in charge of our 5 year to get her to her soccor games get snacks for the team etc. He is not really the type that can Handle this kind of stuff. Should I just stay at home?
2006-11-03 06:57:16 · 34 answers · asked by momof2 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
yea leave him i know he will miss u but u have to do that
2006-11-03 07:00:16 · answer #1 · answered by micho 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can't handle getting snacks and getting her to a soccor game? That's not even close to brain surgery. Is he lazy or just can't be bothered?
2006-11-04 00:13:45 · answer #2 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this happens alot this is normal to have to go out of town unexpectedly. leave your husband a list what to do around the house and when he should and make the snacks for the team. and make a list what your kids should like eat, bathe, brush teeth, go to bed. etc. and have some confidence in your husband you never know if he could suprise you.
2006-11-03 14:40:35 · answer #3 · answered by mamas_grandmasboy06 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT stay home. What do you mean he is not the type that can handle this stuff, not a Dad? not old enough to handle a few simple errands? not concerned enough not to disappoint his daughter? Sounds like classic passive/aggressive behavior to me. He doesn't fulfill his duties, making you feel like you have to. And you enable him by doing it. You can ask him if he'd like to make a list of things he needs to do (you make this list TOGETHER, you don't do it for him, that's just setting him up for it being ok to "forget"), but then you let him handle it. And, you quit falling for the "I'm not the type to (whatever)" line.
2006-11-03 07:03:37 · answer #4 · answered by Caper 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No if he loves her she will be ok. And if she misses a soccer game or forgets a snack really what harm has happened. He might secretly be very capable but since you do things and feel he can't he just does not have the chance to prove it.
Maybe he is looking forward to showing you and your daughter just what he is made of.
*Note* : if you don't feel as if your daughter will be safe DO NOT leave her
Otherwise...go, have fun, enjoy, and don't worry to much!
2006-11-03 07:18:38 · answer #5 · answered by })i({ J and D's Momma })i({ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, HECK no!!!
Not unless you want him to know that:
a) you don't trust him to do the job
b) if there's parenting to be done, you'll give up a trip to do it
c) you're never going to need him to stand up and BE a capable parent because you'll always be your own back-up
He is a father. If he's not the "type that can handle this kind of stuff" he needs to get there... quickly... no excuses. Being a soccer mom didn't come with the amniotic fluid. It is LEARNED behavior and it's his turn to learn it.
2006-11-03 07:02:59 · answer #6 · answered by thegirlwholovedbrains 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, go out of town. Do you have a best friend or neighbor that you trust to handle such things? Open up to your husband. Let him know that you would feel more comfortable if (name) helped to look after your 5 yr. old while you were gone. Some men really have an ego, so tell him what a good husband and father he is and how much you love and care for him (if you do). This will soothe his possibly hurt feelings (don't forget to SIWAK--Seal It With A Kiss).
2006-11-03 07:03:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Go out of town. I'm sure he loves his child to death and loves to see her play soccer. Do you really think that he would mess that part up for her? If he can handle being married, having a child, working and dealing with everyday life, then this should be a breeze. Have alittle faith.
2006-11-03 07:09:25 · answer #8 · answered by Kandieapples 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either you don't give your husband enough credit, or he is good at acting like he can't handle it so you will do it. Do you honestly think that your husband isn't capable of getting his own child to a soccer practice? Of course he can do it.
Yes, go out of town and have a good, guilt free time.
It will probably be good for everyone. Good for him, so that he will appreciate you more. Good for you, so that you can see things can acctually get done without you being there to supervise. Good for your daughter, so that she can have some Daddy/ Daughter time.
2006-11-03 07:08:10 · answer #9 · answered by Amy Y 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him a chance. Leave him a list of what he needs to do, but don't make it sound like you are nagging him. How about if you get the snacks ready and leave them in the fridge if you think that he won't be able to take care of it?
2006-11-03 06:59:57 · answer #10 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No- Don't stay at home. This would be a great time for your husband and your daughter to bond. And don't worry- unless he is totally irresponsible - he will get her there on time. Just because husbands don't do things exactly as we wives would - doesn't matter. What matters is that he tries and he is spending time with your daughter!
2006-11-03 07:09:28 · answer #11 · answered by cheercraZcoach 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋