Why do men sometimes never call back or contact a woman again?

Question

I know a man that I had a magic moment with. I mean, it happened on more than one occassion that we had the opportunity to be in each other's presence. We just froze and stared at each other, just like in the movies. I have never felt such strong chemistry with another man. We spoke, and he told me to contact him. I did. But then I found out he was married. He never even responded to my e-mails or telephone calls. A friend told me that perhaps he thought it over, and did not want to trust himself to even be in my presence. Could this be a simple reason? I assumed that if he was interested that something must be wrong with his marriage. He can't be happily married, do you think?

I am not going bother this man again. I don't like being rejected. But I just have never had a man literally run to me, freeze in his steps, etc., etc., and just never respond.

I just want to know what on earth makes a man behave like this in the first place? What should I do if I ever see him again?

Answer 1

first things first, if this guy is married, then thats where the problem is. you know sometimes it happens with most men, they meet this lovely lady and they like her instantly. to tell you the truth, emotions and feelings would have overriden reason in this instance and you end up trying to hook up with that lady. some may end up doing the wort case scenario, that is having sex with that lady on the same day but some of them will just give or take contact details like this guy did to you.

and then when they leave you, just because you are no longer there, reason start to dominate feelings and emotions once more and the guy would decide that the most reasonable thing to do will not to cheat on their partners or wifes so he will decide to not contact you anymore to avoid any future problems.

but i dont think that he has problems in his marriage, its only that he found you surprisingly beautiful and attractive and found you irresistable. so i advise you to just forget about this man and just pretend nothing happened

Answer 2

He is married ... forget him ... if he was unhappy, he would have called you.

Maybe you are good looking ... thats why he stopped .. that does not mean he wants to leave his wife ... your friend is just trying to make you fell better, probably because you keep bleating on about this guy.

If you see him again the best thing to do is calm down ... he is probably getting high off the attention the way you girls usually do...

and as for being rejected ... welcome to our world ... I think this should happen to all women at least once ... maybe you will be nicer next time you turn a guy down.

All that has happened here is role reversal .. he got your attention .. suckered you in ... and was not really interested ..

c'mon .. how many times do you girls do that ... ego trip.


Dr BAd
(the realistic agony aunt is back)

Answer 3

if the chemistry was there between you there is a good chance this man is not happily married, but even so people with rocky marriages sort it out or stay together for guilt or loads of reasons. try not to think about it you'll only do your own head in. your better than to be ignored im sure. put it down to a loss and find the chemistry with someone else. you will eventually. good luck babe.x

Answer 4

I'm sorry to break it for you, but it seems only You experienced the magic moment. In the past I had an affair with a married man and it lasted almost a year. He made the first step and I fell for his charm. We had great moments together but it wasn't worth it my feelings. This of course I realised afterwards, when he decided to end everything just because his wife started to get suspicious. He got scared, which obviously meant that he was not so into me as I thought. Married men like the thought of having an affair with a sexy lady, but not many of them would sacrify their marriages. So don't waste your time and emotions for a love rat. It's not worth it!

Answer 5

Just because someone is married doesn't stop them being attracted to someone else.....you don't stop fancying other people for the rest of your life!
The fact that this man asked you to contact him and is now not responding should tell you that he has given it some thought and is not willing to risk his marriage........although I am sure that you would much prefer to think that he can't trust himself in your presence!!!
Just hope you end up marrying a man that is not willing to betray his wife at every given opportunity ...

Answer 6

Wouldn't it be better now just to find a man who is in the same situation as you and not one who is already spoken for?

If he behaved like this with you when he already has a woman then he could do the same thing to you later on. I spect he is just oversexed and has monkey glands. You need to keep away from men like that innit

Answer 7

don't bother luv....you'll always be the "other woman" not worth it..forget him....find someone single who's honest, if you go with him, he's bound to cheat on you at some point, also if he has a family this could break their hearts if they ever got to find out...steer clear of the married ones....they'll never truly be yours....if he hasn't contacted you then this is good, don't be put in a situation that you may not get out of

Answer 8

thing is it happens! men or women - not as if us men havent been given false numbers or email addresses in the past. Chances are that you were a good option at the time - sux i know but thats how some people think!

Answer 9

You have to face the possibility that he did not feel the same way.

He is married and by not contacting you is being noble and doing the right thing.

Maybe he lost your number.

Answer 10

It means that he is being loyal to his wife, leave the man alone, he is not interested in you. Sometimes you do meet people with whom you connect, but he is obviously happy where he is and does not want to break up his relationship.