2006-11-03 05:50:53 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
NO NO NO!
Your life is just beginning as an adult at 18 and believe me when I tell you this, because i married for the first time at 19.
You and your partner will change and want different things out of life most likely, and you are far to young to know who you will be and what you will be like at 21 or 25 years old. You need to have a good time, go to college/or get a job and be with friends, before you commit yourself to a life focused on another person.
2006-11-03 06:47:51 · answer #1 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO NO NO!!! You are so young and have so much living to do. You have so much ahead of you that you don't even realize yet. Some things you need to experience as a single woman! Are you going to college, there's a whole experience right there. You didn't even turn 21 yet (and even if you were, I'd tell you the same thing). Being 21 and going out as a single woman is something you should be able to do for a little while! I realize that you are probably in love... but look at the end of it... how many relationships have you had to compare this to?? You should have other relationships, good and bad to teach you what's right for you what is not. I will tell you, I'm 31 and getting married in a few months. In the past 10 years, I've been proposed to twice. The first time I said yes ( I was 22) and changed my mind about 5 weeks later. I went on to have some bad and some wonderful experiences that taught me what love could be and what it shouldn't be. As for the second proposal, I flat out said no because I knew he wasn't the one. Not that I'm "old", but I've lived and "been around block". Please let me tell you from experience, don't do it yet. Please wait, at least a couple more years.
2006-11-04 16:12:26 · answer #2 · answered by Sue A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No....you shouldn't. I am not saying break up...you can be engaged forever...What is the rush in getting married? You should not plan a wedding yet. You would be so surprised at how much your life is going to change from age 18 to 23 and so on. I am 23 so I know. I was in a long-term relationship when I was 18 and it ended up not lasting. Getting married is a big deal and something that you should really just do once. Plus getting married is costly and getting a divorce is even more expensive. My friend whom is 23 is going through a divorce. It is not fun. Just wait. You all may never break up and that would be great but seriously what is the rush in getting married??? I hope this helps!! have fun!!
2006-11-03 11:37:17 · answer #3 · answered by jennthack02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself a couple questions? 1) Am I truely IN love with this person 2) Can I see myself growing old with him 3) Am I done dating 4) Is there a lot I still want to do with out him. Answer those questions and you will know if you are ready to get married. I strongly feel some people are ready to marry at 18 and others are not ready until there like 24. It is not the age that matters it is the person that matters.
2006-11-03 09:23:37 · answer #4 · answered by young mom of two 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I must say that I didn't read any of the other posts. With that, the fact that you are asking this question online..says it all!! I am currently 19 and planning my wedding, however my FI and I talked about getting married when I was 18. You should not need anyone to tell you if you are ready to get married or not. I can not imagine myself with anyone else, nor would I want to be with anyone else. I love my FI so much and can not wait to start the next stages of our life together. When in fact, you have no doubts about getting married, then and only the are you ready to get married. NO one can tell you when your ready to get married. You will know. Be smart!
2006-11-05 12:03:43 · answer #5 · answered by just wondering 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont see why not. if you are in love with each other than yes and if you want to spend the rest of your lives together. If your doing it for other reasons like you have a baby together or on the way than no or if he asked you and you want to stay with him but are afraid hell leave you instead of wait til your ready than no. but sometimes all of your dreams and goals can be achieved when you have someone there to stand by your side and together you will find that you can go through life the same way as if you werent married because now you will be a team and when you want to go to college or something he will be there as your teamate helping the two of you go down the path that you want to as a married couple. age aint nothing but a number. ha ha ever heard that before. oh and dont feel like or let anyone tell you that if you have to ask if you should get married then you shouldt because that is not true. I am twentyfive and got married last year when I was 24 and oh my god did i ask myself that question all the time. am i too young, are we gonna last etc. that is all normal. enjoy that you have been blessed with someone who loves you enough to want to spend the rest of their life with you and do what is best for you.
2006-11-03 06:48:10 · answer #6 · answered by mamamia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why be in a hurry? Trust me, I waited a long time. I met my now-husband when we were 16, but we waited until we were all the way through college, then waited until we both got started in our careers and then married after that! We were very patient but glad we waited. We both grew as people and as it turned out, we grew in a way that made us closer and more mature. If you are afraid of growing apart if you don't get married right now, then you should really question getting married at all. I guess what I am saying is that there is really no reason to hurry, but there are many reasons to wait.
2006-11-03 07:41:32 · answer #7 · answered by CincyJen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are ready then yes, but take your time to know this person. i got engaged at 18 and married at 23. we figured out that we wanted to get married after we got our degrees. we both changed as we went through college. however we adapted and grew together even more.
personally my in-laws got married at 18 and have been together for 26 years, so it can work either way.
2006-11-06 05:52:08 · answer #8 · answered by Jenn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, just don't do it, wait till you are in your late 20's or so. love at first site can end very quick and you don't want to do that. finish college and get a great career don't make any mistake to get married now. to early. you need to find out some advice from your parents and family.
2006-11-03 07:03:20 · answer #9 · answered by Nattiedred 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first wife was 18 when we got married. When I remarried, it was to someone who was a lot more mature, and her age had a lot to do with it. I'm not saying that you're not ready for marriage, but you really should examine yourself and your partner before you do it.
2006-11-03 10:53:20 · answer #10 · answered by czekoskwigel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋