I am planning to become a foster parent. Aside of helping a child out and providing the love and secure they deserve, I am having second thoughts on doing it, because I am afraid that I can get too attached to a child and then they have to be taken away to the next foster parent. How would I be able to get over this, if it happens to me? Any advice? Anybody out there that have done this and then regretted?
2006-11-03 06:59:32 · 7 answers · asked by me! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm a foster parent and yes you do get attached the to children. But the main purpose of foster parenting is to reunite the child with their family. That's always the goal. If the family is in no position for the child to be reunited with, then the child will be put up for adoption. At that point, you will have the choice of adopting. If you are not committed to the child, then don't do it. I mean if just because you get too attached you have them give the child to another foster parent, then maybe foster parenting isn't for you. But love the child while they are in your care and when they are reunited with their family (hopefully) then be happy that their family straightened out whatever so they could care for their children. Foster Parenting is tough. It's not for everyone! If you can't/don't want to do it then, don't. But I promise you it's worth the effort if you do. But please please, make the decision before you get a foster child in your home.
2006-11-03 16:46:54 · answer #1 · answered by Kia S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could be a long term foster parent Get older kids around age 15-18. Maybe you could keep them until they are on their own, then it would be their choice to see you again. Or there is also an emergency foster parent. They get the kids in a temporary situation until a more permanant one can be found. Like middle of the night, til next day, or for a weekend or something. You would still be helping the child out, but not long enough to get attached.
My sister adopted 3 girls after being their foster parent.
2006-11-03 07:07:11 · answer #2 · answered by zil28ennov 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Always remind yourself what a huge service your doing for these children, society, etc... You will become attached but remember when they go to another home you will have another coming in who will need you just as much as the last did. In the end you will have made a huge impact on many childrens lives and they will remember and hopefully foster one day too :) The only regret you may have is if you don't do this, think if the many you could have helped.
Best of Luck!
2006-11-03 07:15:53 · answer #3 · answered by jetgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is really hard to do and I applaud you for considering opening your home to a child who needs one. I can guarantee that you will get your heart broke, back stabbed and cry buckets of tears. The amount of love, and hugs and joy you will get in return will be more than enough to compensate for the negative. My parents are the foster parents of over 500 kids (through out the last 40 years) adopting only 14 of them. It is hard, but the work is worth it. The love that my parents have given me and the other children that have come into our lives, I wouldn't trade it for an instant. I am who I am because of who they are. If you only impact one child, that is one child that knows that they are loved and has a safe place to land. Good Luck and God bless.
2006-11-03 08:14:48 · answer #4 · answered by NolaDawn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wish there were more ppl out there like you.i know a lady who fosters,i asked her the same question,her answer was ...there was always a special place in her heart for the children she had had,lots of them still keep in touch,but what makes her do it she said some are broken souls when they come to her,to see them progress and move on is wonder full to know she had a part in that.hats off to her and all the very best to you.
2006-11-03 08:12:51 · answer #5 · answered by SUZIE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there will always be separation and attachment issuses, especially with children. in today's times, you can never understand where they come from, they will kids in and out of your home, don't forget that your life will be scrutunized what goes on in your home, life, etc. And if the kid does not like you, they can make false allegations and try and have you investigated and worse still closed.
It has a lot of pros and cons.
2006-11-03 08:13:19 · answer #6 · answered by reene2g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no not really but be pared cause there crazy kids out their! not trying to discurage you but im giving you the heads up!
2006-11-03 07:04:36 · answer #7 · answered by hunter 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋