People keep telling me to get away from them and stop blaming the men. I understand that I should leave if I don't like how I'm being treated. But doesn't the person who knowingly hurts me have to answer for anything? What kind of sick person plays around with somebody's mind and heart?
2006-11-03 02:21:04 · 9 answers · asked by charleston chew 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes he is responsible for his actions ---- if you allow him to keep acting in this way then he will never change --- he will never change unless he wants to and makes the effort
but allowing him to keep doing this becomes your problem ---- leave if you dont want to be abused any more --- he will either seek to change or another victim
2006-11-03 02:27:30 · answer #1 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is at fault for his actions in abusing you and at first your had no fault in this. But letting this go on it has become something of your own making for not getting out of the situation. Respect your body and mind and do not let anyone abuse you in any manner. How you treat yourself is how others will treat you. If you stay in an abusive situation you are in fact stating it is ok for you to be abused. If you leave at the first instance of it the abuser may stop if he wants to be with you. If not then move on to the next person. Don’t get tangled in a web that will pass on to your children. Your girls will think it is normal to be abused and your boys will think it is normal to abuse. You don’t want that so let yourself respect yourself so others can respect you too.â¥
2006-11-03 23:46:28 · answer #2 · answered by # one 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abuse is not your fault dont ever blame yourself, obviously the person that is abusing you needs help and you need to get out and find someone who will treat you with respect
2006-11-03 10:25:44 · answer #3 · answered by onehotmama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why ,if you have any kind of self esteem, would you permit anyone to violate you mentally? Guys who do that are only one step away from physical abuse. Care must be taken. Walk away now while you can still walk. Find a guy, and there are plenty, who appreciates you. One who can respect you. One who can accept you with all your shortcomings. (And brother do we have some big ones.) Got to love yourself before you can love others. Luck
2006-11-03 10:31:28 · answer #4 · answered by Jayme C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the person, or persons that do the abusing are very much to blame.. mental abusers know just what to say and when to say it to get what they want.. they really, literally, mess with your mind. they screw up your self-esteem to make you feel like you are so lucky just to have them in your life. they use humiliation and degradation to help them accomplish their goals.. these people who are telling you that it's your fault are just plain ignorant and have no clue whatsoever what it's like to be at the mercy of an abuser.. or maybe they themselves are abusers too.. mental abusers are really sick people..
2006-11-03 10:56:53 · answer #5 · answered by lady T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone should take responsibility for their own actions, but unfortunately, most don't. Since you are responsible for yourself, take action to leave. He may never own up to his side, and that is the sucky reality of the situation and life.
2006-11-03 10:25:38 · answer #6 · answered by noambition 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would like to know i am going through the same thing
2006-11-03 10:26:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are RESPONSIBLE for your own HAPPINESS. If you don't like what he is doing to you LEAVE.
2006-11-03 10:28:49 · answer #8 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not all your fault, but you are the one that allows it to continue
2006-11-03 10:26:08 · answer #9 · answered by SHE HATE ME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋