I've been broken up for just one day and now my EX is calling me and telling me that she would like to see me. We've been together for 2 yrs and she has broken up with me at least 4 times, should I go see her or not? I do not want to be in this cycle anymore, we get back together and its all good for a couple of months then something happens and she leaves. We're both hurting but is it time to say good bye and move on?
2006-11-03 06:47:14 · 16 answers · asked by Skullsoda 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ive been there honey. Its no good. It keeps getting worse. Talk to her on the phone but dont go over there. It will continue just as you see it and eventually you'll just give up and be there as her "back up". It hurts and it sucks but its better to just let a sleeping dog lie as he is.
Good Luck!
2006-11-03 06:53:51 · answer #1 · answered by ashley65@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh ouch! I've been in that situation with my x of 3yrs, yep I said X. It is a cycle buddy, it can give such a heartache to be together (again) and then wonder when your gonna have a breakup (again). You sound like you just want to settle down without the dramas, you've actually put up with alot, well you both have and it might be time for you to both step away from each other to see if you can see where the real problems lie. A friend of mine told me to step outside of the relationship and look in to see why things went or goes 'bonkers' without feeling the situation, look at yourselves as 'strangers'. This is the hardest thing to do. To be able to step outside and look in without feeling the situation. You might be able to see where things are going downhill. With my situation as much as I wanted my x, reality told me it just wasn't going to happen, he was upset because he wasn't making me happy, and I couldn't see that! because I was too busy trying to make him happy, well ya learn lol. If you 2 are both honest with each other you both will either make or break it. If you 2 were to give it another ago, best advice I could give you both is go into the relationship as a new couple, and don't bring in the old baggage from your last relationship, if old baggage is brought up it just means you both have some unresolve issues you both aren't being honest about or explaining. And deep down you both know whether the relationship has worn out, it's just admitting it to each other is the hardest. The hardest part is losing that familiar person you have known well...........
2006-11-03 07:02:55 · answer #2 · answered by Starjarus 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds dysfunctional. Is that how you'll solve problems when you're married? Break up, call back, start again, get mad, break up, call back....? You break up every 6 months. Surely you have better things to do with your lives? I mean, isn't this a huge waste of time? You should be moving forward in life, not pissing around with your lame drama.
You can continue this for another 2-4-10 years if you want to- it's your life.
2006-11-03 06:52:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you should probably move on. I know it might be hard and painful, but mostly likely in the end it will save the both of you from even more pain... I know this by experience... giving someone a second chance is great, but after that, if things dont change... just move on.
2006-11-03 06:51:18 · answer #4 · answered by sweetkiss_xo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think so. It doesn't appear that either of you are about to change the things that were bad, which is the most important thing to do if you think you can have a good relationship with her. Otherwise, take it as an experience and move on.
2006-11-03 06:49:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to break the cycle then do not go see her, but you need to tell her that its over for good. If that is what you truly want. Its going to be hard but stick with your guts.
2006-11-03 06:54:00 · answer #6 · answered by I do 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need a clean break.
Toxic relationships have a way of sucking you back in. Get out while the getting is good.
2006-11-03 06:56:57 · answer #7 · answered by Who_Dey_Baby? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you keep making and breaking up its not going to stop...it would probably be best to move on, it would be less painful to you both if you just let go.
2006-11-03 06:50:19 · answer #8 · answered by saraikyon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you answered your own question. You listed a bunch of reason why you don't want to go back, and not one reason why you should. Seems clear to me.
2006-11-03 06:50:20 · answer #9 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it might be really sad and stuff to drift apart, but yeah seems like it's time to "just be friends."
2006-11-03 06:50:40 · answer #10 · answered by Triathlete88 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋