Peopl have so little respect for marriage these days!! I am only 28 and want to get married but am so worried that I will marry the wrong person. I dont believe in divorce and believe it to be a sin.
2006-11-03 03:41:26 · 114 answers · asked by Fox Hunter 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Why is everyone saying they have been abused, Why did you get married in the first place
2006-11-03 03:48:48 · update #1
Nope
2006-11-03 03:42:53 · answer #1 · answered by beau0021 3 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Hello Hari,
People can divorce if the other person has committed adultery. Otherwise marriage is for life. However God is forgiving and will not condemn someone for divorce as it is not the unforgivable sin.
I think for you to worry to much at this stage will hold you back from getting married though Hari. You can't know what the future holds anything could happen. But marriage shouldn't be done unless you really want to be with this person for the rest of your life. It's a commitment though good and bad. But i really think that the bad bits make the good bits even better.
I hope you find someone that is in basic agreement on the important things with you. And that you are foremost friends first and can have a really good laugh. xx
2006-11-03 04:14:41 · answer #2 · answered by : 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't believe divorce is a sin. I think that the institution of marriage is, in most cases today, looked at as a scapegoat- like people saying that if it doesn't work, there is always divorce. But there are instances where divorce is the only option.
A few examples to prove my point: Yes there is abuse and in most instances, the other person doesn't see the abusive behavior until AFTER they are married. Abusers, for the most part, keep that hidden when they are dating. Trust me on this, I've seen it a number of times.
There is also the instance of adultry. Would you want to stay with someone who is cheating on you? I wouldn't. That just spreads disease and mistrust in the other person.
Then there is child abuse- in whatever form it may take. I know I wouldn't want to be with someone if they were hurting my children in any way.
Then there is the religious aspect of things. It would be hard to be married to someone who didn't respect what I believed. Yes, it can work, but both parties have to be considerate of others.
Unhappiness is another issue. If one party is totally unhappy with the marriage and can't see themselves staying in it, then why make them? It's better to be alone then with someone who would rather not be with you.
There is also the issue of the husband providing for the family. My mom is divorced. Got divorced when she had 4 kids under the age of 5. My biological father was not supporting us and was putting blame on everyone else for his job losses. She couldn't take it and told him to leave. She opened a day care in our home to support us. We are much better off without him. I know that sounds harsh, but he was very emotionally abusive to my mom, and would have been to us as we grew up. I was very glad that she divorced him. She met a wonderful man a year later and they got married and he adopted all four of us kids. He is my father and I know that he was meant to be my father.
I also have many friends who have gotten divorced, or are in the process of divorce. Each situation is different and in most cases, the women aren't the problem.
It's great to think about marriage the way you do, that divorce isn't an option, but just think about if you were stuck with someone who ended up not loving you, how would you feel?
2006-11-03 04:24:11 · answer #3 · answered by odd duck 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do I believe divorce is a sin?
Well I don't believe in sin
But if I did believe in sin I would find it a sin that people would stay in a marriage even after it had gotten to the point of being poisonous to them and those near them.
It's great when people grow together, it is not when they live only to cause more misery to each other because they think its a sin to divorce. I ought to know, I went through a marriage like that.
2006-11-03 05:44:40 · answer #4 · answered by Black Dragon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my case, I was in fact abused and have the police reports. Before I was married to my ex-husband he was not that way, I trusted him. He changed the very day we were married.
I don't think divorce is a sin when a person goes through an abusive relationship, nor is it a sin to get a divorce because of adultery.
I agree that there seems to be too much divorce, but there are also things (like the examples I gave), that change a marriage and make it unbearable to stay in the relationship. Adultery and Abuse are also in the Bible.
2006-11-03 04:45:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think it is a sin to get divorced under certain circumstances. Say abuse for example. Most cases of abuse don't show their face until after the marriage, sometimes long after. I don't know anyone in their right mind that would deliberately marry someone who abuses them. Whether it be the stress of the marriage, job or what, these negative actions don't really show until it's too late. God does not want anyone to stay in a union that is harmful in any way. Now just to get divorced just because, or you find someone better, I feel that is a sin.
2006-11-03 04:26:06 · answer #6 · answered by june clever 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who's told you it's a sin? That is just a fearful belief started by crankyreligious groups, to keep you under their thumb. They tells you that things are sinful and that you will get punished by God or whoever, just so that they can control you...by fear and guilt trips. Not a good way to live.
No, divorce is not a sin. Why persevere with an unhappy and loveless marriage, just because some religious nut says you will burn in hell if you get divorced? Admittedly, it gets debased in our culture and people just use it to get out of marriages they shouldn't have entered, in the first place. But marriages are like home-assembly kits - you work at them. If you really make an effort in your marriage, but it doesn't work out for you, then there is no harm or sin in getting a divorce.
All you would be saying is " Okay, this didn't work out. I hold my hands up and admit I made a mistake, but I now have the opportunity to move on in my life, and find a relationship where we are both happy. " You will still have learned valuable life lessons, and no God is going to punish you for undergoing those experiences.
2006-11-03 05:21:25 · answer #7 · answered by The Global Geezer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think divorce is a sin. A sin is to stay married after realizing you've married the "wrong person". Another sin could be choosing the "wrong person", but since in most cases all we do when we married is like playing the lottery, hoping for the best, i think is safe to say we all are sinners in that regard. In the other hand, looking at the meaning of the word sin i always wonder why people have to mix religious fantasies with real life problems. Since it can't be proved that any imaginary god has any thing to do with man limited realities, i believe we should try ours best and be respomsable for any mistake we make, and try to make a better decition next time.
2006-11-05 08:56:14 · answer #8 · answered by Simon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is not a sin, its a lifesaver. when things are so bad that death seems a wonderful thing and you have no hope left. If you have the strength to walk away and end that life with a certain person who takes away all the things that make you what you are and leave you as an empty shell ,then you have commited not a sin but a wonderful achievement you should be proud of.
You should not judge people without knowing the truth's they sometimes hide.
2006-11-07 01:45:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm... the problem is that many people see marriage as just an upgrade from a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship. They think that they can easily get out of marriage and that one do not need the other in his/her life.
They need to know that family and having kids is the REASON to marriage. But of course love is the CAUSE of marriage. When they understand that they have a responsibility, that men and women have different "assignments" in a marriage as agreed by both husband and wife, then marriage would be "stabil" and each can remind one another of their responsibility.
And I don't think divorce is a sin, because in some cases divorce is the only way to solve a conflict between two hateful people. Divorce can only be used in a relationship that has no other way to solve its problems.
2006-11-05 10:09:02 · answer #10 · answered by farhansallehin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think it is a sin - that's rather harsh. I think it is unfortunate. People divorce for many reasons, and not just that decided they "married the wrong person". How trivial you make it sound.
If you are afraid of choosing the wrong person, then don't get married. Or let others decide for you - like your church, or your parents. Or whoever it was that gave you the "belief" that it is a sin.
Sorry - but I think that all or nothing attitude is why people divorce in the first place.
2006-11-03 03:51:26 · answer #11 · answered by firehorsetwo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋