I'm currently dating someone, let's call them Person A, and I really care about them. But there's the issue with someone else, Person B, whom I fell in love with and still care about. We were never really together, but we both knew we liked each other. I care about them both and they both care about me, but neither of them knows about the other. I know it's really bad and I already feel bad about it so please don't scold me. I just want advice as to what I should do. Please help me.
2006-11-03 03:43:28 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are unable to let go of your feelings for person B, despite having met and spending so much time with person A, then I think person B is who your heart really wants.
2006-11-03 03:46:52 · answer #1 · answered by lunachick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know that love is hard especially when there are deep emotions involved. You already know who you want to be with. You just have to be honest with yourself and do what you know is right. It's wrong to date 2 women at 1 time because eventually love is gonna come in and you have two women who love you. 1st of all, you need to be honest with both women and let the woman decide if she wants to be with you or not. You owe her that much. She has a right to decide if she wants to stay with you. You can't decide that for her. 2ndly, you stated that you only care about Person A but you love Person B. What does that tell you? Love is so much important than just caring for someone. I think if either woman really love you then she will be able to forgive you after the hurt and pain she will want to still be with you if she truly loves you. I hope it all works out for you.
2006-11-03 11:54:23 · answer #2 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to do ANYTHING at the moment and you shouldn't feel bad. Feelings have a way of messing up your head. Although great to experience, they can ruin a good thing. Just sit back back and enjoy the time you spend with both of them. If they find out, be honest and truthful, don't lie!!! Just don't be a wussy and get clingy with either one. If you get in trouble, don't call or contact them for several days, go away and they'll wonder why you haven't called and want you back. Main thing, enjoy being with both until you want to take either relationship to the next level, like marriage but there's no hurry for that.
2006-11-03 11:59:50 · answer #3 · answered by GUS_92126 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am was so in your position to, but i'm married already. So if anybody should be scoulded it should be me. I didn't mess around on my husband or anything, but i had chances and not to lie i also had thoughts to cheat with the other person. So my advice would be that If you really care about Person A you should let him go, because you are in love with someone else. Love is a strong word, and you said you fell in love with Person B, so let Person A go.
2006-11-03 11:56:22 · answer #4 · answered by Crystal H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you only really care about person A) as a friend.
Take some alone time and whom ever you think about the most is the one that has your heart.
Don't see each person continually or you will get confused big time.
Then frustration will hit.
Good Luck man.
Your Khat ;)
2006-11-03 11:49:28 · answer #5 · answered by Khat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to pick one fast before they find out about each other. If they do find out about each other then you might end up losing both. Maybe you should try writing a down a list of both pos and neg about each and see what you like more.
2006-11-03 11:46:51 · answer #6 · answered by TroubleRose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never tell them about this, its your problem and if you tell thenyou have lost both of them. Now if you want to brag about it, ask a question here....good going...now what are you going to do, by the way people can love more that one person in this life
2006-11-03 11:47:20 · answer #7 · answered by dave m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it may be you have to choose there is no way around it. If you dont choose sooner or later they are going to find out about eachother and you might end up with neither. So listen to your heart and pick one and then yes like everyone says stick to it. Goodluck!
2006-11-03 11:52:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to look at their past track records. How they have both treated you. Invision your future and see which one you can see yourself with long term. Not just lust, but true love. Unfortunatly you will probably ruin it with the one you don't chose, so make sure you are doing this based on your head and heart and not lower.
2006-11-03 11:47:21 · answer #9 · answered by ELL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you don't want to hurt them u will tell them and don't wait for them to find out for themself cause it will be a big problem and u might loose both if you don't come clean with the truth also they might think that you are useing them. i know it will hurt when you tell tem but the truth have to come out sometimes. if you were a man you will tell them what going on and don't want to be a player
2006-11-03 11:51:23 · answer #10 · answered by adelaide 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋