We have been together for over 8 yrs. Taking the next step was well over due.Her father and I have had our problems like all do. Last year I broke it off because the relationship was not moving forward. We respect and love each other but the writing was on the wall we wanted different things for our life. Surprisingly he asked me to marry him.
I thought his daughter and I had a good friendship,no problems. She has always lived in another town, he sees her often, paid for college, all living expence he is a great father. She was married a few months ago to a good man. She is happy, so why does'nt she want her father to be happy as well. This has shocked and hurt me beyond words.
Looking back I had only visited a few time and have not spent a great deal with her. Her father is talking to her about it. He is upset and in the middle of this.
I love him but, I have my own issues now. This has come between us and I don't know how to handle it. Can it still work? I almost want to walk.
2006-11-03 07:13:49 · 6 answers · asked by wallflower 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She is a daddy's girl, spoiled rotten, and wants to control her father, no one will never be good enough for her dad. Yes you can have a successful marriage with this man. But he has got to be a man, he does not have to let her control, who he sees, wants, or be with. She did her own thing, did he have to approve her marriage? If you make him happy, and that the two of you love each other, then he needs to do what he want. You need to ask him, if you are wasting your time, on a man, who has to have his daughters approval, on everything? Ask him, Don;t you have a right to know who you want to be with? Her father need to get her straight, once and for all, He needs to tell her, that he has been a good father to her, she did not want for nothing, now she is a married woman, it is time she stays out of his affairs, and let him live his life. Now he has to be a man. And know what he wants out of life! Now he needs to know he does not have to please her. He does not have to be upset, because she does not like you. You are not marrying her! Honey! I wish you well!
2006-11-03 07:30:21 · answer #1 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tricky situation. I have no idea why the daughter is so opposed to you all getting married considering you've all been together for 8 years. Its about time he decided to marry you. You could always talk to her and see what the problem is. It's not like she's around her father often to interfere with the marriage but I'm sure the father wants his daughter to be happy. So it'll probably come down to sitting down with both of them and having an open discussion about what you all want. But if she's able to run him off from marrying you, then she has too much control and maybe you should walk.
2006-11-03 15:17:30 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that if the daughter was still a child then it would be hard..but this is a grown woman that has started a life of her own. There has to be more to the story. What caused the bad blood between you two?
If there is nothing then I say get married any way. You happiness should not depend on her liking you or not. It should be between you and your fiancee.
2006-11-03 15:20:07 · answer #3 · answered by saved_by_grace 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure it can work. Mine did for 12 years. Now I'm divorced and all is well. He will always be her father first and your husband second. If you can't live with it, get out now
2006-11-03 15:17:54 · answer #4 · answered by superspiker69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're not explaining the problem... the man you're about to marry has a daughter who doesn't like you? who cares? she'll have to get used to you eventually..and including her in your wedding party and celebration is the perfect time to get to know her? why are you going to let her come between happiness?
2006-11-03 15:16:43 · answer #5 · answered by LONG ISLAND GIRL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try talking to hus daugther and explain to her that you love him and u want her to be there with u guys the day u get married...try something like that if loves him she'll understand that her father needs happiness too.... good luck
2006-11-03 15:21:12 · answer #6 · answered by Gabs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋