How should i feel?

Question

Allright ive asked a question here before and got good answers im going to be more specific this time. I met my bf in the beginning of january and now we are living together. When i met him he stayed in contact with a lot of the woman he used to talk to but there is two in particular that come to my mind. One is a girl that he has slept with twice over three years in between his relationships and another one is one that he told she was beautiful and wanted her under his christmas tree. He continued to talk to the last one and do cam conference with her after we were together. He has stopped now but i had to ask him to stop and i feel that he should have stopped if he was happy with me. How should i feel about this is it really no big deal as he makes it out or is it something that should bother me
Thank you

Answer 1

Let it go. You asked him to stop and he did. Don't invent some new drama to drive him crazy.

Answer 2

I think you should talk to him about it to clear it our of your system. B/c it seems as though you are bringing up old stuff and if thats the only thing you can continoously think about you probably have a pretty good guy. Honestly guys are stupid and they dont comprehend what would make a women upset they do it and find out later. So just explain how you feel get it out take a deep breath and move on!

Answer 3

I will make this as brief as possible. If you don't get over the past, you will never have a present, this makes the future impossible. (Food for thought)
Maybe the reason for his ongoing conversations with this woman was because you said nothing sooner. Still, if he loves you, that should not have happened, but, unfortunately, we all make bad judgement calls and/or mistakes sometimes. Possibly he has learned from this one.

In my opinion, I don't think you should feed this thought, but, if you have future issues with either of the women or new ones, you may need to question his love for you. I hope this helps. Be blessed. (If you worry and nothing happens, you have worried for nothing; if you worry and it is of valid concern, you have worried twice)

Answer 4

If you trust him then you should not expect him to simply dump old friends, it is most unfair of you.

Aside from which, he will probably keep in contact clandestinely.

I would not be dictated to by a partner who told me not to speak to people I have known for years, equally I would be faithful to said partner.

If you have this sort of doubt I would question whether you have a relationship at all - after all they are based on trust.

Answer 5

Some times [guys and girls] have problems letting go things. Does he love you? Does he treat you like he does? If it's really over, and they have REALLY stopped talking, I think it's fine. I mean, the fact that he did stop talking to them for you shows alot. yeah, maybe you had to ask, but still....he did stop. That takes alot.

Answer 6

Personally i would definitely be bothered by it!!! These are females dat he clearly had, had feelings for throughout the years so i would say u have a reason to be bothered by it..... It gives u a sense of insecurity dont it? it's a big deal.... not real big but big enuff.

Answer 7

He stopped when you asked him. Yeah, it was probably wrong of him to do in the first place, but he heeded your desire. What more can he do? You've got to get over it, now. Granting forgiveness is much more difficult than saying I'm sorry.

Answer 8

that is a huge deal!

he is a good old fashion player and is trying to keep something on the side so if you and him fight he has a side dish he can us to take care of him

tell him that there shall be no more side dishes or there will be no more main course and if dose not like leave his sorry but! ~¿Ô

Answer 9

You feel what you feel. Feelings are not logical. But why not let it go, instead of making yourself unhappy. My Mom says, "Don't borrow trouble." Can you put your energy into doing something to make yourself happy, or doing something together that may make you both happy and closer?

Answer 10

if he is definately cheeting, then worry. you are the one who goes to bed with him at night. but you cant help the way you feel, so just calmly talk to him, and try to have him see the shoe on the other foot. ask him if he would like it if you did these things with other men.