I need some advise on how I can help my brother see that his girlfriend is no good for him. She is 21 and has a son, but needless to say that isn't the problem. The problem is that she is an extremely irresponsible person. She has gotten my brother into trouble with the law and she isn't even sorry about it. I have tried to talk him out of it, but he is still with her. He says that he feels bad for her son. How could I help him see what a big mistake she really is.
2006-11-03 07:32:00 · 15 answers · asked by ceci_garcia21 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Do what you can by telling him the truth and how you feel but if you cant chage his mind about her then forget about it and just be there for him cuz in the ned its his life that he is messing up.
2006-11-03 07:34:53 · answer #1 · answered by the machine 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why interior the international might they get this disillusioned over it? perhaps using fact he's in basic terms 17 and you're 20? or maybe there is extra to it. i do no longer see them appearing this insane in basic terms considering the fact which you're dating your brother's GF's brother while they do no longer look to be even married. notwithstanding if, you're no longer blood appropriate, so what? If something they could desire to be happy that all and sundry 4 of you are able to have a specified bond could desire to issues artwork out for the long haul. I nevertheless think of there is extra to it then in basic terms this. sturdy good fortune.
2016-10-21 05:14:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay well I can understand your concern, as a sister it is hard to stand back and watch things happen and have no control over them. BUT you brother has to make his own choices and he is saying he feels bad for the kid, then that is going to be hard for you to get him to see anything differently. I think that you can support him in everything he does, I mean if this kid is being treated badly by the mother or abused then yes you need to step in and help get himself out of the situation and th child. It is going to cause him bigger problems in the end. Just be there for him and do the best thing a sister can do just give advice and support. Good luck
2006-11-03 07:43:05 · answer #3 · answered by melissa052572 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say how she got your bro in trouble with the law. Sweetie, you are a good sis to be concerned about your bro, but he isn't going to listen to you. Along with the fact that he must care alot about the little boy. I believe that's where he is feeling torn. Believe it or not, the bet thing you can do for your bro is to let him know that if anything happens, you will be there for him to help out in any way. Until he sees what is in front of him, he can't see.
2006-11-03 07:37:42 · answer #4 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is letyour brother find out for himself, and I think that I would keep your relationship with your brother sane also to just let him se for himself. And as for her having a child you should have never brought that up, cause the child has nothing to do with any of this, so bring up the fact that she has a child was a bit childish on your part.
2006-11-03 07:39:39 · answer #5 · answered by This is just my opinion! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you told him about her and he says he will see her. put this in his mind. 'look brother i know you like her but love can blind every one. she has a son and only 21 so she just sleeps around with any one and since she got you into trouble and didn't even said sorry. i am not saying you should break up with her but take the consequences when she uses and through you away.'
tell this to him nicely get in his emotions and he cant be with her just for her kid he needs to move on does he know how hard it is to look after a kid.
i hoped i helped good luck.
2006-11-03 07:38:23 · answer #6 · answered by baby faced satan woman 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
All I can tell you that for starters, she is a bad influence for her son and your brother. His eyes are blinded by his loves towards her. I have no advise for you brother but try this for starters.Try to record(video camara) them having a fued. REALLY BAD ONE. Then show your brother that you care with best intestion. Finally, show him the video that you have captured and let him see it with own eyes.
2006-11-03 07:49:39 · answer #7 · answered by garfield4_515 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's something he needs to figure out! He may not be able to see what you see yet!!!!!!!
Leave it alone because more than likely he's going to blame you for being in his business. I know that's your brother but just stay clear of the situation. If he wants to let his girlfriend make a fool out of him: LET HIM!
2006-11-03 07:36:23 · answer #8 · answered by TruDiva 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if your bro is only staying with her becuz she has a son then he must be a really cool guy cuz most guys would not hang around becuz of a kid but anywayz he could get custody of the kid and just leave her or watever. sorry im not much help. good luck!!!
2006-11-03 07:37:39 · answer #9 · answered by bella 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant. You will just look bad if you try.
unfortunately it is something he will have to figure out for himself. You really need to stay out of it unless you may lose your relationship with your brother.
Good Luck.
2006-11-03 07:34:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋