What is an appropriate age for a first date?

Question

My daughter is a mature girl.Almost 13 is she old enoght to go on a date?

I know the gy.They have been friends for about 8 years now.

Answer 1

i am pretty sure your daughter is a mature girl ........my daughter is 12 years old and she is like a little woman she respects and handles responsibility like no other 12 year old i have ever seen now heres the thing even if you trust your daughter there at an age that is so wanting to explore and they think that things are so simple because they see every one else do it and nothing bad happens what they don't see is whats behind the curtains there way of thinking is still to immature when it comes to the opposite sex ..........what i have been doing with my daughter is i talk to her about boys and sex and periods and how you get pregnant ......i am not only her mother but her friend ...............you should start by doing that if you already haven't share some of your heart brake experiences with her ..............then when she turns 15 years old she can go on a date with her guy friend ............but for now i think its best that when they see each other it be around people other friends at home while you are there you know don't just take her and lock her up in a room but keep your eyes open while he visits your home

Answer 2

I am 21 years old, and I started dating when I was 12 years old. I have always been considered a mature and responsible person, and my mother trusted me not to make a poor decision. I started dating my fiance when I was 13 and he was 15, and seven years later, we are still together and are now engaged. I haven't done anything stupid by dating at such an age, and I am in college and have no children, and I don't smoke, drink or party. Since my mother knew that I was mature and responsible, she thought that at age 13, I was old enough to start dating.

In contrast, however, my younger sister (who is now 18), was very irresponisble regarding boys and had a new boyfriend every hour (or so it seemed). My mother knew that she could get herself into compromising situations if she went out with boys at an early age, so she wasn't allowed to date until age 16, and even then my mother tried to avoid letting her go out because she knew how irresponsible my sister is. Even now at age 18, it still seems as if she is too immature to date.

Basically, the appropiate age to start dating really depends on the child. If you know that your daughter is a responsible, mature young lady, then sure, 13 is old enough to let her start dating (especially since you know the boy she wants to go out with). If she were anything like my sister, however, I would totally recommend locking her up until she turns 18 (just kidding :) ).

There are a lot of things in my life that I regret doing although at the time I thought I knew it all. Dating at age 13, however, was not one of those things. I knew all about the diseases and disadvantages of having sex before I started dating, so I was fully aware of what I was up against. By having an open, trusting relationship with my mother, she was able to tell that I wasn't going to get myself pregnant or get a disease. Looking back at age 21, I would now realize if my mom and I had made a mistake, but I can't see any reason why that would be true. I have spent the last seven years of my life growing up and getting to know the man that I am going to marry after graduating college. If my mother had not trusted me at age 12 and had mad me wait until I was 16 or 17, I might have lost the chance to be with the man that I will soon call my husband.

Answer 3

14 or 15

Answer 4

16

Answer 5

HECK NO! ARE YOU CRAZY? 13 AND READY TO DATE?!!!!
MY MOTHER WOULD NEVER APPROVE OF WHAT YOU JUST SAID/ ASKED!
WHAT KIND OF MOTHER WOULD YOU BE IF SOMETHING HAPPENED TO YOUR INNOCENT 13 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER, WHO PROBABLY ISN'T EVEN OUT OF THE 8TH GRADE YET?

AND WHO WOULD SHE BE DATING? I'M SORRY, BUT BE REAL, WOULD YOU LET YOUR 11 YEAR OLD DATE? BETTER YET, WOULD YOU LET YOUR 11 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER GO TO A KISS CONCERT? HECK NO YOU WOULDN'T....

I'm understanding about the fact that she may be mature in most ways, but what about when she no longer wants to date that guy that was all so nice, but he wants to date her? Dating can be dangerous! And you as a mother should know these things!
And what about her letting go of a date that she really likes, but you know that he isn't right for her? Her 13 year old mind can't process what your meaning is.... then she'll start sneaking out to
see this guy... Then what? All of this un needed trouble because
you wanted to let your little 13 year old date?
But the big picture is... She cannot process the things that we adults can, she doesn't have the "date" mind yet. Tell her to wait.
But what you have to think about is some young guy trying to sleep with her and take advantage of her.... think about your 13 year old having sex...

would you still let her date?

Answer 6

Age has nothing to do with their maturity. I'd have to say 13 is awfully young to be dating, even today. How about they go out with friends (more than one) to the movies or something? Dating implies kissing, holding hands, petting, and other more advanced stuff a kid at 13 shouldn't be experiencing. Do you want that? You can treat her as mature in other ways at home. Don't give her license to be grown up when she isn't.

Answer 7

I don't think there is an appropriate age for dating. I think once they're sophomores in HS that's when they can start dating. I don't care how mature she is, she's still in middle school. 13 is entirely too early.

You say that they've been friends for 8 years, that would mean since they were 5. LOL. That's not a good argument. They're too young...bottom line.

Answer 8

My mother didn't allow me to date one on one until I was 16. Before then it was always group functions and there almost always was an adult somewhere around, whether it be in the next movie theater or at the mall.

My step daughters mother started letting her date at 13, since her mother felt she was mature enough to handle it my step-daughter thought that to mean she was mature enough to have sex too, which she did.

They are only young and innocent once, there's really no need to get them grown up too soon regardless of how mature they appear to be or are.

I know you feel it makes it easier for you too since you've known the boy for so long, trust her, but also keep a close watch on her.

Answer 9

According to most state laws, she is too young to even stay by herself at home without a parent and you ask if she's old enough to date? Are you in a hurry to be a grand parent?

She should wait until she is 16 or 17, when she is old enough to drive away and protect herself if attacked. Right now she is at the mercy of anyone who would want to do whatever. Further, she probably doesn't have the sense to say "No" if the question of having sex ever came up.

She is still a kid. Let her be one.

Answer 10

The new trend is to go out in groups of friends!
I would say no! Sixteen is the earliest. Explain this and
they will understand. Question How do u want your
daughter to turn out, everything needs to be done in
a timeline. Would u give a six year old matches?
Thirteen is way to young, whats next sex by 15?