need a little help here ladies?

Question

if a girl is happy in her new relationship . . would she still be calling her ex that she dumped for this new guy every couple weeks? . . .even though he hasnt answered or sent her something back in 4 months? and she still tries to contact him . . also . . can girls act completely happy on the outside and really be torn up on the inside? is there any way to tell if a girl is feeling like that? . . and if she wanted her ex back why would she still be with me and acting fine? why wouldnt she go back to him? maybe because she dumped him and doesnt know if he will take her back? they did go out for 2 1/2 years so i dunno . .. whats goin on?
and she hasnt told me that shes been calling him . . . and we have been dating since april and have been in an actual relationship for like 2 months . . . how long would she use me as a rebound if thats what i am? wouldnt it be over by now? it been about a month since she called him now since she was calling him. . . so maybe she will stop . . .
then just today she sent an email to him . . . it was this

hey! i just wanted to tell you that i hope you had a good birthday. i was going to call but i figured you wouldnt answer like usual or stop by and give you a card but you would have probably acted like you werent home lol. so i hope you had a good one. it would really mean a lot if you just sent something back lettin me know how ya were doin and stuff...i'de really appreciate it (name)! kayyy bye. . .

so if he hasnt responded to her since june why is she still trying to get ahold of him . . . when he hasnt responded since june?

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34 minutes ago
and then she just sent this message to him today


"look i know that you are getting my messages...i really just dont understand why you cant even say hi or something?? can you honestly please just give me a reason, like if it still upsets you or something, i mean thats fine. i just figured you could atleast do that for me...so please?"

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21 minutes ago
i should also add that she has been calling/texting him since the begginning of july . . . he tried to get her back for 2 months after she broke up with him. . . they broke up for no reason . .. she just told him she wanted to date around .. . . and she texted him on what would have been there two year anniversary and reminded him of it

Answer 1

There are two things I should say about your relationship:
1. she still cares about him
2. you shouldn't "spy" her text messages .. you need to trust her..but if you don't, there is a reason ..

Answer 2

She is clearly still in love with her ex. Or maybe she has a strong connection with him and doesn't want to give it up, even though her ex isn't responding. It sounds like you are a rebound. Move on now, so you don't get way more involved.

Girls, or anyone can look happy on the outside and be miserable on the inside. Some people cover it up very well, others don't. Try talking to her and spend more time with her. If she keeps trying to contact her ex, maybe you should move on.

Answer 3

hmmmm, sounds like she is still pretty obsessed with him...if I were you I would sit down and have a long talk about your relationship - explain to her that the fact that she is trying to contact her ex gives you the impression that she is trying to get back togehter with him and that hurts your feelings. After you have this little chat, and she is still trying to contact him, I would break up the relationship. It's not fair to you to play second fiddle to her ex...you deserve much better than that: the FULL attention of a girl! :) And yes, it is quite possible for a girl to act all happy but be torn up on the inside...girls are REALLY good at acting like nothing's wrong when something is, belive me! :)

Answer 4

Man -- what a pickle. Sorry to tell you this, but the gal is still hung up on the ex. If you are her friend, ask her straight out "are you still having feelings for your old boyfriend." Ask her to be straight and honest with you. Let her know what bothers you and that it is probably best if y'all break-up. Find someone that is trying to not play both sides of the field. The more you prolong this the bigger chances you will be hurt worse.

Answer 5

I personally think she needs to hear from him so she can get closure on it. Lots of times we women don't know what you guys think and if you won't talk to us about it, we are totally clueless. I don't know that she has any feelings still for him, but she does need the closure.

I know you don't want to hear this part, but she also might have a thing for him. According to what you said, they were in a longterm relationship and you can't just get over that overnight. Why don't you ask her point blank?

Answer 6

awwww well i think that she really does have feelings for him and she just doesnt want to hurt you.....girls tend to feel horrible when they hurt people so they hide alot of things..all you need to do is confront her about the situation and let her know its bothering you ask her why she is doing that if she is so happy and just have a proper converstation with her....maybe she doesnt realize what she is doing girls can be blind somtimes and they think they arnt hurting anyone when really they are so yea just talk to her and find out her point of view and maybe you guys can come to a conclusion and get everything worked out....good luck with everything

Answer 7

maybe you have to face that shes not over him yet,I know its not fair on you but if you both had a cool off period then at least one way or another you'd know the outcome. good luck.

Answer 8

Dear god man, she wants him, you're the bit on the side

Answer 9

thats confusing