she acted calm cool and collective.
2006-11-03 02:33:32 · 31 answers · asked by john 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the guy wont talk to her anymore and she wont file a report
2006-11-03 02:38:23 · update #1
im a guy and it was my gf, you dont know her like i do, she lies all the time
2006-11-03 02:49:10 · update #2
Maybe it wasn't rape? No one acts that way after a rape!
2006-11-03 02:36:22 · answer #1 · answered by Gerry 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Seriously dude. You can't put a "normal reaction test" to being raped.
Only a person who has been raped would know the answer. And each rape victim is going to behave differently.
Rape is not the same as other violent crimes, but it is a violent crime.
Sometimes after rape a person can go into shock, they can seem extremely cool and collective, they don't always cry, they don't always scream, they are in shock that "this is happening" they almost detach from it. I'm just saying cool and collective are not evidences she was not raped.
2006-11-03 10:41:13 · answer #2 · answered by The Teacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, being raped is a serious thing, and women deal with these tragedies in many different ways. If she acted in that way, then that is how she felt more comfortable dealing with it, I don't think it is common practice for a rape victim to advertise to everyone that she was violated...Being raped myself, I did not tell many people for years. It's one of the most horrific and humiliating experiences anyone can go through, and everyone deals the best way they can, no one should push or invade in anyone's trauma. Be patient and don't judge!
2006-11-03 10:41:56 · answer #3 · answered by earthstarlatin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were raped I'd be screaming my head off that night!
But....if your talking about your sweetie, she very well may be in shock (hence, the calm cool and collective.) Encourage her to go to the emergancy room and do a "Rape Kit" to collect DNA evidence (can be done up to 48 hours afterwards......but the sooner the better.)
Take a deep breath, this is a sucky situation.
Many Blessings.
2006-11-03 10:37:52 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh... yeah... you see.. rape victims don't act calm cool and collective. You shouldn't feel guilty about breaking up with her, if you want to be her friend and be their for her thats cool, but if you don't believe that she was raped, then you can't trust her. Whether thats on her or on you doesn't matter at this point. You feel betrayed, and when it comes to her, you always will. Unless you are willing to invest alot of time in relationship counseling, its best to move on.
2006-11-03 10:40:48 · answer #5 · answered by three6ty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell the police AND my boyfriend right away.
I'm getting the feeling she might not have been raped, maybe temptation got the best of her, and she doesn't want to lose you.
You should have a long talk with her and tell her to report it to the police so they can catch this guy, if it really happened that is.
2006-11-03 10:37:57 · answer #6 · answered by These Fights 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never tell him. Why? because it will only add salt to an injury.My guy loves me so much and it will only hurt him the more to realise that someone out there just had a taste of his sweet apple and i know for sure that things will never be the same again. Follow my advice. DONT TELL. Good luck.
2006-11-03 10:46:21 · answer #7 · answered by Charles T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she was not raped but she had sex with someone else willingly. i would not have waited till the next morning to tell my boyfriend but as soon as possible.
if you are in a relationship you have to trust your partner to help you in every way possible. And how on earth can she remain cool and collective if she were raped??
2006-11-03 10:41:38 · answer #8 · answered by trushka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, and I would expect him to be kind, understanding, protective, supporttive - NOT like you seem to be.
Are you implying that because she isn't dropping down on her knees, coming apart at the seams and falling to pieces that she is somewhat ACCEPTING of the CRIME that was PERPETRATED upon her UNWILLINGLY?
People react to tragedies in hundreds of different ways - and they are all correct - for them. She may be calm, cool, and collective, but being so probably SAVED HER LIFE in that situation!
How would YOU feel if YOU were the one to be RAPED and she was the one who came to Yahoo Answers with such a statement?
2006-11-03 10:40:59 · answer #9 · answered by pahtygrrl 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
its hard to admitt that you were raped believe me i know.it all depends how u handle things.i didnt tell anyone about my case the kid that did it to me ended up saying something to my cousin about how he had "slept" with me and wen she confronted me about it i let loose.i didnt even tell my best friend about it she had to hear it from her mom b/c my mom told her.then she told my boyfriend at the time and i was so ashamed of myself that i broke it off and it almost killed me but then he called me up and made everything better.even to this day it is still hard for me to talk to my bf about it without breaking down.she could have cheated on u and didnt want u to know so she made up a lie.i dont see how anyone could be so calm about something as serious as being raped.i closed myself off and didnt want anything to do with anyone after it happened to me.its been little over a year since its happened to me and i am still scared to be alone with a guy that i dont know very well.hell im even scared of stating alone with my own step-dad.u arent calm about something like that im sorry!
2006-11-03 12:47:54 · answer #10 · answered by ~ ★ ~Soulja Girl~ ★ ~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I think I would tell my boyfriend. At first it maybe I would be a little shaky and not want to talk to anyone, but if there was one person in the world I would want to comfort me it would prolly be my man or my mother.
2006-11-03 10:40:58 · answer #11 · answered by c_69_2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋