I am a girl and i am involved with someone but, while for him is a more non serious relationship and he feels that he can sleep around, i feel different and i dont like that. While i accept that he will continue to do that, and i like him enough not to be bothered too much ....i am wondering maybe i am not meant for these kind of relationships? Opinions
2006-11-03 06:41:03 · 23 answers · asked by elena s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would be scared as hell of catching something.
2006-11-03 06:44:18 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
No way! A relationship is a relationship! Unless you guys are nothing but friends, buddies, he shouldn't be doing this, and you shouldn't be ok with it. Sounds to me like you definitely are not meant for these relationships. Find a guy you really like who likes you enough that he doesn't want to go be with someone else. It's kind of like you're there on the side, and you deserve better than that! And also, think of the yucky stuff you could pick up from him! He's not worth it if that's how he wants to roll. You are!!!
2006-11-03 06:48:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a relationship like that. I liked the guy so much, I'd rather have a benefits relationship than none at all. Then he met someone he really liked and got rid of me. I was devastated. He was so cute!!
So if you can accept it for what it is, then its fine, but just be careful not to get your heart broken (make sure you are using birth control pill and condoms, if he is sleeping around, you don't want to catch his diseases, respect yourself enough to use protection, every time!!). Don't invest more than you can afford in that kind of relationship. And if you meet someone better, dump the benefits dude and move on!!
2006-11-03 06:52:22 · answer #3 · answered by hello 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Elena luv,
If he's not willing to commit to a monogamous relationship with you, then you shouldn't waste your time and love on such a man. I know it's harsh and all, but you will eventually get hurt by such a guy, who is obviously more interested in having sex than your affections.
In my opinion, you deserve better. You deserve someone who will appreciate you and love you in such a way that you'll feel complete. Also polygamous relationships don't usually work out. One out of the two people involved usually ends up burnt because of the other's selfishness.
2006-11-03 07:13:24 · answer #4 · answered by ButtahChick (ButterChick) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is difficult, but I have been in so called 'friends with benefits' situations with mixed results. The biggest problem in those is if one of the people involved considers it to me more then what it is. Friends does not mean 'exclusive' to a guy and 'benefits' means sex, no making love. You're his friend, maybe not even his best friend. The sex part does not really play into the emotional factor to much for most guys (thats why it is 'sex' and not 'making love').
I think you should address this issue with him, tell him that you may consider it to be more then just friends, otherwise why would you care if he sleeps around. He may be surprised, maybe it will break what you have, maybe he understands, maybe he even wants to go into something more with you ... but if you're unhappy with the situation, the worst you can do is just let it go on and build up in your head.
2006-11-03 06:49:35 · answer #5 · answered by Sky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I think you should ask yourself what you feel for this guy, if you don't like the fact that he hangs around while eventually sleep with you, maybe it could be that you are liking him or maybe just feel a little jealous about it. Ask yourself if you really want this kind of things for you and your life, if you don't really bother about it, then go ahead and enjoy, take care of yourself and don't let anybody hurt you, if you don't like at all, turn around and seek whatever really can make you happy, don't waste your time with someone which no satisfy your expectactions from life.
2006-11-03 06:49:40 · answer #6 · answered by erck78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to clarify with him what the boundaries are in the "relationship". If you want to be ... buddies, then you can't put the limitations of a relationship on it. If you want a relationship, then you need to clarify that and, if he doesn't rise to the occasion then you need to find someone who will. "Sleeping buddies", for the most part, tend not to work- someone will always fall for the other and things get messy. In rare situations it can work but, judging by your question, his sleeping around is getting to you.
2006-11-03 06:47:37 · answer #7 · answered by irishgypsy88 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a bad, bad idea. If I were you, I would run like heck away from this guy. This isn't a matter of liking or not liking enough, it's about self-respect. In my opinion, the only people 'meant' for these relationships are immature, irresponsible, and self-destructive.
2006-11-03 07:08:18 · answer #8 · answered by Kelly S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If he sleeps with other people to he evidentially is not interested in a relationship with you for some reason. You need to break it off with him and find someone that will be dedicated to only you and will treat you like you deserve to be treated.
2006-11-03 06:46:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Especially since he sleeps around, you are at risk of nasty STD's and HIV. Genital warts, and Clymitia one that makes your vag smell like fish and pus drip with no more ability to have kids, burning while urinating, AIDS, think about having children some day..... that's the Truth, who knows what all those other girls he sleeps around with has
2006-11-03 06:50:11 · answer #10 · answered by S--slick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from experience, I think you should get out of the relationship before you end up pregnant. Just chill and do your own thing and when that person comes around who wants what you want, it'll be special.
2006-11-03 06:46:28 · answer #11 · answered by Queen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋