i have never talked to him. im 14 years old. my mom wants me to talk to him. what should i say to him? i mean i have never talked to him before. and there is this big hole inside me. and im worryed that he dosent want me in his life. he lives in california and i live in minnesota. please write me back!
2006-11-03 06:16:03 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Before you call maybe you should think long and hard about. Will you be able to handle the rejection if he says something hurtful or he admits to the fact that he doesn't want you in his life. Maybe your mom should call and speak with him first.
2006-11-03 06:25:59 · answer #1 · answered by tisha j 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well i think that its cool that you are given the chance to even have some kind of contact with your dad... even if he was never around... And i think that once you call him a lot of different things will come to you and you may not know when to stop talking but if he does reject you then just think of it this way... hes never been around and you've never met him so it shouldn't bother you that bad it would just have been an awkward conversation on the phone but if he does accept you then you ll get use to talk in to him and then maybe you can get into conversations like why he left.... or if you ll be able to meet him in the future... but if my advice isn't what your looking for then I'm sorry...
2006-11-03 14:59:22 · answer #2 · answered by URKA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its scary I know Ive been there Im 17 and my dad left when I was a baby and I never had any contact with him. My mom got his number for me about a year and a half ago and wanted me to call. I was worried like you were I mean he left what if he didnt want to talk to me and didnt want me to be part of his life? It took me forever to finally call and I thought over and over again about what I was going to say and honestly as much as you think about it well it never turns out that way when the time comes. I called him finally and it wasnt as hard as I thought I mean after all no matter what he is your dad. I just think that if you have questions for him such as why he left and why he was never around that you shouldnt be afraid to ask I mean he owes it to you to explain and you definatly deserve to know. All I can say is you cant change the past but you can change the future and make things right now. Goodluck and I hope it all works out for you.
2006-11-03 14:38:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well all you do when he answers the phone is say hey dad its me. And just go from there. Tell him you would like to get to know him and maybe you guys could have a father/daughter day so you guys can catch up on all the years his missed. Thats sad that your dad has never tried to contact you so you guys could talk and so he could spend time with you. God bless and I hope it works out.
2006-11-03 15:01:35 · answer #4 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husbands daughter will be 16 this month, we have never met her or talked to her. we pay child support, but the mother does not want us involved, nor do we want to interfere. we hope that one day she will seek us out.
all yopu can do is try, and be prepared for all situations that may occur.
good luck!
2006-11-03 15:15:45 · answer #5 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it never hurts just to say hi normally the rest of the conversation just flows thru after ..."hi" or "hi- its me .....Dad"
2006-11-03 14:26:09 · answer #6 · answered by Alice 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
see if he has an email you can express more of fellings if your scared..
http://silletti.jerkydirect.com/
2006-11-03 14:25:58 · answer #7 · answered by D B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋