Feeling empty and lost?

Question

I recently broke up with someone, and am in the middle of healing and get used to not hearing from him. I went out and partied but it only makes me feel mroe empty and everything looks so silly. Would I be able to go back to normal state of mind? I seem to think about my ex so much, although we are not going back together. What is the best thing to do?

Answer 1

It takes time but the pain will go away.

Answer 2

Think of a breakup this way: you're one step closer to the one you're meant to be with." There are few things in life that are harder on a person than the time when they realize that the love they have worked so hard at, and spent so much time on, is finally over. For some, this realization is a complete shock and for others, they have seen the writing on the wall for some time now.There isn't a sure-fire way to mend a broken heart but there are definitely things you can to do to make it feel a bit lighter and ready for new love. First, allow yourself to feel what you need to and take all the time in the world to get over the person. For some people it may only take a few weeks to move on and others years. However long it takes, be okay with that. You can't live your life in the past, waiting for a second chance to do things differently. Doing so is only taking you away from experiencing things that could be better. Don't be scared to give love another try.So, you've found out that Mr. or Miss Right isn't the soul mate you've always dreamed about. Now what? The period of loss and pain doesn't have to extend on to an eternity of what ifs. After spending a few days wallowing in self-pity, you'll probably want to start making a few steps towards life after love. To help ease this transition, try a few of the following ideas.Letting loose on your emotions is a quick and self-healing way to recover from incidents of loss and pain. This is especially true of keeping a journal. Make a commitment to write for at least a few minutes every day.Keep your mind busy with new information. Whether you decide to learn a new word or how to do something new on your computer, it will help you keep moving forward instead of looking back.Get yourself out and about with a 20 to 30 minute walk. Just the constant, repetitive motion of moving your legs one after another is enough to help you put things in perspective.Just because you are not attached to someone doesn't mean you can't enjoy going out. Think of it as a chance to go to all the places you've always wanted to go.Maybe there is something you've always wanted to learn how to do. Now is the perfect opportunity to develop it! Try anything from bicycling, joining a walking club, sewing, bodyboarding or surfing, learning how to watercolor, or cooking.Best Wishes

Answer 3

Yes you will be ok. Right now it feels like the end of the world. That's normal and I'm sorry you are going thru this. You have to stay as busy as possible. Be kind to yourself; you are going thru a hard time.

Pick a hobby/hobbies you used to do but got too busy. Socialize with friends via the phone, going out or internet. Maybe there are Yahoo Groups on breaking up and you can search + join a few.

Sometimes you can be friends with an ex and a phone call helps. Other times (most) people just disconnect all together. I know how you feel and have been there. Right now I'm still getting over the death of my family.

Anyway throughout our life, we all go thru pain. Guess we are supposed to learn from this; what doesn't kill ya makes ya stronger type of mentality. You might be a highly sensitive person.

Once when an exgirlfriend broke up with me (on the night I came back from Europe) I was so crushed. Took two years to get over her.
Felt like I would never meet someone. That's when I enrolled in a larger University and meeting hundreds of people helped. But what really helped me was being platonic friends with a woman in one of my classes.

We both enjoyed spending a year hiking and visiting places. It was a great way to get over someone. We were both honest to each other and I knew she was looking to get married young. So I kept it platonic.

Please take care of yourself-you are special!

Answer 4

It will be a year on Nov.6 since I broke up with my BF of 6 years. I have seen him a few times since then and I have gone out and partied, gone to bars and clubs. If anything, that seems to make it worse. I would go and dance with guys and flirt and all of that and go home alone. It seems that I still feel this way after a year and I think that's its different for everyone. But I still get lonely.
I think the best thing to do would just to make sure you spend as much time as you can with friends and family and fill your time with activities. Maybe even in that time you will be able to find someone that you like and end up dating! That's what I'm hoping for! :)

Answer 5

My G/F just broke up with me like 2 days ago, she has actually broken up with me before and we always get back together but this time I'm sure its the end. Besides you can only take so much, even a guy. The best thing to do is find people to talk with and have them hear you out. Talking is what works best for me, at the moment I have no one to tell about my pain because I live in San Diego and all my friends and family live in Texas. The only who listens to me is my best friend, my pug. Good luck Sweetie, hope you feel comfort in knowing other people out there share your feelings. Cheer up we will find the right person. Even guys hurt.

Answer 6

A breakup is never an easy thing. Time heals all wounds.
You must do things to get past this feeling. Going out to party
tends to make me feel more empty because you dont have
that person to dance with or whatever.

First of all, make sure to take a couple days and properly mourn the loss of your relationship.... cry... get mad.... or whatever.

Then get a hobby and everytime you think of this person.....
do something else. Eventually, it will fade.

Good Luck

Answer 7

everyone is saying the same thing....and they're all right...time heals everything. we have ALL been there and no how hard it is. The first time I had to go through a breakup I thought NOBODY knew how bad i felt, i wanted to die. And it lasted a very very very long time. it's been over a year and somedays it still bothers me. Once you meet someone else the pain will start to go away and you'll open up to new people. and you'll slowly start to forget and be able to move on
(((hug)))

Answer 8

seems like you only concentrating on one thing is your loniness and your ex. Time will make things better. Usually during this time you get all depressed and gain alot of weight so just try to do better things with your time. When i was lonely no matter how bad i felt i would go to the movies and go eat out even by myself. Try to be with funny people or family and friends. Make you tim fun, watch funny movies and shows on t.v. humor yourself. Go shopping, to the salon look good and be more confident in yourself.

Answer 9

What you need to do is ask Jesus to heal you and move on. No one can heal a broken heart but the Lord. Healing is a process and you have to give yourself time to heal. Take time out for your self and find out with the Lord what kind of man you want. You wouldn't want to end up in the same kind of relationship you just got out of. Our hearts are very tender and we need to treat our hearts with care. It's up to us to do that and you do have that ability in yourself to do that. So read the Bible every day and let God began to minister to your heart. Start with the book of John and read that all the way through. Always remember that you are special and that God made you fearfully and wonderfully made. God bless you.

Answer 10

Honestly? - find a time frame to mourne the loss of this relationship... Mark a day on your calendar that says, this is the last day I will feel sorry for myself. After that day has come, this is when you tell yourself that what happened was for the best and he was NOT in your best interest! It's amazing how mind over matter can work if you stop feeling sorry for yourself!

Answer 11

its hard when you have love for someone to not think about them all the time when you are no longer together.....everyone who has been in a loving realtionship and lost someone can understand this, but it will take time,,,going out and partying should not be a hard thing for you...that is the most important time right now for you...you need to get out and experience new things,,,im not saying go have sex with people, but flirt...have fun/....the most unhealthy thing to do is sit home and think of your ex it will put you in a depressive state of mind,,,,and please hang in there, it will take time but you will survive! good luck sweetie!