What should I do about my absences from school? I do not want to lose credit.?

Question

Hello everyone, this is a serious problem and I need a good answer.

I have this nervousness problem, so sometimes I wake up and feel nauseous from the nervousness. My mom calls me in sick when I ask her.

She knows I have this nervousness problem...I know some deep breathing exercises, and other remedies, and they sometimes work.

Anyway, marking period 2 just started and I already missed 9 or 10 days. In the handbook, it says that 20 absences during a full year, or 10 absences in a semester will result in loss of credit fo the student.

I am getting A's and B's so far, and am very proud of that...but now I fear that I will pass the 20 absence mark for the year, or 10 absence mark for the semester.

What should I do about this? I DO NOT plan on retaking the course, even if they say I lost credit.

Best answer gets 10 points, and I need good helpful answers.

Thank you!

Answer 1

The same type of thing happened to me my senior year. I was an honor roll student with many AP classes. I suffered from anxiety/depression problems which made it impossible for me to ever get to school on time. My school's policy was that you were issued a detention every 3rd time you were marked late. I had dozens of them. Being late all the time was embarrassing and it added to the anxiety. I stayed home a lot to avoid more embarrassment and being "punished" for my lateness with even more detentions.

Over the course of the year, I had accumulated over 30 absences (limit was 20) and many were unexcused. No one had said anything to me about it until we were a few weeks away from graduation. I was then told I would not be able to graduate and that if I wanted to, I needed to file some sort of appeal for a review board. I threw a fit, threatened my guidance counselor that I would drop out (not recommended) and put in for the appeal. The board accepted my appeal based on my good grades and the fact that I participated in many activities. I'm not saying that it's a solution, just that you should be able to appeal any decision that is made to hold you back or take away credit if it comes to that. You may not be as lucky as I was.

I would think that being able to provide a doctor's note should excuse some absences but that's usually only good for days that you have an actual doctor's appointment. You may even want to look into getting some sort of letter from a doctor that explains the situation and what you're doing about it. Also, see if you can set up a meeting with a guidance counselor involving your mom to try to work something out before it's too late. The guidance counselor may know how to get around this if you have a medical/mental health problem that's keeping you from getting to school, especially if your grades are still good. Do it as soon as possible.

I don't know the story behind your nervousness problem but it sounds like you are either not taking any medication or else it's not working the way it should. I'm not saying you have an anxiety disorder, just that it sounds like one. This is a problem that may follow you for years if you don't do something about it soon. I suggest you find professional help that works for you. Breathing exercises are great IF THEY WORK and it sounds like this isn't really working well for you right now. My mother did not want to believe that I needed anti-anxiety meds so I was never seen by a doctor. The result was that I almost dropped out of high school, I did drop out of college and I've had a hard time keeping a steady job because of lateness or being "absent". I am only seeking help now (I'm 28) and I wish I had been able to deal with this earlier because my life would have been a lot easier!

Answer 2

I have the same problem. Since the age of 4 my mom continuously took me to the doctors for stomach problems, and all it is, is stress. I had problems all through school, and still have problems as an adult. But, you've got to get this under control better, because the real world will not tolerate your mother calling in sick for work.
First things first, before going to bed, make a list of things to do the next day so it's not bugging you at night.
Keep water and saltine crackers by your bed side. So that first thing in the morning you can take a few minutes to drink and eat while still lying in bed. This well help with the nausea 75% of the time.
When it comes to actual school work, talk to the teacher (with your mom if possible) and explain the situation, if they don't want to work with you, then get a doctors note that excuses those absense medically. They cannot use it against you at that point. If they do, then you can go to the principal, school board, etc...
Good Luck!

Answer 3

If you're in high school, all you need to do is bring in a medical note to the office that explains your situation, and you should be fine. The same thing goes for college, but you give the note to your professor. It really does help if you let your profrossers/teachers know about your condition; this way, they'd be more sympathetic instead of thinking that you're just ditching class.

Answer 4

Is your nervousness problem documented by a doctor?? If it is then the school can not do anything as long as you inform your professors about it at the begining of the semester (or in this case as soon as possible). With a documented medical excuse, the professors can not deduct from your grade or penalize you.

Answer 5

Yep i remember final year i neglected like 4 days without delivering my excuses and the counselor pulled me from type and to her workplace to get a observe to grant to my mothers and fathers asserting if i dont turn in my excuses i will would desire to bypass to court. I had a chum who neglected a ton of days 10th grade year and he didnt get his credit so he became categorized as a 10th grader 11th grade year even tho he became taking 11th grade classes.

Answer 6

if possible- get ur teachers numbers and call them to fax u the hw and work u've missed.
Make up all the work u have missed, and try to get over the nervousness by talking to someone about it.

Answer 7

you need to get over this, you are obviously bright, and missing school is going to hurt you.

i missed too many days in one class and had to take it over again...even though i had sat through almost the entire semester. it sucks, but attendence rules are still rules.

you are going to school for an education, so being there is the most important part. you need to try to determine what it is about school that makes it hard for you to go, and deal with that issue.

it might be hard, but it's either go to school and deal with it, or fail or be withdrawn for missing too many days