My bestfriend has this crush on this guy and she just started liking him. I have liked him for a longer time but havent told her. What should i do and tell her?
She got her friend to ask him if he had a girlfriend and he said yes but wanted to know who liked him. They told him her name and now he wants to know who it is but he thinks its me. And he's ALWAYs looking at me instead of her. What do i do if he like me? what do i do if he asks me out? How do i tell her this?
2006-11-03 08:13:16 · 15 answers · asked by sdchoco 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be honest with yourself and her. Tell her how you feel about him and then you will know whether to keep going after him or to back off. You have to be honest first to go the next step to figure out the rest.
2006-11-03 08:16:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest... that's always (well pretty much anyway) the best way to deal with problems like this. Explain to her that you have liked him for a long time but at the end of the day you might have to let her have him for the sake of your friendship and maybe next time it's better to tell her your feelings and who you have a crush on.
2006-11-03 16:17:26 · answer #2 · answered by Elle :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whether or not either you or your best friend ends up going out with this guy, you have to talk to her. you owe her not less of the honest truth. and its not like its something bad, feelings for someone cant be helped. but its not healthy to hide something like that especially if shes a really good friend. it doesnt really matter who likes him more or who he seems like he's interested in right now.
i think friendship should definitely come first and though its not a solution per se, it has to be done.
you should be open to her and admit the truth or else you are going to harbor bad feelings, regret, resentment that could push your friendship to break regardless of how the both of u feel for this guy.
and since i'm a big person on friendship i dont think a single guy is worth losing a really good friendship over.
good luck
2006-11-03 16:19:17 · answer #3 · answered by Kheris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, he's probably looking at you more because he likes you. But this could really mess up your friendship with your best friend. You really need to ask yourself which one you value the most...I doubt if your best friend would be understanding enough to let you steal her crush....every relationship will be tested & this is a BIG test right here...this is a choice only you can make because you are the one who has to live with the consequences...wishing you the best no matter what....ok? bye bye
2006-11-03 16:25:04 · answer #4 · answered by Danica Fan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he already has a gf then its probably not a good idea to try to get involved with this guy. At least not until he's broken up with his other gf. How head over heels for this guy is your friend?
It does sound like he's more interested in you than her. But you need to ask your self, If he were to brake up with his girlfriend and ask me out. How would my friend feel towards me?
You need to tell her you have a crush on him too. because if he brakes up with his girlfriend and asks you out and you say yes, it could ruin your friendship with your friend who also has a crush on him. You need to ask yourself if this guy is worth losing your friend over.
If you tell her you have a crush on him too maybe then it wont ruin your friendship if you end up going out with him.
Though personally, If it were me I would just forget about him, my friends are worth more to me than a crush.
2006-11-03 16:27:09 · answer #5 · answered by Catelyn O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, shes your friend so tell her that you liked him for longer and you start to like him now. Tell her not to say anything to the guy. sencond of all, if he thinks its you, why dont you just tell him its not you. Now third of all, he looks and likes you a bit more. well you can make 2 or 3 choices. tell your friend that he likes me more and have that risk of ruining your friendship or tell him your other friend likes you more. please go out with her. my choice would be to tell the guy to dont bother about us and tell your friend that your friendship is more important then a cute guy that might break your heart and if its anything to do with our friendship and a guy i fancy hes not gonna seperate us so ditch the guy. or you can just let your friend take him.
2006-11-03 16:28:42 · answer #6 · answered by chocolate wanderer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since she has made in known to you that she's likes him, he is off limits to you in the friendship rule book even if you have liked him for awhile, you never made it known to her. Boys and friendship are a hard combo, keep your friend over the boy, besides he has a girlfriend anyways.
2006-11-03 16:17:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should tell your friend! Tell her that you've liked him for a long time, and that it seems like he likes you too. Ask her for her blessing and go for it! If she is your best friend, she should understand, and be happy for you. Best of luck!
2006-11-03 16:20:43 · answer #8 · answered by Amanda S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her if she is truly your Friend she get it.
2006-11-03 16:18:33 · answer #9 · answered by hottyblast360 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To keep your friendship, neither of you should date him.
2006-11-03 16:14:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋