2006-11-03 06:01:15 · 26 answers · asked by Cindy S 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I do not have any issues with toys. They can be used to help accent the pleasure. So instead of being intimidated it is better to be imaginative. I think as long as a man is self confident then he will not have any issues I think the issues only come from those who are not confident.
2006-11-03 06:14:55 · answer #1 · answered by tom4texas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, this is a recent thing for me.
I am 38 and so is my GF. I am in very good shape and everything works, but there is no way in hell I'm keeping up with her 7 days a week. Life isn't fair, but this is how we're built.
So, the toys.
We are all different creatures with different needs, but the thing that will make or break this is togetherness. If you explore things, choose things and buy things together, it will lead to all kinds of discussions about what make you sexually fulfilled and that's really the end you seek? Right?
I think if you explain things and he's open to it, it will do wonders for your sex life and everyday life too. Guys shouldn't be intimidated. The femal body is a marvelous and complex machine. Sometimes we're a little stuck in our pride.
IF someone loves you and cares about your happiness, then they'll do whatever it takes to make it happen, even if it means taking it to you with something that resembles a power tool.
Just have fun and be safe.
2006-11-03 06:26:28 · answer #2 · answered by bigwheeler19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if a man feels threatened by toys, there are far larger issues at play. When you look at things objectively, everyone shares the ultimate goal of pleasure and orgasm when it comes to sex.
For men, this is not a tricky task. But for women, there are a variety of ways to reach that goal. Some women prefer vaginal, anal, clitoral or breast stimulation, or any combination thereof. Whether we want to admit it or not, guys can't always meet every need a woman has in order to reach that ultimate goal. Whether it's a matter of flexibility, penile length or width, endurance or something else, a lot of women are not able to achieve that goal with their lovers - and it's not due to a lack of trying.
To see it more objectively, think of it as a hunger. When you are hungry, you eat. If you don't have food, you get some. If you can't afford food, you do what you have to in order to get some. The hunger doesn't go away, but what you are willing to do (or have to do) in order to address it may drastically change. But in the case of a relationship, if the woman isn't satisfied with what she has in her lover, she will not stop wanting or craving that satisfaction. Many women just lie to themselves and their lovers about it and conceal it as best they can.
Toys are a wonderful way of addressing this need. If a man is comfortable enough with himself to appreciate this and even participate, they can add layers and dimension to a relationship which can only make it stronger. Unfortunately most men's egos get in the way and hence, the negative stigma. But to me, the alternative to toys would likely be cheating. Men usually get a bad rap for this more so than women, but both sexes are equally guilty of cheating in relationships, and often it is simply because they are not getting what they want out of what they have. So in that context, I'd rather work to save the relationship than let my own ego drive a woman away from me into another man's arms.
2006-11-03 06:27:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love the idea. I'm trying to get my gf to buy toys now. She's never had a toy before and I really want her to try the rabbit it makes any woman cream.
2006-11-03 06:15:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love toys.. it is definitely an enhancement to the experience.
2006-11-03 06:21:53 · answer #5 · answered by Decadence 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a problem with old guy. Anything that my fiance wants to do as long as it is neither immoral is fine with me. If she wants to gratify herself with toys more power to her.
2006-11-03 06:14:10 · answer #6 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I buy toys for my gf all the time. I hope guys do too.
2006-11-03 06:12:54 · answer #7 · answered by Isis 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
what every make her happy i back her up 100% and yes she has toys
2006-11-03 06:17:26 · answer #8 · answered by celticdragon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is part of our joint sex-play... great. I have bought them for her and she has, in the past, expressed interest in certain items. Even if she occasionally used them without, that is okay as well.
I might worry if she made use of them often without me.
2006-11-03 06:17:32 · answer #9 · answered by Wundt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I applaud it! They can be used to make the moment that much better!
Rum and Soco shots!
2006-11-03 06:15:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋