How can you overcome depression?

Question

I've been feeling like this for over six years now regarding family issues.
I feel unloved and unwanted by my parents and siblings.
No matter what I do, nothing is ever appreciated.
I just want to overcome this sadness, my friends tell me that I'm not to blame, that my parents are of an older generation who don't know how to show their love and that doesn't mean that they don't love me.
But why can they show my sister how much they love her and not me?
I can't seem to stop crying today and I've reached the end of my tether, sometimes I think that I'd be better of dead.
My friends have been extremely supportive but they cannot provide the love that I crave from my parents.
Should I try anti-depressants?

Answer 1

There are anti depressants that you can take, please visit a doctor.

Being depressed for so long can have a perminent affect on you....take care of yourself.

Keep reaching out and never stop because of anyone who could appreciate life and love and relationships it would be you.

You owe it to yourself ..... if you feel that everyone else has given up on you....don't you give up on you.

I am not fully aware of all that your parents have done between you and your sister and other siblings, but as a father of 4 of my own kids I try as much as I can to keep up with everything they do, and I am certain there are times I am not able to appreciate everything they do 100% of the time. In some way the tough love or old school affection your parents may also be expressing to you is also meant in a good way, life makes us stronger through adversity.

This may seem odd, bake your parents a cake, or make them some cookies or something they enjoy and bring it to them, show them how much you care for their affection and it will be something special to share between you and them, create a little special event perhaps each friday or sunday morning.

I hope for you all the best and hang in there ! YOU are special!

Answer 2

I would seek help as you have been going through this for a long time. Anti-depressants can help but I strongly advice under the care of a doctor.

No matter how sad you are take walks in even nearby parks or woods. Cry there if you need to, nature has a wonderful way of healing even if you don't feel it at first.

Might be a good time to start a new hobby. Get out and socialize a bit more with positive people. Your lucky to have good friends, many people do not even have that believe it or not.

I come from a family like yours. Its hard isn't it? You might need some time away from them while developing your own life. You are special. Try to focus in on loving yourself. Have some fun :-)

Answer 3

Yes, I think you should definitely go and have a chat with your doctor as it sounds like you need a helping hand at this time. If you are prescribed antidepressants they usually take around 3 weeks to really take effect so be patient.

In the meantime you need to be kind to yourself. Every day do something just for you. Nuture yourself. This will help to create some kind of balance.

It is important for you at the moment to try to distract yourself from the feelings and thoughts that you are having to avoid going further down that spiral.

When you are feeling stronger I would approach your parents at a time when they are not rushed and when nobody else is around. They need to know exactly what's going on in your mind. Discuss things calmly with them, even though that may be hard as you must also have feelings of anger deep down and this is only natural.

If your parents aren't the kind that will sit down and chat or if they tend to interrupt, then write them a letter and leave it for them to read....again, not at a busy time. It is better if you're not there when they read it as they will need time to think about things and talk to one another.

Things WILL start getting better for you...honestly. Make today the day when you start to turn your life around. Don't expect everything to change all at once, it takes time and patience and work on all parts.

Hope this helps, best wishes.

Answer 4

Over the last five years I had begun to have increasingly withdraw into a downward spiral of depression..

But now with the method I can fully focus my energy and thoughts into a decisive line on how to make my life better constantly. And it works like magic! I'm beginning to attract people to me once again and things have just been looking up since then.

Helping you eliminate depression?

Answer 5

I would not start with anti-depressants. they only gloss over any problems. You should start by talking with your parents. alone if possible. you need to express yourself completely. because you are older you will have to live with how your parents are to you.
People often get used to understanding you in a certain light and it is time for you to change that light. let them know how you feel and don't hesitate to express yourself openly. They don't know you and that will take time.
Parents don't often realize that you are a person too. That is important for them to understand,
Remember where you are from isn't always home but where you go can always be home.
Regarding your little sister. the younger ones in a family often get more nurturing as the parents have learned from their mistakes with the older kids :) It is a cosmic joke sorta like when you get involved and suddenly all the available people are well available. That is how it is.
Keep listening to your friends and find new ways to express yourself and do so without hesitation or regret. There is a woman in there and she can give and give and give there isn't a limit to who you can be. Take care.

Answer 6

If you haven't seen a professional about your depression you need to do so now. Anti-depressants do help. There are alot of meds out there these days for depression. You also might need to see a therapist and maybe even your whole family seeing a therapist and talking together with a professional so they can help all of you sort out these problems. There is nothing on this earth worth taking your life over. Please remember that OK. I will keep you in my prayers. God Bless.

Answer 7

how old are you? do u still live at home? I know, it's tough. However, if you still live at home, I know it got a hell a of a lot better once I moved out, and I wasn't constantly reminded how much they hurt me. I was more able to move on with my life and learn to live with a lot less of the, I know it's hard and hurts, but it's what helped me th ebst. If you've already done that, then I would seek a good psychiatrist, it's really hard to find a good one, and usually only the really bad ones are covered by insurance plans. But I would suggest going to talk to one, without any drugs at least at first, to try and help you deal with all this and overcome it all, even though it takes time. Wether or not it feels right to say it, your family's mentally abusing you.

Answer 8

Depression is not something that can just be overcome. It is an illness like diabetes. Only this has to do with a chemical imbalance in the brain, like a hormone imbalance in the body. It can be overcome, but with help and medication. You really need to speak with your doctor about this. I was feeling depressed for 17 years of my life, then I got help and with medication, I finally feel like a "normal" person for the first time in my life. My parents were also old enough to be my grandparents and that made things more difficult for all of us. Talk to your doctor! Best of luck!

Answer 9

Taking anti-depressants is not going to make your parents love you. You have to learn to love yourself. I think from what you've said, that you'd benefit more from therapy, than from drugs.
Hope you get something sorted.
Your family doctor is a good starting point to discuss these things and to get a referral to a good therapist.

Answer 10

I would suggest group counseling you'll find your not alone besides I'll bet your friends are tired of hearing you complain even though they love you get professional help drugs may be prescribed good luck and remember it takes less muscles to smile