are now 20 and 2. We have been married for 2 years and have 1 child and another on the way. We are from a small town(like a total of 700 people) so rumors are everywhere. I heard things from exgirlfriends and girls who wanted him. I heard things like "I could of had him at any time if I wanted him" and bad things he has supposedly said about me. List goes on. The point of the matter is you have to trust him. Me personally I am horrible. I check his cell phone records, his truck, his e-mail, and occassionally his wallet. Now I am not saying this is right because it really isn't. But if you really love him and want this to work a little checking up on is what you need to do. Trust me you will find something if there is anything to find.
2006-11-03 16:47:08 · answer #2 · answered by young mom of two 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) This has to do with your jealousy, not him. You need to learn how to trust him, or you're going to go nowhere very quickly.
2) Ask him about it. Don't accuse, just ask. If you do accuse, he's going get defensive and block you out. You NEED to talk to him about this. Remember, communication is KEY in any relationship.
3) "People always say we[']re going to get married"--who cares? They don't know what's going on in your relationship. YOU determine if you're going to get married. Do not get the marriage blindfold put on. In other words, don't get so assumed with the notion of marriage that you forget about the relationship. EVERYTHING that is bothering you now, the jealousy, your insecurities, EVERYTHING is still going to be there if/when you get married.
2006-11-03 16:41:34 · answer #3 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is devoted to you he should not be hugging or touching on anyone but you. A little harmless flirting does not require contact. He was you ex before for a reason. Maybe you should have left it that way.
2006-11-03 16:40:37 · answer #4 · answered by bttrfly0724 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hearing is one thing an real event is another people could be making it up to ruin your relationship,
or it may be true do you have trust??
Who do you trust the one your sleeping with or others?
2006-11-03 16:41:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that he had cheated on you so then go on with your life there is a better man out there that actually wants you and wont hug another girl beside you well move on with your life who knows he can be sleeping with another girl you don't know that move on with your life you deserve better then that and he does not deserve you OK move on with you life
2006-11-03 16:43:42 · answer #6 · answered by tiffany p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are plenty of other fish in the sea. Don't stress yourself out over this loser. Find yourself someone who will respect you in all aspects.
2006-11-03 16:40:48 · answer #7 · answered by gemone523 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him know how you feel, back off a little and see how he reacts if he doesn't respect the fact that it bothers you maybe you should move on
2006-11-03 16:41:00 · answer #8 · answered by Mickey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he can respect you and the fact it bothers you that he is hugginh and touching other women then maybe you need to consider why you love him
2006-11-03 16:40:33 · answer #9 · answered by magdamay34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People will tell you anything sometimes, but move forward not backward
2006-11-03 16:39:32 · answer #10 · answered by Fruitful1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋