They go to dating sites trying to meet people and the crazy part is they pay monthly to use these sites and some people just settle for the first person even if they dont like them because they think they will grow to like them. Why dont they just wait till they just meet someone when they go out or in school ect. why do they look for it so much. Im just curiose and wanted to know because Ive had friends like this and never understood. I have a boyfriend but I never payed or went crazy wanting one or looking in websites I was having fun single and loving life and met guys but never hooked up till I found someone I really liked.
2006-11-03 06:23:07 · 14 answers · asked by lola 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was EXACTLY like you, girl. Ok, well I actually still am haha.
I never understood why people would spend so much time and agony over finding someone out there.
It's pretty pathetic if you ask ME.
It's like they're not happy with themselves. It's like they NEED someone to make them happy. Geez, have some dignity people.
I too have a boyfriend. And I too never looked for someone to be with when I was single. I would make THEM find ME. I could've cared less whether or not I had somebody. Because I knew God was going to give me someone someday. Plus, I was sick of all the drama new guys brought in my life. I was tired of their games. So, I was pretty darn happy being single.
Some people seriously need to just get a grip and realize that someone will come. My someone came... he was actually right under my nose the entire time.
I say...... you'll never find love if you keep looking for it.
2006-11-03 06:26:20 · answer #1 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh I know how you feel! I have the same problem! I have always had a partner and my friends always ask me how do I do it? Well for starters if you are confident in yourself then guys I gonna see that, so to me, you sound like a confident chicky where ya pores oozes out, 'I'm not looking, just having fun' type a gal. Then there are girls who are looking for a guy and to a lot of guys it could scare them away, for what they pick up is 'desperate' or looking for 'long term'. LOL no guy want to be locked down hard quick and fast, they want to test the waters before they are ready to make the big jump 'commitment' lol. Also people seek a partner as this gives them companionship, fulfil loneliness, self esteem booster? Some people are very shy or find it hard to communicate with someone they are interested in. Some people just aren't very experienced with social gatherings or social groups 'soberly' lol. All I can say is that when I was single I was out to have fun with my buddies and hooking up with a guy was the last thing on my mind, so then you end up socialising with the opposite sex or whatever your going for and forget to be nervous and shy because your not out looking and that guy can actually see the real you. Oh and also, girls who are seeking a companionship should leave there judgements at home, you gotta give a guy a chance and not judge him straight away, that just makes ya look blue lol. ALSO there are some people that don't need partners they are quite happy being single, when I was single I made the most of enjoying it, now I've got a partner, I make the most of that! lol, not everyone needs companionship. So BASICALLY lol not everyone has the time or confidence to make 'companionship'. ;)
2006-11-03 06:42:57 · answer #2 · answered by Starjarus 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea. I always somehow accidentally stumbled into every relationship that I was ever involved in, which pretty much explains the trainwreck of my dating history. I finally realized that I've always been happier on my own and I decided several years ago that I was never going to date again. Ever. What I don't understand is why my friends, family, coworkers and random acquaintances are all completely obsessed with trying to fix me up. Everyone has decided that I HAVE to date SOMEBODY or else the world will somehow come to an end. It's really irritating...
2006-11-04 07:59:18 · answer #3 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there are some people in this world who feel that no matter how hard they have tried or how often they have looked that love will never find them, these people need to justify themselves by saying "look I have a significant other...I must be worth something because THEY are dating me...THEY like me" sadly enough, and all to often is the reality that people don't realize, why we start out being single...because it is a time to find ourselves our likes and dislikes the things we enjoy...finding that in ourselves makes it so much better for when we are in a relationship, all these websites do is have you take a quiz because you were to anxious and didn't bother to take the time to find out these things about you on your own...so they find em...and then they "match" answers with those of your sexual preference...there you go MATCH.COM!!! well look you'll never have a sturdy relationship. why because you STILL don't know your own likes and dislikes you assume you do because you took this quiz but has anyone ever really liked being told what you like...no, no one really wants to hear someone say Oh look you like football knowing good and well as a woman you really don't....so take the time to be single enjoy it it's your growing period it makes you a better person and then when that time comes your boyfriend/girlfriend will practically fall in your lap..why because they will see you know what you want and they will find that sexy.
2006-11-03 08:10:57 · answer #4 · answered by TPete 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why people do that either, it's just retarded. When me and my friends are really bored and got nothing to do we go onto sites like teenchat.com and just flirt a bit but I never even added someone from there to my MSN.
I'm single and happy with my life, not necessarily looking for someone but just looking around, flirting and so on. Guess I'm also waiting till I meet someone I really like.
2006-11-03 06:28:26 · answer #5 · answered by Triathlete88 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's 1 of the 7 longings of the human heart. People have a natural longing to love and be loved. To feel worth and important. --Theygo crazy looking for it in a human, but it's something, a hole that only God can fill and fully satisfy. That's why even when some people have someone in their life, but still arent satisfied. Because only God can truly fulfill that.
2006-11-03 06:27:32 · answer #6 · answered by sweetkiss_xo 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The biggest reason so many people are anxious to find a significant other, date, mate, or otherwise bed buddy is because every one longs for some kind of connection. They long to feel wanted and/or needed by somebody else and sometimes they go to extreme measures to feel this.
2006-11-03 06:31:54 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
To the girl who said this: "I never understood why people would spend so much time and agony over finding someone out there.
It's pretty pathetic if you ask ME.
It's like they're not happy with themselves. It's like they NEED someone to make them happy. Geez, have some dignity people."
I don't think that it is a bad thing that anyone wants to be with someone. You can still be happy with yourself and how your life is going, you just may want someone to share it with. Whats so wrong that?!?!?!?!
And its not the fact of NEEDING someone to make you happy, its the fact of wanting someone there to full fill that void in your life of having someone to love you. NOTHING wrong with that either!
2006-11-03 06:35:02 · answer #8 · answered by Jenn 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
some girls feel inadequate. They grow up with a hole that they are trying to fill with a man. They need to feel a sense of love etc. It's different with everyone because of the way we were raised and loved as a child.
2006-11-03 06:27:59 · answer #9 · answered by Mel 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I guess some people think they have to follow others. Get someone they find out they don't even want.
2006-11-03 06:26:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋