I need to find some good ways to deal with anger while I am busy and need to accomplish many tasks during the day. Try to keep the answers positive, Do Not include things like: Sex, drugs, alcohol, cussing, or sleep. I am aware that I choose how I wish to feel and have had extensive Psych therapy, have even taken group therapy, still I end up throwing a fit. I do wish to get past this. I consider myself a very good hearted person , I really do love life- its just my temper flares real quick , but burns out fast too. Some people are really good at pressing my buttons. People who are extremly selfish, inconsiderate and narrow minded. Yes, I am married to him. He has good qualities too-I do love him-we all have our bad sides. I digress. Need to control my anger. Help. Thanks for your time.
2006-11-03 04:56:02 · 4 answers · asked by LoveMyLife 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Working on your anger issue is really hard. The best way I can advise to deal with it is to just simply walk away or if it is mostly your spouse, maybe counseling for both of you is in order. My husband used to really push my buttons. Once he "thinks" he is no longer getting a reaction, it should mellow out. I have been with my spouse for almost 20 years and it took me a long time to figure that out. I decided when I was 33 (I am now 41)that I was not going to live like that anymore. Most of the time my "buttons get pushed" is when he has had a few drinks and starts to be a complete idiot. My spouse is also selfish, inconsiderate and so narrowminded he refuses to try to educate himself on certain issues. That is his choice and if you think you can change someone else, you know that won't happen. Change comes from within and it looks like you are trying for that goal. Asking others is fine, but going into depth requires a good friend that is near you every day and has the patience to listen and not give the advice for you to leave your spouse. GOOD LUCK.
PS. I do not believe in venting to others on the internet as I have seen it make people dwell and hold anger. The people that I know that have done that get more angry, more often. Yes, you could have an allie, but that allie could be in worse shape than you and will hold you back from advancing your progress. Once they stopped and spoke w/ true friends and layed off the IM ing and other avenues on the net, they did calm down and make a lot of progress.
2006-11-07 22:43:36 · answer #1 · answered by Deborah S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I placed my Samuri sword via a window. (which most effective resulted in me buying the window and reglazing it myself) I used to punch partitions. Now whilst ever I get irritated I try to cast off myself from the predicament that's making me irritated. I placed on meditation tune, I love to run to the haystacks an punch the hell out of the hay :) I had a fairly unhealthy anger predicament however i will be able to flip the anger into an option energy supply whilst i must hold going.
2016-09-01 06:37:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Writing a song or poem that expresses your anger. It seems like a lot of musicians do that. Here's a link to a list of angry songs http://www.wanderlist.com/angrysongs
2006-11-06 04:05:09 · answer #3 · answered by Chris H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋