Why do people always use the "your paranoid" excuse when you bring up a problem to them? Please read on....

Question

What exactly is considered "paranoia"? I thought it meant when someone has dillusions about something happening to them, & when they're ideas come from illogical conclusions. When I bring up something that happens to me & I ask someone about it to get more of an understanding for it, they alway assume I'm paranoid.........that is, until they experience it themselves, which makes me think they just don't respect my judgement.

Example: a girl at work who use to talk to me all the time simply stops & now always acts b*tchy to me. I asked one guy about it, he said I was just paraniod & dismissed what I said as rediculous. I ask two other people & they completely agreed because they experienced the same thing. So clearly I wasn't paranoid.

Aren't friends suppose to respect and understand your experiences instead of dismissing you as paranoid? Why do people do this?

I see the same problem when one points out discrimination. Your considered paranoid until they experience it too.

Also, I'm the kind of person who doesn't bring up matters unless I know for a fact what I'm experiencing is NOT paranoia or misread so that when I ask someone else about it, I get a clear response. Poeple who are paraniod don't do that, they instead assume and jump to conclusions instead of really observing the problem. Yet, people treat others as paraniod no matter how logical they're being. Seem unfair.

alfa@omeg... - Your probably a coward who's too afraid to think.

Answer 1

People claim paranoia on your part out of fear of the unknown.

What you are basically suggesting when you ask them about it is whether something out of the ordinary is taking place... which generally means something less inherantly predictable and understandable.
Since people are afraid of what they don't understand, the last thing they want is for unpredictable circumstances of a potentially negative nature to be entering into their lives. As such they will try to blot such things out and deny their existence. Naturally if you are trying to tell them that such things are happening in the vicinity, whether it involves them or not, they see it as a potential threat and want to try and convince you that its not actually happening.
Then again, they typically don't want to try and invest the time to convince you that it isn't real... especially when its more of an instinctual reaction than a well-reasoned one.... thus they will typically take the short route of immediately dismissing it as paranoia on your part, and telling you so.

Naturally those who have already experienced it wouldn't be receiving any further disruption by your asking them about it.... but rather the fact that you too had witnessed the same thing as them would reassure them that it was more than just them at risk of the unknown... and moreover that more people experiencing it means more people to come to terms with it and understand it... thus making it less of a threat......... hence why THEY will agree and not cite it as paranoia.


Does that answer your question?

Answer 2

you should find some more understanding friends!!! And get rid of your current ones slowly because like you said they dont respect your experiences.
Because if someone callled me paranoid. I would take that as an insult. I mean it's hurts when your friends say that. I had a friend she used to do drugs a long time ago, she's been sober for 4 years now and everytime she would come to her friends with her life problems they would say that she was being paranoid and that she's on drugs again. And that is just wrong for them to say that. They weren't her true friends. I know how you feel. I know from experience. They should be more supportive instead of saying that you are paranoid and get to the bottom of the situation. Theyre not real friends. And obviously they don't want to be involved with what you want to tell them. You don't need people like that. All that matters is how you feel, you know yourself better than anyone else and you know you are not paranoid.

Answer 3

Hey. People are just people, that's why they are called people.

Maybe you're just asking the wrong people, over and over again.

Its normal for stuff to happen. Its normal to want to understand your life. Its normal for people to throw your problems back in your face to hide their own failure to understand life. Its normal to not understand life. Many people do this because they have an irrational fear that they will get a reputation for being inferior if they tell anyone they don't know the answers. That's paranoia !!!

Social situations are complex. Some people like to tell lies about others just to see if they can get away with it.
A person who suddenly changes toward you, and not others also, may have been lied to about you. Put a breath mint in your mouth and ask them who told them what you did to offend them so. Ask their friends too.

They won't believe you are innocent, but they will get tired of having to think about it, and they will perhaps find a way to find out the truth.

Never lie. Never shout. Never use or threaten violence.

Answer 4

I don't think you're paranoid, there are just some dumb people who are either not interessted or don't have an answer to your question, so the standard answer for them is; you're paranoid.
Therefore, remember those and don't even bother to ask anymore questions. Real friends should respect each others opinions, even though they might not agree, at least accept your opinion. Let go of the one's that you cannot count on and make new friends. Some friendships only last one season, you learn from it and go on.

Answer 5

ur friends don't want to hear your problems man and telling you that your paranoid is an easy way to get out of it and you need stop thinking that your that important that anyone outside your head gives a f'''u...c'''k... about your judgment. ur probably a winer

Answer 6

oh reading all this made me sleepy