2006-11-03 06:35:01 · 39 answers · asked by ? 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Sure, if you have the money to pay for the years of therapy he's going to need afterwards.
2006-11-03 06:38:16 · answer #1 · answered by Ashleigh 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
NO WAY! It is your son's Bar Mitzvah. It is HIS day, not yours! Don't ruin it by stealing the attention and the memory of the day. If you must come out, don't do it then. Even if your son is supportive of your homosexuality, it would be extremely hard for him to forgive you for taking away all the attention that is rightfully his. He has worked hard for this moment. You should love him enough to let him have his one day of glory. Be a dad. You can "play mom" any other day.
2006-11-03 06:48:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The world must be out of whack or something today, because all I am reading are the most insane questions I have seen in a long time.
First if you are really gay, then you know that cross-dressing isn't being gay. You have a son according to your question, so you must have slept with a female at one time in your life unless you fell into the required female for conception by accident or something..maybe tripping your high heel or something like that, am I close? Or even worse, did you adopt this child?
I am not Jewish, but I do recall that these Bar Mitzvah things occur when a Jewish child is like 16? Could be wrong, but I know they are still young.
Don't know your child, but can't imagine that any child would want to find out something like this about their father on "Their" day. Not yours, his. From the mere fact you would ask a ridiculous question like this, and I am bi-sexual and gay,bi, transsexual, trans-gender...I know them all...these titles don't come with a lack of respect for other human beings. They are just titles.
So to answer question, NO a terrible idea. Go back to your closet, get out a suit and treat your son with the dignity he deserves on HIS day.
Then the next day, go back to your closet and figure yourself out before you cause unnecessary pain for yourself and your people.
Sorry if it sounds harsh, but personally I think that was the dumbest question I have read so far today.
2006-11-03 06:45:38 · answer #3 · answered by shrm 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
the operative word here is "YOUR SON'S BAR mitzvah'
it ain't your party
take if from a wise Jewish guy... there was no wine at the wedding...PROBLEM how do you do a miracle without taking away from the bride and grooms special awesome day... not unlike taking away from your son's special day... SOLUTION.. this Jewish guy changed the water to wine but did it quietly tactfully artistically and not a dip he did it diplomatically ...so only the servant knew... ... are ya following me??....and the weddin thing went along real sweet ... smiles were had by all...
don't take away from his special day
the vote is like 36 to 0.... don't do it
but on the subject of strong compassionate awesome men... I know a sweet one .... well....maybe ....you should get to know the awesomely great Jewish guy... the water to wine guy... the Jewish Messiah and savior of the world... he;s great at fixin broken hearts and tunin em just right for God's glory If your embarrassed or ashamed foggetabouttit... He will take you just as you are... but be warned...He loves you JUST as you are... but He loves you too much to leave you as you are
2006-11-03 06:40:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, not at all! Why would you want to embarass him and draw attention away from him on a celebration that it supposed to be special for HIM? It would be an extremely selfish thing to do. Are you really interested in "coming out" or are you just desparate for attention? To me, it seems like you just want all the attention to be on you. If you must come out, which is perfectly legitimate, talk to him and the rest of your family about it--do NOT make such a spectacle of yourself!
2006-11-03 06:38:41 · answer #5 · answered by superstar_81882 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have nothing against gays and their rights but if this is your SONS bar mitzvah. he my grow to resent you and honestly it might prove to be really hurtful. Pick another day.
2006-11-03 06:37:30 · answer #6 · answered by tisha j 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No no no...that is your son's day. Don't be a spotlight-hog! After his Bar Mitzvah, scedule your own 'Gay Mitzvah' or whatever...
2006-11-03 06:37:42 · answer #7 · answered by a kinder, gentler me 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The key words are "my SON'S Bar Mitzvah." It is his moment, not yours. BAD IDEA.
2006-11-03 06:38:14 · answer #8 · answered by WonderWoman 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
don't do that. it will be an embarrassment to him and your family. he would be pissed off and probably never forgive you. remember that it's his bar mitzvah not your day to draw attention on you. let him have his day. i suggest after the bar mitzvah talk to him in the privacy of your own home. trust me i know i would be pissed.
2006-11-03 06:37:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Come out on your own time bubby! Thats not fair. Thats like someone proposing to you @ another persons wedding. Just rude, not because your gay, but because its just not fair. Dont take the spotlight off your son, parents don't do that.
2006-11-03 06:42:05 · answer #10 · answered by peacfulwar 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is something you should obviously discuss individually and privately with those who are close to you. If you wish to have a "coming out" party, do that for acquaintances and "not so close" friends. If you care about those you consider close you owe them that much. "Shock" news is only interesting on Jerry Springer.
2006-11-03 06:41:55 · answer #11 · answered by Old Cripple 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋