hey guys: as i write this i'm beginning to cry! i know this whole thing is my fault and nobody elses. i've been seeing this guy for 3 months and all he and i have been doing is having sex! i can't believe i would bring myself so low. i really like him and have never felt this way about anyone and thought that maybe he felt the same! he's a sleek man.. he's also our local mail man so i have to see him everyday since i work in an office... he always comes to talk to me (sweetly) asking how i feel and all that balony... today, he came in and told us he was going to a party and he'd be off for 4 days... that cut like a knife cuz i know he's not going to spend those days with me! i just wish i could make him disappear.. my feeling of anger came about yesterday when he was walking around with another female. he took a lot ofdays off already last week. is he avoiding his emotions? i've decided to stop having sex with him.... how can i move on? we work together. help its killing me!
2006-11-03 05:22:37 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Prime example of why you shouldn't have sex with co-workers.
As you stated you kind of brought this on yourself. At least you recognize the situation for what it is. This was a casual relationship. You have to come to grips that this guy is only interested in conquering tail, and not looking for relationships. Probably given the chance, he will attempt to sleep with the whole office. Consider yourself lucky, you didn't try to make this loser your boyfriend so you would feel even worse.
Pay back? Warn other girls in the office.
2006-11-03 06:08:11 · answer #1 · answered by www.treasuretrooper.com/186861 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he's avoiding his emotions. The fact is, he is not emotionally connected to you in the first place. You two were just having sex- nothing more. However, you developed feelings for him while he did not develop them for you. The best thing to do is to stop sleeping with him and move on with your life.
It's apparent that he didn't want to have a relationship with you. I know that because he has not taken you out on a date (dinner, movie, dancing, etc., etc.).
I suggest you date the next guy a few times before you decide to sleep with him. That way, the intentions of both parties will be clearly outlined. When you jumped in the bed with him without demanding anything, not even a lunch date, you set the tone of the "relationship" (if it can be called a relationship).
Oh, and if you work in an office and he's a mail carrier, you don't work together.
2006-11-03 14:10:05 · answer #2 · answered by Cool-K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1 you don't work together. He is a mailman that delivers stuff to your office. You know what time he comes-disappear. This is not a relationship and it will not become one. Move on, start looking elsewhere. It is sex. If you like the sex, keep seeing him, but use a condom. If you want more than sex, stop being there when he is. You won't die, life will go on, believe me. If he becomes a problem, request another mail carrier.
2006-11-03 14:17:14 · answer #3 · answered by IndyGirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have just learned lesson no. 1 in dating: Never date someone on the job. If your relationship sucks you'll still have to deal with that individual. Second lesson is not to date someone in your neighborhood, just in case they make an *** out of themselves and want to thwart every date you have in the future.
Okay, you've learned the lesson, now disengage your emotions and the feelings that you brought onto yourself by allowing your body to lead the relationship. Imagine, men who date women by flaunting their money feel the same way when the woman takes his cash and leaves him on the dance floor. But they learn and hopefully keep their money in their pockets the next time.
Same for you. Let a man get to know you first, become friends then lovers with any man of your future. In that way he has a lot of work to do before getting into your intimate space and you'll know he cares for you the woman not the sex object.
2006-11-03 14:16:44 · answer #4 · answered by gravelgertiesgems 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe u learned not to have sex before you get into a committed relationship? There is nothing you can do but tough it out.
2006-11-03 14:05:43 · answer #5 · answered by Kelli T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's an a s s h o l e and he doesn't care about you in any way. Forget about him. Don't answer his calls, don't flirt with him. When you see him give him the cold shoulder and pretend it never happened.
Men like that are scum and don't deserve your attention.
2006-11-03 14:06:47 · answer #6 · answered by Niko 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess all you can really do is learn from this experience.
Don't give yourself up to someone who you THINK might feel the same about you. Give yourself up to your future husband.
2006-11-03 14:06:00 · answer #7 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋