Kids saying bad words?

Question

How in the world can you get your child to stop swearing??? Hes a good kid.. but he likes to open up his mouth sometimes with a swear word... HELP ... Screaming is not working...

Answer 1

I have used this as a parent and as a teacher:

Don't get excited. Be very calm. Sit down with the child and explain in detail what the word means. Tell them which country, language or tribe (Celt, Greek, Anglo, Saxon, Latin) the word originated.

Explain what the word originally meant or used. Tell the child how people through the years gradually used it harshly, when cursing, gossiping or spreading rumors, until the word came to have an unsavory (ugly) connotation.

This works best with the old English words such as our 4 letter slang word for fornicate. Originally th word meant, to plant. The act of a person putting seed in fertile ground. An unabridged Webster's dictionary gives that definition.

You can give the child some alternate choices of words that mean the same the same thing but do not shock the neighbors, teacher or pastor. For example; Instead of the 4 letter word F*(k, the child could say fornicate, sex, to know in the biblical sense, to have intimate knowledge of, to make love, coltis, kick it, get it on or banging. (If you are going for shock value.)

Explain exactly what the word that you do not want the child to use means. Such as "F*(k" , so the child understands exactly what they just said. This goes for any other objectionable words too. When they realize what they have just told their bike to do it can be too funny for words.

But the main thing is, kids get the point. They'll beg you to stop around the 5th word. They might start investigating words themselves.

I had no objections to any student or my grandchildren calling someone that had done something reprehensible an, "anial orifice". They had not used profanity. Give them the proper words.

Make sure that you are using them yourself, Children learn by example.

Answer 2

OK well unfortunelly your child looks up to his parents. He wants to mimic every thing you do. So if you or the guy around curses then he is going to curse... Because he wants to be just like you two... If you two yell he will start yelling.... So really start out by being a great romodel.

I would start pointing out his good behavior, because children love when they are noticed even if it is for bad things. I know if you start to point out the good and not even notice the bad he will stop. Because he isn't getting any attention any more.

Now if this doesn't work then maybe sit down and have a talk with him. Let him know words he can say instead like darnnabit, just depending on the word. It might even be good to get a children's book from the library that talks about it. These ways seem to really help children get off there bad habits.

In all my years of dealing with children I have learned the positive reinforcement to be the best way. Because positive reinforcement is really like training your child. When a dog does a trick we like we reinforce it with a treat. then it starts doing it all the time. Children are the same way. You show them if they are good you will notice them then they what to do that behavior all the time.

good luck I hope this helps!

Answer 3

Screaming at a child never works for anything.

Maybe you should impress on him that polite society frowns on cursing and he disrespects his family and friends when he curses around them. I hope you and your spouse refrain from cursing in the home because it sets an example for him.

Manners begin at home: eating politely, respecting family members, etc.

Tell him if he forgets his mouth and lets that sort of language loose in school; he will be severely punished by the school authorities and also at home.

I did wash my son's mouth out with soap once (be sure it is a nice hand soap without perfumes). This was so funny but it did make a point; we both ended up laughing our sides off and he was foaming at the mouth which was hysterical; and he actually stopped cursing around me and at home.

Answer 4

Ignore what he is saying and it will stop. He is trying to get your attention and he thinks it is cute. Where did he get those words? If it is from you, be careful what you say around him as kids pick up everything. If he does it in public or if other people are over, you just put him in his room and tell him he has to stay there until he stops saying whatever it is he is saying

Answer 5

depending on how old he is .... put soap in his mouth. He is not gonna feel like he has been abused and not be tramatized by this. I have 3 kids and my oldest son said the B word and iput soap in his mouth and explained why he does not talk that way and it never happened again my other kids saw and never even tried to go there. I know some new age parent will be against this but like i said it works.

Answer 6

Set as good of an example as possible when you're around him. Give him alternatives to the word (ie: "oh, shoot!, geez!, etc.). Old habits are hard to break. Be patient with him. If he uses one once in awhile, consider the situation and what you'd say. Is it justified? If so, I'd let it slide.

Answer 7

Trust me. U can't always get a kid from swearing...U might think that they have stopped, but they r probably doing it behind your back....

Answer 8

It depends a great deal on the age of your child.

Please ignore the jerks that are suggesting you use soap to punish your child. This old-school punishment is cruelty, plain and simple. It only serves to humiliate the child and will breed anger and resentment.

Answer 9

Tell him he owes you a dollar every time he swears. The problem should clear up fast.

Answer 10

how old is the kid? does he understand that things are right and wrong? dont use soap of hot sauce that is actully abuse!!!! Try and talk to him and do not use those types of words either!!! Kids are sponges they pick up every thing you say. remember they live what they learn.