I met this guy and the first day he gave me $ 60 becuase someone broke in my car and stole all my money and creditcards. Then we went on a date to a resteraunt and went back to his house, he didnt try anything but his house was very nice. He has a lot of electronics and a lots of money, I mean money over money over money. I'm 23 and i found out that he was 37 and i found that out by winning a bet in return he gave me $50 cause i guessed his right age.. He was asking what stores do i shop at and bacically he is ready and willing to spend his money. The thing is i LOVE money (can't help it i grew up materalistic and i'm very spoiled) and I like dating older men but i dont find him attractive and i dont think i ever will. He looks like a mole rat or something, but he dresses real nice and he looks okay with a hat on. What should i do?
2006-11-03 06:38:09 · 38 answers · asked by tyramarie26 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey Girl
Well this is a sticky situation. He seems to want to shower you with gifts, maybe he senses the lack of attraction and is trying to win you over in other ways. Or maybe he has no clue and this is the way he treats women he likes. None the less I think by him suggesting he wants to take you out shopping and spend money on you ,,, he assumes that this is going to work out to be more than a freindship .. so what next??? heres where your morals come into play ... Do you suck it up hang out with him .. get him to buy you things .. or do you take a chance and let him know that you think hes great but your not that attracted to him... I think those are your two options because at some point he will try and make a move on you and you will have to be ready to react to that... Remember Karma when you make your choice... no one needs bad karma .. it might not be worth the new pair of shoes... Good Luck ..
2006-11-03 06:43:15 · answer #1 · answered by starnickel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him as a lover and keep him as a friend. If you're not really into him physically or mentally there's a good chance that there is no relationship . If you're the type that appreciates honesty I'll say this, he's trying to get you to like him. You're materialistic and over a couple of dates he's found your Achillie's heel and is exploiting it to the fullest. Look honey, this is a recipe for disaster clip it at the roots your love for money won't help you find real love coz 'money can't buy you love (as the Beatles sang) Don't just settle find real love with looks and personality in equal measure.
2006-11-03 06:46:10 · answer #2 · answered by Martinique Samuelson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you don't want to be a golddigger, ending up with some rich old dude who you don't love, just because he can pay your bills. I'm a little spoiled myself, but I would never forsake true love for material things. I love my boyfriend to death, even though he's not rich and may never be. We have a life where we do have to stretch the budget to be able to go out and do fun things, and sometimes even going out to eat is kind of a special treat because we don't have a lot of money, but one thing we have tons of is real love. I wouldn't trade that for any of the riches in the world. I think you need to re-evaluate what's really important to you and go from there.
2006-11-03 06:43:18 · answer #3 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sure the money is his or is he just playing a trick to use you? Maybe all the money you saw was not his, but someone else's - he might've borrowed a lot of money from the bank. Who knows? But, the bottom line is that you shouldn't settle for a rich unattractive guy. You should go for a good-looking rich guy that you can fall in love with. Hopefully, you'll find him one day.
2006-11-03 06:47:36 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. Main Event 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you asking for permission to use this guy? You are better then that. Think about his feelings and emotions, plus the time you are wasting on him when there maybe someone out there that will sweep you off your feet. Don't let shallow materilistic impulses get in the way of what is really important in life.
2006-11-03 06:45:36 · answer #5 · answered by MaryAnn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember appearance definately isn't everything. He was nice to you, wasn't he? Give him credit, come on. Go out with him, it doesn't mean you have to marry him! Never use him though, return the favor of kindness. If your really not into him, don't bother. You'd be better off leaving him alone then hurting his feelings when he finds out you went out with him for money.
2006-11-03 06:41:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
this guy sounds very sweet and nice, but you obviously love money more than u love him and that isnt right. money isnt everything and it especially isnt worth loving. money comes and goes,(ur guy could lose everything in the stock market orget robbed or gamble it all away). the one thing that lasts forever, is love. every girl dreams of finding her prince charming and living happily everafter. in everyfairy tale, there is love but veryrarely is there money involved. basically what im trying to say is that u r wasting your time with a man whom you do not love when your prince charming isout there. forget the money, find ur true love.
2006-11-03 06:51:25 · answer #7 · answered by tannabanana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hahah I guess you good use him for a little awhile, providing that he knows one of the reasons you like him is because of his money. Sounds like he's expecting you to like him for that, and he doesn't really have a problem with it.
If you're gonna spend his money at least seem grateful, and make him feel good about himself by thanking him and even go to the point of helping him improve his looks. This guy needs you in his life!
2006-11-03 06:43:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stop being so shallow. Find out more about the guy before you take anything else or do anything else. This does not sound like a totally up and up situation on his part.
2006-11-03 06:42:01 · answer #9 · answered by Tiger by the Tail 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't lead him on by going out with him (though it is tempting to get all those freebies). It will bite you in the a-- one way or another so just drop it. And see if he'll buy me an Ipod nano before you end it ;)
2006-11-03 06:42:23 · answer #10 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋